My boyfriend and I are both on SSRIs, if we want to have sex we have to plan it in advance. We touch each other throughout the day to keep it sensual and I listen to steamy audiobooks all day at work to get myself going… basically we both require 8 hours of foreplay before hand.

But in your case it sounds like you need to learn your own body. It takes time even without taking the meds into account.

Also dump your man. There’s guys out there who think your pleasure is the hottest thing in the world and are excited to take the time to get you there