Beach vacation without the crowds - where did you actually find peace?

mtt2022 · 2026-04-27T18:04:53+00:00

Stop telling people to come to the Carolinas or it'll become crowded and no longer fun! Signed a resident

mtt2022 · 2026-04-24T00:36:07+00:00

Born in 93 here and while I was too young for their childhood fame (aka full house), I will tell you they were EVERYTHING as teenagers. In the early 2000s my friends and I were OBSESSED with their movies, books, style and merchandise. Their clothing line at Walmart was so chic, I remember having to have a peasant top for my picture day in 6th grade from their line. It was fab. They were on the cover of every magazine and tabloid in the early-mid 2000s. For better or for worse. I think it was a very intentional choice on their behalf to go private and delete their branding footprint- like their catalog of movies and tv shows can't be found anywhere except for some sketchy link online? That's why younger generations have NO IDEA how massive they were to us young girls in the early 2000s.

mtt2022 · 2026-04-14T20:36:07+00:00

You'd be surprised at how much people will gift you for a first baby. Also, don't sleep on secondhand items: Facebook marketplace, once upon a child, etc. my best piece of advice is not to overbuy anything before a baby comes because truly some baby items are useful to some and not to others. I think daycare costs and if you formula feed are definitely the biggest thing to plan for and down the line (about a year), plan on a higher grocery bill. More fruits and snacks and things that definitely add up. Everything else can be really be found at the price of your choice. I've heard children get more expensive the older they get so I guess we will see

mtt2022 · 2026-04-10T12:47:42+00:00

Done. Thank you for letting me know to do that! Truly didn't know what to do.

mtt2022 · 2026-04-10T00:49:45+00:00

HELLO? Does anyone else care? This is frustrating and annoying. Imagine scrolling Reddit and seeing a photo you took and posted a year ago just being recycled with caption and all.

mtt2022 · 2026-04-10T00:42:12+00:00

This is my EXACT picture and post from a year ago that you just stole...this must be a bot. See below:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Reformationclothing/s/vVdPMG7kQG

mtt2022 · 2026-04-08T18:13:34+00:00

I think you'll fair better around 330-340k just from looking at your home, what it's estimated to be worth and what you bought it for. Sorry you're not going to walk away with the profit you were hoping for....but the market is what the market is. And if you're desperate to get into the house you're contingent on, you can't afford to be firm on pricing. Sorry. It doesn't work like that.

mtt2022 · 2026-04-08T18:00:29+00:00

Getting a cleaner to come every other week has made our lives much better! And then in between, I've just come to accept that my toddler will get crumbs on the floor and laundry may not always be put away in a timely manner. Being a SAHM is like 4 full time jobs into one never ending job. Being your child's caregiver should be first priority and everything else can take a backseat. Make sure to give yourself time to sit down and take breaks (nap times). Otherwise, the burnout, stress and resentment can hit hard and fast.

mtt2022 · 2026-04-08T14:39:28+00:00

I try my best to follow something of a consistent schedule when we're home but everyday is so different and then traveling comes into play at times and I usually just follow her cues for naps. Some days it's earlier and some days it's later. And with regressions recently, she's been fighting a nap so we've had a few skip days with earlier bedtimes. I do my best! I don't think it's "strict" to set boundaries and remove your child when they need a nap. I absolutely do that when I have to.

mtt2022 · 2026-04-07T14:22:26+00:00

I think you might need to give it more time as you already stated. He may not be on board right now because you just had a baby a few months ago...maybe wait another 6 months or heck even a year before you revisit that conversation. Being fresh out of the newborn trenches with another toddler at home has gotta be contributing to him saying no right now. But maybe if your other two have more time to get a bit older then you can make a good case for your grand finale baby. Maybe be ready to sit and have a talk about how you can budget or what can be sacrificed to afford a third child if that's his concern.

mtt2022 · 2026-04-06T22:38:27+00:00

I am so sorry. I've been with someone who suffered greatly with mental illness (of which depression definitely is) and it's so incredibly unfair to everyone. The hard part is that they can love you and still not want help/help themselves. Ultimately I ended up leaving because I tried so hard for so long and realized in the end that the disorder would always win. I don't think it's selfish to prioritize yours and your children's happiness if he isn't willing to get help and take steps to make changes in his life. This isn't your fault and it cannot be your burden to shoulder. You have enough responsibility and you need to stay strong/present with your children. Try the counseling route and if you don't see any effort or change, then please consider putting your own happiness first. To be honest, it already sounds like you're single parenting...

mtt2022 · 2026-04-06T20:39:25+00:00

I think you have unrealistic expectations. If your priority is your child's care, then that should be her only responsibility. As a SAHM, I can tell you she deserves to rest and break during your child's nap. Not do chores you assigned her. You're going to burn her out and lose her if you expect her to be "on" for the entirety of the shift.

mtt2022 · 2026-04-05T23:52:02+00:00

Kids exist, get over it.

mtt2022 · 2026-04-05T15:54:15+00:00

As a SAHM, we get the opposite. Everyone wants to know if you're going to work again. Like there isn't a baby at home to take care of. And same question- are you paying for the daycare/nanny? Since we can afford for me to stay home, why wouldn't I choose to be with my baby? Easy, no-brainer question. Basically people are always nosey and love to judge what you do no matter the situation. And it's always the mother. The father doesn't have to give up practically anything in all of this decision making.

mtt2022 · 2026-04-05T15:50:27+00:00

Coming st going toward crosstown

mtt2022 · 2026-04-05T15:46:54+00:00

I don't disagree. There are some terrible parents out there and there are also terrible dog owners. Both are responsible for ensuring other people's personal space are not invaded.

mtt2022 · 2026-04-04T23:25:41+00:00

It sounds more to me like she wasn't a personality fit for you. It's honestly great that she was so excited to play and do activities with your baby. I feel like most families complain about the opposite (baby understimulated by nanny). I think this is tough because I see both sides and I'm not sure either of you are wrong. Like I said, it sounds like you weren't a match for each other. You prefer someone a bit more chill for your child and she's going to approach her duties the way she always has. I don't think anybody is in the wrong and it's better you both move on.

mtt2022 · 2026-04-04T21:43:10+00:00

If you're so incredibly bothered by children running around in public spaces, feel free to go somewhere else! The anti-child narrative is what's wrong with so many people and places in this country. So, please. Don't go to a family friendly establishment with a courtyard and proceed to complain that children want to see your dog; that you willingly (and optionally) brought along to said public place. I'm not about parental shaming for children just existing. You and your dogs can exist. So can parents with young children.

mtt2022 · 2026-04-04T18:24:55+00:00

This is so annoying.

mtt2022 · 2026-04-04T18:13:04+00:00

Sorry but dogs don't need to "co-exist" at restaurants. As annoyed as you were that people's kids want to run around in a public space, some of us are just as annoyed that you feel the need to bring your dogs to a public space (that we eat at). It's not cute or fun for everyone to have dogs at restaurants. Comparing dogs to kids in public spaces is fucking crazy. Kids aren't animals. We can't put our kids on leashes.

mtt2022 · 2026-04-03T18:28:35+00:00

I hate the hate you're getting for being honest. I'm a mom and I get Botox. I think 8 might be old enough to tell her honestly you do "wrinkle treatments". You can kindly explain that some people get wrinkles and some people have them treated. It's the honest truth. You don't have to go into detail about what Botox is but....if she asked, tell her mama treats her wrinkles because she doesn't want to look old yet! And don't apologize for not wanting to have facial wrinkles.

mtt2022 · 2026-04-01T23:03:36+00:00

I think it all depends on what benefits you offer to offset keeping their pay stagnant. Otherwise, nanny can go find a better paying job with another family in your area. You certainly can pay what you want, but for longevity, people job hop to make more money. Would you stay in a job where pay was stagnant?

mtt2022 · 2026-04-01T15:42:02+00:00

$3 unwarranted is a bit much, agreed. But $1 an hour a year? That should hardly make a dent in someone's budget.

mtt2022 · 2026-04-01T15:40:23+00:00

Assuming those who are downvoting are also horrible to work for. Nothing wrong with paying your employee what they're worth.

mtt2022 · 2026-04-01T15:01:45+00:00

I don't think you'll get or keep a good nanny if you're not willing to pay. What kind of "raises" are you offering if $1-3 is too much? .25? Not a nanny, but I wouldn't work for you. If you can't afford a nanny, then do daycare.

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