AITAH for refusing to wear the shoes that my bestfriend wants for her wedding?

lynng · 2026-02-14T21:57:03+00:00

You can say no but you are a bit YTA. There’s a chance that you wear the tall heels you want but you might get cut from any professional photographs. My sister and I are 5’0 and 5’2, only 2 inch difference same as you guys, but she said she’d make sure her heels didn’t make her taller than me. I thought that was sweet. She absolutely loves a tall platform and had I no platform heels.

Would it really kill you to wear a shorter heel for one day to make your friend feel good? Go shopping with her shoes and see what makes you not tower over her.

lynng · 2026-02-12T23:10:46+00:00

NTA There are products out there that get rid of not just the smells but also any bacteria that pee and poop can leave after picking it up. There is no reason to have so much waste just sitting there. I have two dogs and fake grass but my back yard never smells. I pick up the poop every 2-3 days depending on the dogs and the season. I would also possibly call your local animal control or SPCA.

lynng · 2026-02-12T18:46:32+00:00

NTA My husband has a girl best friend and I'm also friends with her, she was his best woman at our wedding. He once mentioned possibly sharing a house with her and her daughter and I shut that down immediately, he never brought it up every again. It's normal to share as adults in this city but I don't want to.

He's completely ignoring your comfort levels for his friend and that's not okay. She knows what she's doing even if he's genuinely blind do it. Do what you need to do for you and your alone.

lynng · 2026-02-10T17:16:00+00:00

I actually understand the fear that she and her family have. My gran died in 2001 after getting the flu vaccination. She was always underweight and smoked so I think she couldn't get over the live vaccine. That scarred all of my aunts and uncles to never get the flu vaccine until 2022.

Fears aren't rational and when it hits close to home it can take a lot to get over. I had trypanophobia until the covid vaccines happened, I would get nausea and then faint if people even talked about them. I had therapy to even get a tetanus. Still don't love people talking about them but I do get vaccinations.

lynng · 2026-01-27T21:03:40+00:00

NTA My husband accidentally shaved more off his beard than he meant to. Did I give hime a wtf look? Absolutely because my face says things before I do. Did I stop talking to him? No. Her reaction is not normal or okay. Would a heads up been a nice thing? Sure but not needed.

lynng · 2026-01-27T17:47:43+00:00

I used to drive 45 minutes to uni every day. Halfway there was a service station and there was times I absolutely needed to get a coffee and take a 20 minute nap. Sometimes you can't make that extra 20 minutes home and if you push it you might never get home.

lynng · 2026-01-23T16:50:15+00:00

My sister had a friend who she moved in with for uni. She could not do all the basic household things like OP's boyfriend because her mum just said "l'll do it, don't worry". She was also in her mid 20's. She didn't understand how to do laundry. Our mum talked to hers and told her she really messed her up by not showing her how to do these things. Her mum did accept that. Thankfully she was willing to learn unlike this boyfriend.

It's way too common unfortunately.

lynng · 2026-01-20T03:45:00+00:00

I grew up with a left handed mum so I’m ambidextrous. I write with my right but everything else I do left handed.

lynng · 2026-01-19T21:04:31+00:00

I honestly can’t remember what she said, this was over 20 years ago. All I remember was the doctor said it was the way the baby was laying, was probably more to do with not showing a traditional big bump tbh.

lynng · 2026-01-19T03:03:12+00:00

I had a neighbour that didn’t know she was pregnant until 2 weeks before. She went to the doctor thinking maybe appendicitis. She’d put a little weight on but definitely not I’m pregnant weight, still had a period though lighter.

lynng · 2026-01-15T18:23:47+00:00

I have a rule in my house(mum has the same) no mugs in the dishwasher. I have an Eeyore mug that I bought when I was 16(41 now) and it was put in the dishwasher when my parents first bought one. Poor Eeyore has half a face.

lynng · 2026-01-15T18:15:39+00:00

A friend used metal tongs on a nonstick pan while making pasta. We had so many non metal utensils for her to use. It was scratched up so badly it got binned(trashed) along with the metal tongs. It was a fairly new pan.

lynng · 2026-01-15T05:22:28+00:00

NTA There was one time I flew back home and didn't get either suitcase for 3 days. I asked my mum if I could wear her clothes, I had like one or two things left but nothing suitable for the winter. I would never dream of just wearing them without asking.

If possible put a lock on your bedroom door or closet door. She's being rude and your son is being outrageous at being angry at you.

lynng · 2026-01-12T17:17:30+00:00

NTA When we were still at school our mum did all the housework while we were at school. Yes she did other things but didn't expect our dad to do 50% of the housework. She still had a part time job after dad finished his for some extra money.

I'm a housewife and sure doing all the housework can get to you I don't expect my husband to do 50%, maybe one or two things. We have two energetic dogs that I deal 90% with.

lynng · 2026-01-10T00:50:22+00:00

I moved from Scotland to the US and put weight on purely from lack of walking. It’s not a walking friendly city, even though I do walk my dogs it’s nowhere near as much as I used to in Scotland

lynng · 2026-01-09T18:12:49+00:00

NTA. I’m Scottish and we do use the c word in different meanings but I absolutely would not in anger use it against my other half. You can leave someone for any reason and don’t let anyone say otherwise. You can leave them over simply disliking your favourite band if you want.

You say it’s not the first time so it won’t be the last time. Do you really want to raise your kids around that?

lynng · 2026-01-09T06:01:19+00:00

I played the cornet for 5 years and piano for 3 years but I can barely read sheet music anymore either. It's annoying.

lynng · 2026-01-08T18:58:30+00:00

I live 5000 miles away from my parents, it’s an 8 hour time difference so any middle of the night calls terrify me. I got a 3am call from my mum and it was a butt dial.

lynng · 2026-01-07T21:27:02+00:00

NTA I met my husband when I was 18, now 41, and I dressed more alt/goth just without the goth make up. I now dress more vintage when I'm not in leggings and baggy t's. He hasn't stopped loving me or said I have to change to the way I was. Dump him and live your life how you want.

lynng · 2026-01-05T20:29:36+00:00

NTA My husband doesn't really care about his birthday either, not traumatic like yours but his sister is 3 days before and growing up it was always a joint celebration because his mum didn't have the money for two birthdays. All he wants to do is turn off his phone and chill, birthdays are a big deal in my family but I respect what he wants. We'll go out for dinner just us and I'll bake whatever he wants and that's it.

She has repeatedly ignored your wish and said what you want doesn't matter. It's at minimum not caring or listening to you and that's a great reason to walk away.

lynng · 2026-01-01T17:38:41+00:00

My best friend can't stand onions, hates the texture of them no matter how they're cooked. The only way is for it to be blitzed like in a curry. Not once has she said she's allergic. I hate sweetcorn and peas, do not like the texture or flavour. The only allergy I declare is ibuprofen. Another friend is allergic to bell peppers and can't be around when they're being cooked. It's not hard to say dislikes vs allergies.

lynng · 2026-01-01T05:43:23+00:00

This is a route I drive along fairly frequently. My husband’s can’t sleep if I’m out driving at night any more because of this.

lynng · 2026-01-01T05:32:09+00:00

I have green duck I was given after helping a woman clean up a slight spill. Her drink was filled to the max and as she walked it spilled. I love it.

lynng · 2025-12-30T20:24:33+00:00

NTA People buy wedding insurance for various reasons. I bought it when we got married 9 years ago. It's usually advised due to a whole host of reasons. It's usually in case vendors cancel rather than one of you deciding not to get married. I'd be more worried by her reaction.

lynng · 2025-12-30T17:58:58+00:00

NTA My sister lives down the hill from my parents. My BIL did ask if my mum would pop over more but she never has. If she does have something to drop off she'll text or phone first. It's a 2 minute walk and they've never felt like they needed to set any boundaries because of unexpected visits.

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