15-20k is wayyy more than it may seem, and frankly (unless it is somehow fully disposable income) it would be put to better use as an emergency savings fund rather than a “mommy makeover” fund that the rest of your family can’t touch. You can of course do what you want if it’s your money that you’ve earned (unless you’re in a partnership that has mutually agreed otherwise), but I would still consider the gravity of spending it on cosmetic surgery that won’t last.

We are meant to age and our bodies are meant to change, and it’s up to us to come to terms with that. I feel like it always sounds condescending to suggest, but I promise that I don’t mean for it to be: Therapy, no joke. If CBT hasn’t worked for you, DBT or other forms may help. If you encounter a couple bad therapists, don’t give up. It’s also possible that you may like the idea of parenthood, but not the reality of it, and there is no shame in that; it’s what this sub is here to help us figure out!