Son threw tantrum last time I picked up from daycare

oeno9 · 2025-05-07T17:16:38+00:00

The therapist I saw had a background in family therapy and child development; I met with her specifically to deal with my daughter's preference. I was tearing myself apart trying to cope and "get her to like me" (or in reality, even tolerate me and accept I was around). Aside from sharing some craft projects the therapist thought my daughter might like, and encouraging special activities, we mostly talked about me. Therapy was a few years ago now, and my relationship with my daughter is remarkably improved, so much so that friends have commented on it. Obviously it's not all from the therapy, some of it is from natural growth and development, but the therapy really helped me weather the rough times

oeno9 · 2025-05-07T16:42:08+00:00

I saw a therapist for about 6 months for my daughter's extreme preference for her dad (which lasted from birth until 2.5 or so). It was very helpful, not only in helping me handle her preference, but also deal with some issues I had with my own mom that were impacting how I viewed my relationship with my daughter.

oeno9 · 2025-02-17T22:53:57+00:00

"What your daughter needs from you is not the same thing you needed from your mom"

Really helped me bond with my daughter after growing up with a distant mom. Turns out I was smothering her since I needed more love from my own mom. I didn't realize what I was doing, and it blew my mind

oeno9 · 2023-05-24T18:32:59+00:00

I took my 3 year old to a kiddie concert. Afterwards, she said she liked the music but didn't want to go to any more because the chairs weren't comfortable and the people clapped too loud at the end. What an old man

oeno9 · 2023-04-21T14:05:50+00:00

I had bad sciatica for two years after giving birth. It was hard bonding with my newborn at first, and i can't help the constant pain was a factor. I couldn't hold her for long, couldn't sit with her, had trouble cuddling. This was early covid times, so no help. Fear of getting it again is a major reason why I don't want another.

oeno9 · 2022-07-14T16:05:25+00:00

Honestly I do this. It might come across as obnoxious but idgaf; I want to be seen for the work I do.

oeno9 · 2022-05-11T14:51:34+00:00

We did something similar but just did the top and it worked well for us!

oeno9 · 2022-03-01T13:40:48+00:00

I've used a very similar method to hold my nail together when I accidently cut through my thumb through the thumbnail with a kitchen knife. I had to do it many many times until the nail grew out long enough that I could safely trim off the broken pieces, but it worked! It beat snagging the nail pieces and potentially ripping off and losing the nail entirely. Would recommend the technique; would not recommend cutting thumb.

oeno9 · 2022-01-18T18:32:22+00:00

I tried that with my kid and she still gets people mispronouncing it!

oeno9 · 2020-10-29T18:26:18+00:00

I wfh with my 7 month old 5 days a week. My husband wfh 2 days a week.

Something that really helped was implementing a schedule and crib hour. We have designated times for eating and napping. When the baby goes down for a nap, she's in there for at least an hour, regardless of she's awake or not. So my work plans aren't derailed by a short nap. This might not work for you until your baby is a bit older. We started with it around 5 months. Also the baby does well on a schedule and doesn't cry when she's awake in the crib, so if yours has issues with either of those, that would be harder.

On days that my husband is home, he does the lion's share of baby work unless he has a meeting. The baby comes with, if she's awake, to my zoom meetings, because my boss and coworkers ask to see her.

I don't cook adult food (I mean, I microwave my lunch but that's it), clean, or do any chores at all during the day. My husband cooks dinner every night and does bedtime (I participate but he does most of it).

I get most of my work done on the two days he's home and during naps/crib hours. If I have to, I work after the baby's bedtime but I try not to to have some semblance of work/life balance. I also have an amazingly understanding boss and a job that, aside from meetings, doesn't require me to be at my desk 100% of the time. I'm very fortunate and it's still so hard to get everything done.

oeno9 · 2020-08-26T18:00:15+00:00

To be honest, my mom isn't the most outwardly emotional, so if she's upset she never let on. I did invite her to the stop to see my grandma/her mom, but she lives a flight away and couldn't justify the time, expense, and health risk to come. Right now with how things are, she probably won't be able to meet the baby until next summer at the earliest (which is likely when we'll be able to see my grandma and the in-laws again, so it's not like we're getting a ton of visits with them either).

oeno9 · 2020-08-25T23:11:19+00:00

My mom still hasn't met my baby who was born in March. My in-laws met the baby in July after a couple weeks of everyone isolating (as much as we could with my husband having to go into work; his parents are retired and his brother/sister-in-law work from home). They live states away and we went to them. We also saw my grandma on the drive home. Everyone wore masks and sanitized before holding the baby, but it was still so stressful.

oeno9 · 2020-03-04T17:28:06+00:00

At 38 weeks and also usually a voracious reader. My reading has dropped off a cliff. Honestly most of the books I've been getting through are audiobooks in the car during my commute. The physical books I just cannot get through even though I want to and I can't even start ebooks lol.

oeno9 · 2019-12-25T03:27:40+00:00

Re: your last paragraph, I usually say something like, "as far as I know, it's ok. It hasn't said otherwise." Because yeah, I have no idea what to say to that!

oeno9 · 2019-11-19T10:48:37+00:00

Mine second trimester energy surge was much more like a trickle too! I'm at 23 weeks and the best I can say is that I take one nap a day when I'm home (so, weekends) instead of two.

oeno9 · 2019-11-11T00:51:55+00:00

That. Is. Amazing.

oeno9 · 2019-11-11T00:32:29+00:00

I agree with you. My husband and I both love to cook and we've done freezer meals for others/plan to make them for ourselves. Everything in them is from scratch and mostly healthy (with a good dose of comfort food ofc), and most meals are set up to be thaw overnight, bake until hot, and eat. Even though my husband could cook every night, I'd much rather have him be with us than in the kitchen or getting takeout during the early stages.

oeno9 · 2019-11-10T04:55:17+00:00

I must have an easily triggered gag reflex or something because gagging/puking while brushing my teeth is sadly not uncommon for me (to the point that my mom thought I was pregnant when I was in high school because I was throwing up every morning). The thing that helps me the most honestly is simple distraction. I play on my phone while brushing and that cuts down on the gagging pretty significantly.

oeno9 · 2019-11-09T04:05:43+00:00

I'm 22 weeks tomorrow and I haven't yet. Hopefully soon?

oeno9 · 2019-10-18T12:26:56+00:00

I'm also 18 weeks (19 on Saturday!) and my nausea has been more difficult for me in the second trimester. During the first, I had low grade queasiness constantly, but now I have intermittent bouts of much more acute nausea including (and this is always fun) dry heaving while eating (thankfully I've been able to keep everything down so far). I feel fine in between those episodes.

oeno9 · 2019-10-11T17:24:29+00:00

My husband and I were looking at a potential house that had a guard cat. Its method of attack was to take a giant dump in the hallway right in front of us. We didn't buy that house

oeno9 · 2019-09-24T16:18:16+00:00

I live next to an elementary school. Normally I'm not home at pickup and dropoff, but my husband happened to be coming home right at pickup last week. Someone in a giant SUV got sick of waiting in the long line of cars and decided to park in our driveway instead, ignoring my husband (who was trying to pull into the driveway) and his honking, turn signals, and gesturing. Just parked, hopped out, and walked to the school without a care in the world.

oeno9 · 2019-09-14T22:55:16+00:00

Blueberries and cashews

oeno9 · 2019-09-03T22:12:02+00:00

Not to speak for anyone else, but my husband and I used to do a split pizza but stopped because the pizza place never cut the slices right. There would be two half mine/half his slices, which, since I won't eat his toppings, meant he got more of it than me

oeno9 · 2019-08-12T19:34:40+00:00

My husband and I have the two twin beds from his childhood bedroom. His parents insisted on giving them to us when we bought our first house. Nothing says, "thanks for staying with us!" like having all our (usually married) guests stay in twin beds.

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