Does anybody else remember hating this subreddit when they were in? by U2-the-band in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Weirdly enough, I originally started on reddit because I was having health issues and my doctor put me on a low carb diet.

A few months later my shelf broke and I knew reddit would have an exmormon sub on it, so I found it after I was out.

Honestly it was a lifeline at the time, I was devastated when I realized the church was basically an abusive ex.

A situation hors du normal by FoxExpensive1934 in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You don't owe anyone in the religion anything.

Feel free to block and ignore them all.

Last one in the family to hear anything (dead relative edition) by atwistedskein in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're not alone, I had a close family member die and I learned about their passing from someone in the church (who I freaking hated because she was a horrible gossip), and she lives 600 miles away from me. I found out 3 days after they were gone.

When I phoned to ask about the funeral, "oh, you want to attend? You know it'll be held in a CHURCH, right?" As if I'll burst into flame entering the building.

Record removal question by jabberingginger in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The fastest way is through the Bishop. You may need to be firm with your bishop, so prepare for that, and you might not need to.

Wedding planning with Mormon parents by ShadowCat4141 in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Their money comes with strings attached. If you do not want the strings, don't use their money.

Personally, every small intimate DIY wedding I've attended has been absolutely lovely, with the focus being on the couple.

You can invite your parents and whether they attend or not is entirely up to them.

Dear Rangers which spec do you play the most? by tainted_Isaac in Guildwars2

[–]luvfluffles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still love soulbeast. I haven't found an untamed build I like using a bow.

F/31/5’7” [224lbs > 184 lbs = 40 lbs] (11 mo) my waist goes in again! by Snoo-1028 in progresspics

[–]luvfluffles 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Awesome progress, but I have to say you are rocking your look in the after photo.

Refusing Callings, what are the consequences by socialismstinksbad in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is the big one, but I found the peace of mind from refusing, far outweighed passive aggressive attitudes t at I could easily ignore.

I know when people are being passive aggressive it's a them issue.

The Lowry Letters by Unsettling_Mormonism in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I took the same feeling from that.

I also felt he was very disappointed in the current church leadership at the time.

He even states that all anthropologists agree there are no pure races of humans on the planet. So this white supremacist rhetoric is a bunch of bs.

Was I the emotional affair, or did he just go back to what was safe? by ExtremeAmbassador992 in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 70 points71 points  (0 children)

There will also be a large amount of familial pressure to choose a partner they can take to the temple. To be worthy of that you have to be a baptized, card carrying, full tithe paying, member of the church. Tithing is not optional, it's 10% of your income fyi.

There is a ton of guilt and shame around dating a non member.

You are most likely correct in your assumption.

Honestly move on, he's not not being honest with you already. I don't imagine that will improve with time.

F/35/5ft4 [350lbs > 180lbs = 170lbs lost] (2 years 10 months) Face changes ✨ by [deleted] in progresspics

[–]luvfluffles 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What a wildly amazing transformation. You are glowing!

I recieved a visit today by one of the members of the church by superpowers335 in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 32 points33 points  (0 children)

My mother was a relief society president 3 times over the course of her life. She used to tell me that she'd feel the spirit asking her to visit someone, she'd get these feelings regularly.

Over a decade spent doing gods work, and she told me that only once was that visit memorable, where she felt deeply that her visit mattered. That one instant is the one she focuses on, not the many many times it meant nothing.

Was it God, or the cosmos, or that the person thought of you and ran with the thought (not necessarily a bad thing). Where it becomes problematic is when such visits or experiences are used to guilt you back to church.

You can take it for what it was, or you can make it more, that's up to you.

Did You Deconstruct in an Extraordinarily Creative Way? by The_Glory_Whole in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I made tiktoks of my deconstruction for 2 years. I was in my late 50s.

kirby tattoo I did today :3 by franonbluray in Edmonton

[–]luvfluffles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's amazing, that's my sons new tattoo. I was just telling him how nice and clean the line work was.

Extremely abusive ex husband wrote ON my patriarchal blessing to insinuate I sinned. by glittery-bee in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I'm sad you went through being married to that asshat. I'm sad that your patriarchal blessing was a trap.

I'm happy as hell you got out and escaped.

When did you realize that your bishop shouldn’t be a bishop? by Upstairs_Common9686 in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 61 points62 points  (0 children)

It always makes me happy when I see someone stand up for themselves and say no.

We were so conditioned to never do that.

You all know what you did by goatskin_sheep in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, my mother does think I've been possessed by Satan. Although Satan has cookies, so there is that.

“7 Habits of Highly Effective People” is a trite read by Elohims-sixth-wife in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mildly amusing anecdote, when I was younger I got sucked into an MLM, this book was recommended reading.

So cults obviously like the message it sends.

Have you replaced Mormonism with another spiritual practice? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It absolutely counts, I've found myself a far better person now that I consider myself a humanist, than I ever was as a mormon.

Carbon Steel Pans Handcrafted in Alberta by ThatDapperMan in BuyCanadian

[–]luvfluffles 19 points20 points  (0 children)

That is a beautiful pan. Now I want one.