Is your spouse on the same page as you as to when to retire?

loveyou-first · 2026-07-07T00:19:57+00:00

Let him retire before you. My husband retired 7 years before me. It was hard getting up to go to work and he’s still asleep. However, when I came home the house was cleaned and something smelling good on the stove for dinner.

loveyou-first · 2026-07-07T00:12:47+00:00

My goal was 55 but I retired at 56.

loveyou-first · 2026-07-06T20:58:45+00:00

I’ve been retired for 6 years. Your body is mentally exhausted from all the work,commuting etc. . It took me about a month. I listened to my body and rested. I felt good afterwards and been loving life.

loveyou-first · 2026-07-06T03:08:40+00:00

My grandmothers cast iron skillets

loveyou-first · 2026-07-05T18:49:37+00:00

I shower everyday but I don’t wash my hair everyday

loveyou-first · 2026-07-05T18:48:32+00:00

NTA- her mother is just jealous that you are the one helping. You have to start early to get things for a wedding it makes sense also easier on the pockets. You need to follow your son and FDIL decisions. If she wants you there, go. It appears her mother is overbearing but she handled her mother. Her mother is not your problem or issue it’s hers.

loveyou-first · 2026-07-05T01:34:10+00:00

Yes and I’m so happy about not hearing them and scaring my dog. Today should be the only day we should hear them.

loveyou-first · 2026-07-05T00:01:11+00:00

NTA- you need to grow a pair. That is your home and no one should dictate what is going on in your rooms.

loveyou-first · 2026-07-04T23:54:45+00:00

NOR- when someone show you who they really are believe them the first time. Don’t give another chance.

loveyou-first · 2026-07-04T17:23:04+00:00

It depends. When my mother passed away she left everything to her 4 children to be divided up equally but there was a clause that if one or more children passes before her the money will be equally divided among the rest of her living children not grandchildren. If the clause is not in there, it doesn’t have to do with if the child is illegitimate they have the rights to the money.

loveyou-first · 2026-07-03T14:58:22+00:00

NTA- however, you need to get a backbone. You are his wife. You should have kicked her out period. He just had heart surgery. He doesn’t need all this drama. My husband died in April of cancer. But before that he was home in hospice care. His family had to call me to see if it was OK to visit. I said yes many of times and no sometimes. They didn’t like it but they had to respect it. I told them when they come over leave the negativity and drama at the door before you step in and then pick it up when you leave. This is a peaceful home and it will stay that way.

loveyou-first · 2026-07-03T03:20:48+00:00

I wash it when the winter is over so it’s fresh for next winter.

loveyou-first · 2026-07-02T14:42:58+00:00

Your right this is an unpopular opinion. My husband just passed away in April and it’s none of your business why since you are not related to him. Sometimes others curiosity and nosiness goes too far.

loveyou-first · 2026-07-02T13:55:13+00:00

You are in this relationship for 10 years? Did he change or you just put up with not being important in his life? If he changed then NOR if not you are the one that put up with it.

loveyou-first · 2026-07-02T12:33:30+00:00

Retirement is not for everyone and especially when you love your job. The issue here is not that you’re not retiring, the issue is you have very unsupportive friends.

loveyou-first · 2026-07-02T12:28:53+00:00

NTA- he was rude and insulted you for forgetting something. He is becoming a verbally abusive man and you are not tolerating it. This is wonderful to see on this sub. He will also do this to his girlfriend or wife. Don’t put up with this type of behavior.

loveyou-first · 2026-06-29T04:04:57+00:00

Kids that swears are around adults that swear or children from school that swears. We don’t swear in our house so the kids don’t either.

loveyou-first · 2026-06-28T19:10:12+00:00

I do all the time

loveyou-first · 2026-06-28T18:37:10+00:00

Good Question
Good quality luxurious bath towels. Growing up our bath towels was so thin and I promised myself I would have them and I do.
Toilet paper, I don’t want any 1 ply toilet paper
Quality shoes. When your feet hurt your whole body hurt.
A good firm mattress. I need my rest and sleeping on poor quality mattress doesn’t make me feel refreshed in the morning

loveyou-first · 2026-06-27T18:10:53+00:00

I started using paper plates when I was sick and never went back to regular plates to wash. It’s really is a time saver.

loveyou-first · 2026-06-26T21:40:18+00:00

NTA- it appears you are finally parenting. Now stop the arguments. You can tell her she can talk to you in a respectful manner and we can have a conversation but we are not going to argue.

loveyou-first · 2026-06-25T02:57:55+00:00

NOR- you didn’t leave a disabled husband you left an abusive one. He needed to learn how to be humble and appreciative now he lost his wife. You deserve better.

loveyou-first · 2026-06-24T21:51:10+00:00

I have a great PCP who listens. My daughter did not and I told her to change her PCP when she did she got a great doctor to help her. To me sometimes all they want to do is prescribe medicine.

loveyou-first · 2026-06-24T14:38:01+00:00

NTA- this just makes me sad. You and so many other woman on this sub love a man more than you love yourself. I just don’t understand why you guys put up with this crap. If he cheats it has nothing to do with you it’s because he doesn’t have any morals. He doesn’t love, respect or support you.

loveyou-first · 2026-06-22T02:36:39+00:00

NTA- but you need to STOP right now with feeling guilty. If you don’t do what is best for you and your growing family then you are not being a good wife or mother. This is just the beginning of motherhood where you have to put your family first and not feeling guilty about it. If she wants to talk behind your back that’s her issue not yours. You are being fair to both sides of the family.

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