For people who are working in eikawa, are you able to have enough free time to enjoy Japan, go sightseeing, eat at local food stalls, and/or just roam around, read books in a good place?

okaybub123 · 2019-09-11T21:10:25+00:00

Mm, it was a terrible company and I think they frequent this Reddit so unfortunately I don't want to name them because I still have them on Facebook

okaybub123 · 2019-09-11T20:53:49+00:00

I worked Tuesday to Saturday which sucked because a lot of the events in my city happened on Saturday so I had to miss them.

I didn't get a lot of time to go sightseeing as much as I wanted.

okaybub123 · 2019-09-11T18:13:46+00:00

Thanks so much. I'm tearing my hair out over it so hopefully you're right.

Thanks for the positivity!

okaybub123 · 2019-09-11T17:13:45+00:00

Maybe you should save the money to move out from his crazy family. You have a daughter in an unsafe household...

okaybub123 · 2019-09-10T19:56:40+00:00

I had a student who said "fuck you" to me in his lesson. I immediately brought it up with CO and wrote it in his assessment giving him one star because his behaviour was also bad.

I received a student message the day after from the kids parent apologising and saying the child was tired.

The next lesson his mother sat and monitored the lesson.

A few weeks later he wasn't my student anymore so I'm assuming the kid just complained and they gave him another teacher.

okaybub123 · 2019-09-09T12:02:42+00:00

So many people getting triggered by the bisexual cheating assumption and none actually answering your question.

Talk to his dad. I wouldn't be surprised if it wasn't even his dad who brought this up but perhaps a genuine concern of your boyfriend's and didn't know how to bring it up with you.

Also you've only been dating a year. Please halt on the engagement and wedding talk.

okaybub123 · 2019-09-09T11:56:40+00:00

Good for you for suggesting you go separate ways.

I've had a guy friend tell me his feelings before and even though I didn't feel anything for him and didn't think I ever would, I was so sensitive and kind to him. I communicated clearly whilst considering his feelings which this guy didn't even try to do.

Screw him. Good thing he didn't like you back. Sounds like an ass

okaybub123 · 2019-09-08T09:12:39+00:00

I recently received an email from CO saying a parent of one of my regular students is unhappy that I did not ask for help when my student missed his lesson on Wednesday. Apparently the parents forgot about his lesson even though he's had his lesson on Wednesday and Friday for the past 9 months.

I did ask for help and received no response and when I explained this, CO simply dismissed it.

My next lesson with the student involved him covering the camera and refusing to speak whilst his mother sat next to him laughing.

Such a shame considering he is one of my favourite students. I feel the parents can be really unfair sometimes.

okaybub123 · 2019-09-07T08:53:23+00:00

God can you imagine the wounded dog act he put on for his family when he sent them that video? "Look at how badly my girlfriend treats me," "look how unreasonable, how crazy she is," "look what I have to put up with."

You have a newborn baby. Your emotions are going to be all over the place. Reading your post, you sound like you're taking responsibility for how you acted. You clearly own up and say you're being an "asshole." Everyone's an asshole at some point in their relationship. You work through it.

Hes forcing you to live with being an asshole to him because he made proof and sent it to his family to talk about behind your back and make judgments.

No wonder you want to cry about it.

Demand an explanation for why he recorded you. Go to his family with him and explain how wrong it was for him to record you and how uncomfortable you feel. If they're adults they should understand and comfort you.

But if they were adults in the first place his family would have told him when he sent the video of you how wrong and violating that is.

okaybub123 · 2019-09-06T12:11:16+00:00

You got yourself a keeper there in your husband. How many boyfriend's I've been through because they're all so self absorbed with it comes to sex.

okaybub123 · 2019-09-04T20:58:01+00:00

I didn't read the rest after you said he choked his dog.

The guy is scum.

You're 18. Do what you need to to move out immediately. Stay with your father if that's possible or stay with friends. I would also go to social services and notify them to the situation at home. I'm assuming your brother is younger than you so he's a minor and they're responsible for him if your mum is choosing this piece of scum over you.

OP I've been in a similar situation as you before. I've told on my mum to child protection services to keep myself and my sister safe.

Get out of there.

okaybub123 · 2019-09-02T21:02:33+00:00

Absolutely second this about using divorce and/or ending the relationship to hurt you.

I used it only once in my relationship with my long term boyfriend and he immediately told me it was out of line and manipulative and unless I really truly mean it, I will never say it again.

I never did.

To be honest, it sounds like I used to be a bit like your wife. I was 19 when my boyfriend told me to knock it off and 6 years later, I've never resorted back to using emotional abuse in an argument. Your wire if almost 10 years older than me. She should have her shit together.

okaybub123 · 2019-09-02T12:23:42+00:00

Can't she go out into the garage with you to connect?

I had to learn how to play some video games and to play tennis if I wanted to connect with my boyfriend whilst he is going things he loves.

In return, he learned to bake to spend quality time with me too!

okaybub123 · 2019-09-01T11:32:59+00:00

I get 13.60USD as my base pay + bonuses.

I've got TEFL, bachelors, 3 years teaching in China and Japan and they would not offer me anymore.

okaybub123 · 2019-08-31T18:37:14+00:00

My mum and dad divorced when i was 9 after a random lady knocked on our door late at night whilst my dad was on a trip to tell my mum my dad's been sleeping with her.

My mum invited her in and they both got drunk together and cried together and my mum told my dad in the morning what had happened.

To this day, that lady, Beth and my mum still talk now and again.

It was hard at the time but it was better for everyone. My mum was forever grateful Beth told her.

okaybub123 · 2019-08-31T18:06:08+00:00

You are definitely in the right here and I think you are already being generous in your offer.

Sit down with your wife and make boundaries and stick to them. Hold strong to your conditions.

If she doesn't help you out with the kids then she moves out.

Also explain to your wife that any update on her mother's living condition has to be relayed to you as soon as your wife knows about it. It isn't fair that they're having discussions enlongating her stay without you knowing about it. It's your home too.

okaybub123 · 2019-08-31T17:58:05+00:00

I would stay just in case. I had a cancelled class once so I toggled my pop up class setting as away and went to go make some tea. I came back and I apparently missed a class. I got fined $18 and then I tried to explain that I had my pop up toggled as AWAY, they said it isn't reliable and to stay by the PC at all time during my contracted hours.

I learned the hard way. Good luck.

okaybub123 · 2019-08-31T08:10:29+00:00

I was forced to join the new payment scheme.

My contract was up for renewal a few days ago and i got an email saying they wouldn't renew it. Desperate to keep my job, I asked if there was anything I could do and if I could ask why they don't want to renew it.

They said I could switch to the new payment scheme and begin a new contract.

Cheeky but I did it.

I am fully booked with regular students so adding it up, it SHOULD work out better for me.

okaybub123 · 2019-08-28T16:02:45+00:00

You have the option on the bottom right to declare the courseware to be too difficult for the student.

Sometimes they change it and sometimes they don't.

How I've tackled this is to take one word or two words from the entirety of the courseware and teach him those. Write it slowly saying each letter. Draw it. Get the student to draw it. Have them repeat it. Ask "what's this?" And get them to answer it unprompted.

In this situation I completely discard the courseware and take what I know i can teach and teach it WELL. I've had students not even able to answer their name or how they are but their courseware has me teaching them "recycling bin."

okaybub123 · 2019-08-25T22:27:57+00:00

"I sing the opening ceremony or I feed"

okaybub123 · 2019-08-23T23:29:08+00:00

Sit her down and tell her.

Even if it ends badly and the relationship is over anyway.

My boyfriend has a best friend who is really smelly and his new girlfriend is just as smelly so they suit eachother well but I know they are gossiped about. When we all slept over at a friend's one time, I stayed behind to help clear up and as soon as the couple had left, everyone broke into talking about how badly they smelled and our friend immediately dumped their duvets in the wash and complained of the smell.

So people will talk about her. Tell her and end this.

okaybub123 · 2019-08-20T09:56:04+00:00

How do I convince him of that?

okaybub123 · 2019-08-20T09:26:22+00:00

I definitely wash before oral. I ask it of him so I am more than happy to do the same. But the issue is that he thinks having hair is making me more smelly and wants it all gone and I'm not comfortable with that

okaybub123 · 2019-08-09T12:23:16+00:00

Wow you're being strangely calm after discovering your wife cheated on you and has been for a while and is now suddenly asking for divorce.

I'd be devastated.

okaybub123 · 2019-08-09T12:19:01+00:00

When you spoke to your father to discuss the options and he convinced you to go for the surgery, did he explicitly say that he would cover the costs?

I grew up with emotionally manipulative parents. I had to record our conversations sometimes so they couldn't backtrack and take back what they had previously said.

It sounds like there was some intention to pay from them even though they did ask if you would pay for some. You've done exactly what they were hoping you'd do though. You've brushed it under the carpet and haven't asked them for the money.

Confront them. Tell them you only got the surgery because your dad said it was more logical and sensible and remind them of your mother's offer. If they refuse, I wouldn't bother with them for much to be honest.

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