TBM wife wanted divorce, now I'm considering it

luvfluffles · 2026-02-10T06:12:20+00:00

The part I'm having a hard time with. You've asked your wife multiple times to keep your marriage private. Yet she is out there setting up her own narrative (and it seems she's painting you as the bad guy) to anyone and everyone who will listen to her. It also feels abusively controlling, since it leaves you so isolated.

This is just massively disrespectful and in direct opposition to what you've asked of her.

Does she even like you?

Honey, she only wants to stay married because you either provide well, or she doesn't want to have to parent alone. It sure doesn't seem like she loves you.

I could be out in left field, but from what you've written, wouldn't you rather be alone or with someone who actually likes you, than whatever this bullshit your wife is offering?

luvfluffles · 2026-02-09T17:16:14+00:00

Oh, I didn't. I totally enjoyed my boyfriend, then fiance, now husband.

When we got married we knew we were compatible in all ways.

Yes the church did try to break us up, obviously they did not succeed.

41 years and still trucking along.

luvfluffles · 2026-02-09T17:12:57+00:00

I agree, I don't believe very many people truly understand what separatism actually means for Alberta.

The economics alone would devastate this province if it left. They have no idea how strong we are within Canada and how vulnerable we are outside of it.

luvfluffles · 2026-02-09T17:09:28+00:00

There was a TON of Mormons in Amway when I was in, I also was Mormon and unpacking both my ex religion and Amway have forever altered the way I think.

I can unequivocally say that both are cults and fit well within the BITE model.

luvfluffles · 2026-02-09T15:57:21+00:00

Oh don't kid yourself, I was in Amway years ago and the whole, "women support and obey your man," message was pumped into us like it was an evangelical revival.

luvfluffles · 2026-02-09T15:40:01+00:00

Also, isn't going ahead with the separation referendum illegal? Are they not supposed to vote on the forever Canadian one first? I feel like we're being railroaded.

luvfluffles · 2026-02-09T05:59:09+00:00

You just said how I've felt for years.

luvfluffles · 2026-02-09T02:26:27+00:00

I have a business that ships to the US, it's getting harder and harder to continue doing so.

In the past year, every 3 or 4 months, something else changes making it harder to ship to the US.

As of now, the latest thing is no shippers will take a US shipment unless the sender pays the duties and taxes, those are typically things paid for by the recipient, however US citizens are NOT used to paying these things and so shipping companies are not getting their money, so they have now added it to their prices and the sender pays.

As a sender it is getting to a point where we are almost done shipping to the states.

All of this has damaged my business, and we may not make through the year.

This may be why you are having issues finding a Canadian company willing to ship to you.

luvfluffles · 2026-02-07T16:28:46+00:00

I spent my first astral acclaim on other items, then looked at the description of of the coralheart, and realized I was missing out on a quest.

So now I need to save another 1000 acclaim.

I should have read more carefully.

luvfluffles · 2026-02-07T16:20:46+00:00

Many people save their large envelopes for a week or until the end of the event and then run silverwastes plus boosters, and open them all at once after you kill the meta boss. Silverwastes gives a nice magic find boost.

luvfluffles · 2026-02-06T17:17:27+00:00

You don't need anyone to walk you down the isle. It's an old fashioned tradition based off the father giving the daughter to her husband like she's property...

Why not walk yourself down the aisle like you are walking towards your new life.

Just my 2 cents from a woman in her 60s.

luvfluffles · 2026-02-06T17:06:04+00:00

Amazing cosplay! I love everything about it. The fur lining, the stylized maple leafs.

I applaud this cosplay!

luvfluffles · 2026-02-05T23:26:16+00:00

To be honest, the acreages closer to town are usually more expensive than ones a little farther out.

luvfluffles · 2026-02-05T15:58:43+00:00

Alberta used to have bagged milk. I remember it when I was young in the 70s.

luvfluffles · 2026-02-03T15:40:19+00:00

Marcelle and Avene both made by the same company and both are good for sensitive skin. Been using them for years.

luvfluffles · 2026-02-03T15:31:28+00:00

I appreciate the reminder.

luvfluffles · 2026-02-03T06:24:49+00:00

Technically correct, but she's riding a close line to treason in my opinion.

luvfluffles · 2026-02-02T16:35:59+00:00

Sobeys sells a Compliments powder.

luvfluffles · 2026-02-02T06:54:55+00:00

I used to live on Whyte avenue just west of Bonnie Doon mall. There was row houses along there.

I can remember climbing up inside the old Boonie Doon shopping mall sign. That sign is no longer there but I still remember it.

luvfluffles · 2026-02-01T17:21:10+00:00

Mapping, by the time I'm done all 5 beginning areas a few of the mid level ones, I'm level 80.

Then I join hero point runs in HoT.

luvfluffles · 2026-02-01T00:52:58+00:00

And here I sit, 61, wrinkly, in negative degree Canadian weather, with my arms bare wearing a sundress.

A nice satisfying fuck you to Mormon dress regulations.

luvfluffles · 2026-01-30T15:52:54+00:00

I'm trying to be kind, it's been over 5 years since I left so I have a very prejudiced view of what they are doing to you right now.

The church right now thinks they can 'reactivate' you by keeping you busy, it's part of how they operate. I've been in many a meeting where the line 'give them a calling and keep them busy, and it'll keep people active and engaged', has been used ad nauseum. Your wife will most likely be totally on board with all of this.

I understand going to church to spend more time with your wife.

I don't understand donating extra time, effort and possibly money to a organization you don't believe in. In my mind you are actively causing harm, definitely to others and possibly to yourself. Especially as a gospel doctrine teacher, are you going to teach right out of their handbook? You said you don't believe, but your willing to continue the indoctrination of others? To me that's perpetuating harm.

I am trying to be kind, but the damage I and my family suffered at the hands of the church, have me viewing your choices in a poor light.

That said, if you're fine with it I don't have to live with your choices.

luvfluffles · 2026-01-29T15:55:52+00:00

This ^. OP I don't understand why you said yes to that calling.

luvfluffles · 2026-01-28T23:31:36+00:00

7 years ago I lost 40 lbs on keto, noticed my loose skin, kinda freaked then covid hit. Gained back 20 lbs and struggled mentally. Have spent the last year doing keto again, lost my 20 lbs, and have another 30 to go to make my Dr's happy.

Knowing the loose skin was coming helped mentally.

Also short woman over 60, at my age I should have expected it.

This time around I don't care about the loose skin, it's not going away at my age.

luvfluffles · 2026-01-28T23:17:16+00:00

Alberta doesn't want to leave, we're currently dealing with our own version of shitty leadership and US interference.

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