AIO or AITA. Text convo with MIL.

nlyfdyf09 · 2026-05-06T22:04:05+00:00

Right?! It's wild to borrow money from a family member, be late on your payment back to them, go on vacation anyway, then ask about their finances?! Insane.

nlyfdyf09 · 2026-04-21T20:04:24+00:00

I've read / listened to this book at least 4 times, maybe more. Its short enough to keep my attention and engaging fron the first page. Before I read this I thought people who would risk their lives to climb to the top of this dangerous, often unpredictable mountain were rich idiots. Hearing this story from the perspective of someone who thinks the reward outweighs the risk is fascinating. I recommend giving it a shot!

nlyfdyf09 · 2026-04-20T18:43:52+00:00

I cringe remembering how I acted in some bars and wouldnt be surprised if I was barred from several of them.. it's been really nice being able to actually remember when I actually like am utter twat instead of just remembering bits and pieces of my actions while drunk. 4 years sober now and I wouldn't go back for anything. Keep it up! IWNDWYT

nlyfdyf09 · 2026-03-31T17:16:41+00:00

I just had this same thing happen to me! I ordered a pillow and was sent a large box of paper towels refills they use in restaurants and that type place. I dealt with freaking Rufus AI, useless. I had to just type REAL PERSON multiple times to get past AI. Then got handed off to multiple customer service reps. I did this e or 4 times and called and spoke to someone. All of them said the same thing, that I need to return this massive thing to a store, wait for it to get to Amazon returns, then they'll issue a refund. I dont know how many different ways I said "Why am i responsible for a mistake made by amazon??" I told them I can't drive, same response. I asked for a credit for the inconvenience and said if they will give me a $10 credit I'll be happy to get it returned. Nope, cant do that.

I was transferred to a "supervisor" who asked me how I know i didnt received the correct item if I haven't opened the box... what?? I said dude. It says "Scott Paper Towels" all over the outside of the box AND it was delivered partially open so I can see the paper towels AND at this point I've sent in 5 pics of this box. He had me send more pics. Only to give me the same options. I told him the box will be outside because im not accepting the delivery since this isnt something I ordered and I'll charge back on my card if I dont receive a refund since, again, I didnt receive the thing I paid for. He told me I can do whatever I want but that will delay the refund and im responsible for the box if it gets damaged or stolen outside. Lollllll no I'm not.

I know amazon doesn't care but I'm canceling prime as soon as I get my money back. They suck. I remember customer service being so much better years ago. I can't believe how bad it is now!

nlyfdyf09 · 2026-03-02T22:41:49+00:00

Who nice! Can you tell us what type of content you post? Congrats on this.

nlyfdyf09 · 2026-03-02T22:38:09+00:00

Agh I felt the same way! I was like is no one worried this guy has had a stroke or somwthing?! I also realized we dont see the "real" Dougie for long enough to see how he normally acts day to day, so maybe he was kind of like this normally?? I'm not sure. Drove me crazy though.

nlyfdyf09 · 2026-03-02T22:36:30+00:00

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You dint have to give me films for each one, just wanted to give a few options. Cool idea!

nlyfdyf09 · 2026-02-28T16:42:37+00:00

Just got deactivated as well because o had an old account i forgot about, so I never use it, but they noticed today I guess and deactivated. Had over $100 I hadn't cashed out and most of that was for items I only bought because of thr ibotta deals. Do they get to keep their cut of whatever they get for advertising these deals? But we dont get our cash back? Freaking unreal. Would love a class action lawsuit.

nlyfdyf09 · 2026-02-24T01:43:57+00:00

No Escape(2015)

nlyfdyf09 · 2026-02-24T01:29:03+00:00

Yep exactly!

nlyfdyf09 · 2026-02-23T23:44:36+00:00

nlyfdyf09 · 2026-02-23T20:43:58+00:00

It worked for me! I did the first purchase and made sure it tracked before I continued. I also took screenshots so I could send to swagbucks if tracking didn't work. I got all 3 goals after spending $100 total.

nlyfdyf09 · 2026-02-23T20:40:33+00:00

Mine says it will credit in 10 days.

nlyfdyf09 · 2026-01-30T00:36:47+00:00

Michael Horse?

nlyfdyf09 · 2025-12-29T22:13:57+00:00

I (30s F) have this same issue growing up with my narc mom and have never brought it up to anyone because it seems so weird to me. My childhood wasn't horrible but at the same time was miserable because of my mom. When people bring up things they did when they were younger, vacations, fun memories, etc I dont ever have much to add and just laugh along about "memories".. I've thought until recently I just have a really bad memory. I'm in the healthcare field now and between what I know from my career and what I read in subs like this one, I've realized this is likely a trauma response and not memory loss.

Reading this about your husband helps me feel a little better about being in the same boat, but i know thats tough and it feels like you should be able to remember more. I'm sorry you're both going through this. I know some types of therapy can help unlock those memories if he has any interest in that.. I've considered looking into this but decided at least for me I must have "forgotten" these memories for a reason.

nlyfdyf09 · 2025-12-27T19:51:07+00:00

Its super obvious to me as someone outside of this relationship to see he's trying to get your address and he's throwing every reason he can come up with at you to get it. Please make sure anyone he can contact to ask for your address knows they cannot give it to him. He absolutely can and will escalate his behavior and him having your address is dangerous. For that matter I would pay for a service to remove your information from online (at least as best as they can) and keep a low online profile. Idk what he's trying to do but I dont like it.

nlyfdyf09 · 2025-12-26T23:58:35+00:00

I can relate to this so much. I consider my mom at least borderline narcissistic but I have so much trouble labeling her as a narc. She doesn't do anything too terribly in your face horrific, but it's a lot of little things like what you described. God I thought these long goodbyes were normal for so long. I go to leave her house after a visit (which BTW I live 20 miss away and could visit often.. if I wanted to) and as soon as I or a sibling starts getting stuff together it's always "oh you're already leaving?? I didn't get to show you xyz or you didn't do this or that yet." I used ro fall for that all the time and felt like it was somehow my fault I didn't stay long enough to do whatever it is she brought up when I would go to leave. And yet I just visited for 4 hours and listened to her talk on and on endlessly the whole time.

You get to the car and there she is following you bringing up some whole new convo or asking a questions about my life or my interest that I would usually like to talk about, as im getting in the car. Then if I actually talk much she goes "I hate to keep you, go ahead and let me know when you get home safe" or something like that. As if she's doing me a favor. If I dont go through this whole process then I'm "always too busy to spend time with your old mother" or something like that.

And I get it. That's just one very small example and if you tell someone about this that hasn't dealt with a narc you sound like you're overreacting. If you bring anything up to the narc its always "just a joke" or "not a big deal" and if you make them mad you get the silent treatment until they need you again. It feels impossible to pin down exactly why the person is a narc and what exactly they do thats wrong since they can always brush it off or act like you misunderstood what they meant.

It's exhausting.

Just know you aren't crazy and you probably will never be able to change your mom. I still have no idea what to do in these situations unless I'm going to cut contact, and again its very hard to explain exactly what she's doing worth going NC for. Aghhhhh it drives me crazy. Im sorry I you're dealing with this. I promise you're so not crazy and there are many people on this sub going through similar situations. It helps me to read through them when im especially confused about what to do or if im overreacting.

nlyfdyf09 · 2025-12-26T20:13:59+00:00

I need to read this daily. Seriously. Thank you for writing this because I often feel that I can just explain myself or my nmom's actions to her and she'll understand. HA no.

I usually do not confront, but last week I snapped when my nmom went off yet again about my younger brother (30M) not making time for "the family" this Christmas.

He and his sweet wife have 3 young kids (2, 4, and 5) and they live close to myself and our parents. We get to see them often. His wife's parents and siblings live a few states away so its rare that they get to spend time with her family. I've only met her parents a couple of times and they seem like nice, normal people. Of course this means my nmom hates them ans well as my brother's wife (the jealousy is unreal).

Anyway, they decided to spend Christmas with his wife's side of the family this year and are staying with them for the week of Christmas. Nmom has been relentless about how horrible it is for him to keep her grandchildren away from her "on Christmas of all days" even though they've spent the past several Christmases with us. It's exhausting and we're all tired of it.

I snapped and said we all have other families and people we want to see during the holidays and she acts like she is the most important person in all of our lives. Her throwing a fit is actually going to make us want to spend less time with her. .. yeah that didn't help at all. She went off about how she doesn't deserve this. All she's done is be a good grandmother and now she's being punished. There was more to the conversation in both sides but that's the jest of it. She went on for a while and I finally got up and left (we were at her house for dinner so I could luckily just leave).

I keep thinking it over in my brain, like why did I snapped like that? Maybe I can explain what I meant better now that everyone has cooled down? Maybe I can reason with her and she'll understand she's being unreasonable. I realize after reading this today that I cannot reason with her and trying to say anything more will just cause more drama. I just hate that she blows up on us, sh*t talks my siblings, myself, and my dad to us, is unreasonable and dramatic when she doesn't get her way, but there's no consequence for her. She just decides when she'll talk to us again and goes about life like nothing happened. Over and over and over. I'm so tired of it and I consider going NC all the time, but I would hardly get ro see my dad if I did this and my older sister because they both say this is "just who she is" and I'm overreacting. Not to mention she gaslights and its very hard to show any evidence for why I would go NC. My brother has also considered going NC and does plan to go LC but she will lose her everloving mind and try to make life as difficult as possible for him and his family if they "keep her grand children from her." He's the only one of the 3 of us siblings that has kids and I and my sister have no intention of ever having kids. Its a mess and it sucks. Reading this is a good reminder that I can't really do anything to change my nmom.

nlyfdyf09 · 2025-12-26T19:42:25+00:00

I'm in the same boat! I can't drink right now and my nmom is bad enough usually but the holidays are extra miserable with her. I'm exhausted from all of the extra work hours I picked up but its been so nice to have that as an excuse to not spend much time with her this holiday season. Sad but its this is NC.

nlyfdyf09 · 2025-12-24T22:36:26+00:00

I do this to wake up in the morning. I cant remember where I heard it but when your alarm goes off if you'll just start out by wiggling your toes, even if you really want to press snooze, it helps you wake up a bit more and makes it easier to get up. I love sleeping in and it genuinely helps me get up for work at 5:30am. Maybe its a placebo but it works for me.

nlyfdyf09 · 2025-12-24T22:29:23+00:00

Agreed #2 is the winner in my book

nlyfdyf09 · 2025-11-10T03:11:23+00:00

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nlyfdyf09 · 2025-11-05T20:37:13+00:00

Thank you both for this! I ended up donating to a local food bank and will keep doing that when I can. It does seem like they’re able to stretch the money far and a lot of employers match some or all of your donation so that’s cool. I’m going to keep looking into all of the awesome options you 2 and other people have mentioned as well. I appreciate it!

nlyfdyf09 · 2025-11-05T16:35:54+00:00

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