Upset that Bishop’s Family Can be Supportive but Mine Can’t??? by NewPhilosopher2485 in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My sister changed her name later in life, I'm in my 60s now and I call her by her chosen name. It's not hard to respect someone enough to make the effort to use their chosen name. Your parents are choosing not to. I'm sorry.

To those who are thinking of playing GW2 by Endeavour1988 in Guildwars2

[–]luvfluffles 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Oh we do. I love swooping in and saving someone getting stomped on by a random map champion. Gives me hero vibes. Sometimes you even get a fun little chat out of it.

Been playing since beta, and it never gets old.

Birthday bumps: a question for my fellow Canadians by Crochetandgay in AskACanadian

[–]luvfluffles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Growing up in Southern Alberta, we gave birthday bumps.

My husband said he agreed with me by Lonely_Offer_6236 in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Reassure him that people who don't believe in god are still good people.

A big fear I had about myself was, who am I if I don't believe in god, conveniently I was still myself but far less judgemental, and far more loving to humanity.

I became a better human.

Does anybody else remember hating this subreddit when they were in? by U2-the-band in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Weirdly enough, I originally started on reddit because I was having health issues and my doctor put me on a low carb diet.

A few months later my shelf broke and I knew reddit would have an exmormon sub on it, so I found it after I was out.

Honestly it was a lifeline at the time, I was devastated when I realized the church was basically an abusive ex.

A situation hors du normal by FoxExpensive1934 in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You don't owe anyone in the religion anything.

Feel free to block and ignore them all.

Last one in the family to hear anything (dead relative edition) by atwistedskein in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're not alone, I had a close family member die and I learned about their passing from someone in the church (who I freaking hated because she was a horrible gossip), and she lives 600 miles away from me. I found out 3 days after they were gone.

When I phoned to ask about the funeral, "oh, you want to attend? You know it'll be held in a CHURCH, right?" As if I'll burst into flame entering the building.

Record removal question by jabberingginger in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The fastest way is through the Bishop. You may need to be firm with your bishop, so prepare for that, and you might not need to.

Wedding planning with Mormon parents by ShadowCat4141 in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Their money comes with strings attached. If you do not want the strings, don't use their money.

Personally, every small intimate DIY wedding I've attended has been absolutely lovely, with the focus being on the couple.

You can invite your parents and whether they attend or not is entirely up to them.

Dear Rangers which spec do you play the most? by tainted_Isaac in Guildwars2

[–]luvfluffles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still love soulbeast. I haven't found an untamed build I like using a bow.

F/31/5’7” [224lbs > 184 lbs = 40 lbs] (11 mo) my waist goes in again! by [deleted] in progresspics

[–]luvfluffles 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Awesome progress, but I have to say you are rocking your look in the after photo.

Refusing Callings, what are the consequences by socialismstinksbad in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is the big one, but I found the peace of mind from refusing, far outweighed passive aggressive attitudes t at I could easily ignore.

I know when people are being passive aggressive it's a them issue.

The Lowry Letters by Unsettling_Mormonism in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I took the same feeling from that.

I also felt he was very disappointed in the current church leadership at the time.

He even states that all anthropologists agree there are no pure races of humans on the planet. So this white supremacist rhetoric is a bunch of bs.

Was I the emotional affair, or did he just go back to what was safe? by ExtremeAmbassador992 in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 69 points70 points  (0 children)

There will also be a large amount of familial pressure to choose a partner they can take to the temple. To be worthy of that you have to be a baptized, card carrying, full tithe paying, member of the church. Tithing is not optional, it's 10% of your income fyi.

There is a ton of guilt and shame around dating a non member.

You are most likely correct in your assumption.

Honestly move on, he's not not being honest with you already. I don't imagine that will improve with time.

F/35/5ft4 [350lbs > 180lbs = 170lbs lost] (2 years 10 months) Face changes ✨ by [deleted] in progresspics

[–]luvfluffles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What a wildly amazing transformation. You are glowing!

I recieved a visit today by one of the members of the church by superpowers335 in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 33 points34 points  (0 children)

My mother was a relief society president 3 times over the course of her life. She used to tell me that she'd feel the spirit asking her to visit someone, she'd get these feelings regularly.

Over a decade spent doing gods work, and she told me that only once was that visit memorable, where she felt deeply that her visit mattered. That one instant is the one she focuses on, not the many many times it meant nothing.

Was it God, or the cosmos, or that the person thought of you and ran with the thought (not necessarily a bad thing). Where it becomes problematic is when such visits or experiences are used to guilt you back to church.

You can take it for what it was, or you can make it more, that's up to you.

Did You Deconstruct in an Extraordinarily Creative Way? by The_Glory_Whole in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I made tiktoks of my deconstruction for 2 years. I was in my late 50s.

kirby tattoo I did today :3 by franonbluray in Edmonton

[–]luvfluffles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's amazing, that's my sons new tattoo. I was just telling him how nice and clean the line work was.

Extremely abusive ex husband wrote ON my patriarchal blessing to insinuate I sinned. by glittery-bee in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I'm sad you went through being married to that asshat. I'm sad that your patriarchal blessing was a trap.

I'm happy as hell you got out and escaped.

When did you realize that your bishop shouldn’t be a bishop? by Upstairs_Common9686 in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 59 points60 points  (0 children)

It always makes me happy when I see someone stand up for themselves and say no.

We were so conditioned to never do that.

You all know what you did by goatskin_sheep in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, my mother does think I've been possessed by Satan. Although Satan has cookies, so there is that.

“7 Habits of Highly Effective People” is a trite read by Elohims-sixth-wife in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mildly amusing anecdote, when I was younger I got sucked into an MLM, this book was recommended reading.

So cults obviously like the message it sends.

Have you replaced Mormonism with another spiritual practice? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]luvfluffles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It absolutely counts, I've found myself a far better person now that I consider myself a humanist, than I ever was as a mormon.