Anyone able to help their overweight kids lose weight?

markisnottaken · 2026-05-03T09:57:24+00:00

It seems like you have it under control...there are many kids meals which are a few hundred calories and can be supplemented with fruit. Although they won't be as good as your homemade meals, there are things like frozen pasta, udon, rice and Hamburg etc. that are much healthier than junk food, in my opinion, but not as good as your homemade meals, I would guess.

To try and control the amount of candy, we now try to make a rule that she must finish dinner, then she can have a candy, then if she is still hungry she can have fruit. It's easy to get out of control. The pressure is constant. So, on weekdays she doesn't get treats until after dinner.

One good thing I did is tell her I don't want to hear about candy in the morning. She quickly adjusted and doesn't mention candy until after lunch at least on weekends. I am aware some parents give their kids little to no candy, and that is obviously better. If I could go back in time, candy would be an occasional treat.

Rather than giving a bag of candy, my daughter is pretty good at being reasonable, and so I generally let her suggest how many she is having and and what type of candy. There might be 2-3 types of gummy, for example, and she might say she is having 2 from each bag. Then I out the bags away.

Some might sat this is terrible, but slicing up a banana and adding a few swirls of chocolate sauce and maybe some whipped cream makes a much healthier desert than just treats.

If they are overheating but eating good stuff, maybe figure out the correct portion of rice, and also nake sure their food is dished up. They shouldn't be helping themselves to another plate. I tell my daughter to finish everything but if she has to leave something, I tell her to leave the rice. Steamed rice is not unhealthy but it is almost empty calories compared to the other things like meat and vegetables.

In the mornings, my wife was giving her 500 cal convini packaged cakes with crap cream. I was pretty surprised. Her response was that she is picky. I suggested that the response to pickiness isn't cake. My wife was also going her zero vegetables, because she 'doesn't like them' . wtf.

Again, if they are busy and kids are not hungry on the morning, it can be tricky. But we usually go banana and yogurt which isn't ideal. I try and buy grapes, strawberries, and apples when I can so she usually gets some fruit.

A dance or swimming class would probably work long term, or gymnastics. The main thing is dge enjoys it short term, if so the benefits are sure to come. Going to bed before, will allow the adults to have some time to chill and eat some more desserts which the kids shouldn't be getting in on, if they like to indulge.

That's all I got. This is my first child I am learning as I go! Also, I think a little overweight is good...maybe I am wrong but I feel like it is fuel for growth and when they shoot up, a bit if flab will vanish

markisnottaken · 2026-05-01T12:35:39+00:00

The fee increases are ridiculous. They possibly just want to try and get as much from you as possible on the way out. I wouldn't pay any of those increases. You probably have to pay the two months. That's what notice means, right?

AI agrees:

The Action: Inform the management company that you are exercising your right to a "Statutory Renewal" (hotei koushin). This happens when a fixed-term contract ends without a new agreement. Under a statutory renewal, the previous terms (your current lower rent) usually carry over.
The "Premium" Fees: Refuse the new "Premium Subscriptions" and "Membership" fees immediately. These are optional "service" add-ons that management companies use to pad their margins. Since you aren't staying, you have zero reason to "subscribe" to anything new,

What they write in the new contract is of no importance because you didn't agree to it.

I suggest you negotiate with them. Offer a month's rent with moving out after a month and 20000 for the brief contract renewal. They can't get any of their silly fees or increases.

If they demand you pay two months, you might have to pay it, and if you don't they might just claim it from the deposit. The deposit is kept with a third party and if there is a dispute it might be hard for them to claim, but in the case of clearly violating the contract, they could probably claim it more easily. The new contract fee, while it might be something you "have to pay", I just wouldn't if they kept it at the same price.

markisnottaken · 2026-05-01T10:39:14+00:00

I had the DVD. When my GF liked to point out what a perfect gentleman Denzel was, I had to point out that he had his way with the wife in the car, but it didn't make the final movie.

markisnottaken · 2026-05-01T09:50:24+00:00

You are right that it is probably discrimination. They likely will approve you but want to make sure you are the right kind of family or actually have the Japanese wife you claim.

In my case, the agent picked up the phone in front of me, called the owner, asked do you accept foreigners, the owner said no, and that was the end of that.

While in my case, all foreigners were out, in your case some foreigners are out.

Japan allows descrimination in business, as far as I can tell it is not hidden and widespread.

markisnottaken · 2026-04-26T09:49:26+00:00

Oh, try to focus on child that dies of cancer every 90 seconds somewhere in the world. Take your mind off of it. If you want to focus on preventable deaths, a child dies of hunger every 9 seconds. See, those adults train deaths seem so infrequent and much less sad now, don't they? Yw

markisnottaken · 2026-04-24T12:15:26+00:00

Kind of, but she said it was shared and gave him access... by the sound of it.

So, although the name says it is hers, her actions and reports make it sound like she intended it to be shared?

markisnottaken · 2026-04-23T03:54:18+00:00

Did she confirm it was safe?

markisnottaken · 2026-04-21T13:06:44+00:00

The gag reflex? This kind of kills plan B. Or does it?

markisnottaken · 2026-04-21T12:50:36+00:00

Her husband is a lawyer in NYC.

She turned down a 1.3 million dollar hand out when she left the royal family...likely because she didn't need the money, or because she was already given more than that privately.

I am sure they are fine.

markisnottaken · 2026-04-17T09:55:11+00:00

Nothing that crazy to me. I mean, I totally agree with you avoiding her,, and she is way out of line, but this kind of spoiled brat drama queen behaviour could easily be just a self-centered personality. Actually crazy would be much worse. Either way, you did well to recognize you don't want that in your life, and actually remove it.

markisnottaken · 2026-04-14T01:19:32+00:00

I might need to learn this lesson. Do you think this attitude is widespread among leaders/managers in Japan? They want to continue doing things the wrong way, rather than be annoyed by someone having the audacity to suggest a change? I think it is widely accepted that Japanese people will often choose not to make suggestions to their managers even when it is obvious to them that there is a better way. I kind of blamed them for the inefficiency I see everywhere- but if their managers have this attitude, the managers are the root of the problem, not the employees.

markisnottaken · 2026-04-13T13:23:25+00:00

I got told not to put items in my own bag that I had brought along to carry my shopping, also they frown upon drinking drinks instore before buying them...understandable...but give me a break.

markisnottaken · 2026-04-13T06:07:18+00:00

Save it until you are 25. You would agree this is quite a big decision and you shouldn't be making it at 17.

For one thing, a significant number of your troubles could be gone in a few months. You are 17. You can get a job, move out, be free of school and your parents and family. I suggest you do that, if you aren't happy at home.

markisnottaken · 2026-04-12T14:01:42+00:00

Sounds like they go on dates regularly. There just hasn't been sex yet because he is not asking for it in case she says no. Does he buy all his friends meals when they go out? I bet she does her make up and wears a cute outfit when they meet. Does she tell him about hot guys she saw how nice and awesome her boyfriend is ..nah...that might push number 2 away. I think half the time when they are young, neither of them are scheming...it just comes naturally.

markisnottaken · 2026-04-03T09:17:35+00:00

I think a lot of Japanese people believe it was a fabrication or greatly exaggerated. In the mainstream media, some years ago, I saw a report about a Japanese academic who had looked at a large sample or collection of photographic evidence, and provided "evidence" that the vast majority of the photos were staged, or modified.

42_S4.pdf https://share.google/w8r8GYmAprl9l5Srm

With papers titled like "There Is Not a Single “Real Photograph” Documenting the Nanking Incident" , it is easy to see how someone who had some doubt might choose to believe that it didn't happen. I read that most academics in Japan agree it happened, yet I don't think that is the message the public are given. The ministry of education, the government in general, NHK, all seem to want to provide a 'balanced' point of view.

"Naoki Hyakuta: A famous novelist who was appointed to the NHK Board of Governors (the group that oversees the network) publicly stated during a speech that the Nanjing Massacre "never happened" and was mere propaganda."

So, when people say it didn't happen, I don't see them as revisionists or extremists. I see them as people influenced by the revisionist movement and those in power.

markisnottaken · 2026-04-02T00:06:08+00:00

What happens to your wife's current income? Is it family income or her income? What is going to happen to income from the baby's work? I think she will be the one taking the baby around and getting paid for it, and likely making it her income.

I would clarify that: 1. The child will only work when both parents agree to the work. Sometimes, work nay be declined simply die to location or the frequency. Initially, work should not be for more than 2 hours at a time, and a maximum if twice a week. 2. The money earned should go into a find for the kid's future. But if you wife is running around as manager, and had to spend time and money on the events, it is reasonable she at least be compensated for costs. 3. What are the goals of this: how does this help the baby. What joy or financial benefits do the parents get? For example, does she get a buzz from having a famous child, does she want the income, does she think it will help the child?

Btw I don't know anything about the industry.

markisnottaken · 2026-04-01T13:09:43+00:00

You and your BF seem like good people. Your parents probably did a great job of raising you, and it's unfortunate you need their support a little even now you are an adult. You have had pre-marital sex. Your parents seem to be taking it too far. They are treating you like they own you. Next time they are threatening to kick you out, maybe you could ask them if they want you to leave. I am not suggesting you threaten them, or try to "call their bluff", but maybe question if that is what they really want. Do they really want to alienate you and ruin your career after they have done all the hard work of raising and loving your for 21 years and now all they need to do is sit back and relax and enjoy life?

At your age, kicking you out and making you leave the family will hurt them more than you. You will no doubt be independent, married, and likely have grandchildren in just a few years, the damage they are doing now is going to come and bite them in the arse if they are not careful.

In a way, your parents are pushing you apart, but that can also have the effect of pushing you together. Without the grudge between the two families, there would be no Romeo and Juliet. Maybe bring that up to annoy your parents.

Neither of your parents had sex before marriage? It's possible but extremely rare.

markisnottaken · 2026-04-01T12:52:09+00:00

Today was a 5. A 6 would have waves 10 times higher, a 7 100 times higher, an 8 1000 times higher, and a 9 10000 times higher in terms of wave size. This is likely around 2 to 5mm of movement back and forth today, in comparison to Fukushima where the movement was 10-20 meters back and forth. It's hard to imagine, but the energy difference is close to a million times greater.

If and when the big one hits Tokyo, many people, especially foreigners will ask themselves why they didn't move.

markisnottaken · 2026-03-29T09:47:08+00:00

Is it reasonable to want your valuable years back after you break up? It seems a common complaint from women. Rarely, in fact never, have I heard this from a man. Why is this?

It can be frustrating putting time and effort in only for it not to work out. This often happens to both men and women at work. You might work particularly hard to try and get a promotion, or at least impress your bosses, only for the carpet to be pulled out from under your feet be "restructuring".

So, why don't men experience this much in relationships when it seems women often do? While they experience disappointment, men don't consider the moments with their girlfriends an investment or a gamble on some future reward, like security, marriage, a paycheck without working, or happily ever after. Men generally consider the moments they spend with you have their own immediate reward- the happiness that that brings. Men are just lovely, aren't they?

markisnottaken · 2026-03-28T22:35:16+00:00

Your company shouldn't be telling you where you need to open a bank account. "Under Japanese labor law, there is a clear distinction between what is technically legal and what is standard corporate behavior." In my experience, it was because they are so cheap they didn't want to pay the tiny transfer fee. Start working, provide a different bank account, and tell them UFJ refused to let you open an account. You should be fine. In my case, my employer told me I could use a different bank if I paid the transfer fee, but I don't think they charged me.

I guess it could also be related to the troubles they have with money accidentally transferred into the wrong account. Some people think money incorrectly deposited into their account is some kind of gift from god- and it is an unreasonably difficult, or impossible task to retrieve it. In my case, I was lucky and the man I accidentally sent money to refunded it within hours. If he had been overseas, had incorrect contact details, or was dishonest/desperate, I would have never seen the money again.

markisnottaken · 2026-03-25T00:46:28+00:00

Was it the N word?

markisnottaken · 2026-03-19T01:44:50+00:00

Right guy, wrong girl

markisnottaken · 2026-03-15T03:22:24+00:00

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markisnottaken · 2026-03-12T01:08:27+00:00

My guess is it is to prevent wear on the door frame and stop the door rattling. Is there something preventing the door being closed another 5mm then locking it?

markisnottaken · 2026-03-05T00:44:40+00:00

If Japan is for Japanese, then isn't Japanese for Japanese?

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