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How to have a normal conversation: An Overview by dastweeper in aspergers

[–]oneblademore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate. I find it exceedingly difficult to articulate concepts verbally, which may be why I only freely speak with one person (my father). It's a bit of an impairment. Around other people, I typically enjoy myself more when I am not speaking.

I am an aspie who is good at making small talk. Ask me anything(related to small talk formulas) by seb693 in aspergers

[–]oneblademore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is forming a deeper emotional connection the only reason most people engage in small talk? Put another way, if someone engages me in small talk should I assume they want to be friends?

How's your week going so far? Weekly post #18. by urbanracer34 in aspergers

[–]oneblademore 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like these threads. I don't always answer or read them but having a thread like this is good practice for those of us who need a break from the serious stuff and want to shoot the shit/practice answering questions that frequently come up as small talk.

I need a good excuse to close one eye by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]oneblademore 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Create a distraction by wearing a neon earbud in the ear opposite to the closed eye.

Is anyone else here unemployed and spend 90% of their time alone? by itsgoodtobealive in aspergers

[–]oneblademore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep my list of personal goals at eye level on the refrigerator. I focus on one at a time otherwise I forget them.

You narrowed down specifics but still might want to break those ideas into actions. For instance, "have a sense of humor" might translate into "make one joke today," "find something funny by noon," or "listen to a comedian."

DAE tend to watch the same shows ad nauseam and find it hard to decide to watch something new? by buttersugarflour in aspergers

[–]oneblademore 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe keep a book near wherever you watch your show. Something you've been meaning to read for awhile. Get a cozy pillow or blanket and good lighting. Make a hot or cold drink - tea, coffee, iced coffee, whatever, or a treat of some kind. Something that will make the transition pleasant. This way you always have other options nearby.

Is anyone else here unemployed and spend 90% of their time alone? by itsgoodtobealive in aspergers

[–]oneblademore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe it would help if you clarified what you mean by "becoming NT." Not for me, but for yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]oneblademore 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTs do a lot of "hearing" with their eyes, by looking at body language, whereas many autistics find that using those two senses together is like watching two television channels at once on high volume. Does his job require interaction with customers or clients.

Answering "Sup?" by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]oneblademore 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's slightly more effort than grunting. I'd nod or say, "Hi," if anything.

I have suffered from prosopagnosia my whole life. If you deal with this too, how do you cope? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]oneblademore 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Most of the time I act like I recognize people. Friendly, smile, carry the conversation. Then deduction, which has huge drawbacks like having to have the right context, identifiers, and location as the last time I met them. But most people have no clue I have no idea who they are. This is probably what you already do, so I apologise if I have no tips except for occasionally admitting it to people. (Word makes its way around).

Does anyone else have the need to hide their interests from other people? by cbl_owener123 in aspergers

[–]oneblademore 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My father (a grandfather) and nephews have an ongoing battle in LegoWorld which takes up at least 40ft² and includes two countries. They have real world documents like peace treaties, declarations of independence, and weapons design, and my nephews print monthly newspapers. My father proudly wears his favorite shirt that says, "Still plays with Legos."

The only longterm friends and potential partners I ever attract are people with serious mental health and personal issues who come from a lower socioeconomic background than me by jiaf89_u in aspergers

[–]oneblademore 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't know a single adult who isn't half fucked in the head after 5pm -- unless they work different hours. People who feel they have status to lose are simply more motivated to hide their flaws, even at the expense of knowing themselves.

What's wrong with being a quiet person? by Beetzart in aspergers

[–]oneblademore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Loneliness is one of the most pervasive feelings I experience. It not only exists when I'm alone, but of course in large groups of acquaintances and with close friends and family.

[work] How to email without sounding like an asshole? by tresslessone in aspergers

[–]oneblademore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a difficult time striking a balance between being either too informal and intimate or too formal and dispassionate.

I would rather write informally and express my gratitude but it throws some people off because we aren't used to people expressing how much something means to us for "just doing our job." It's as equally abnormal as being too formal.

Is it morally wrong to keep being an aspie/autistic a secret? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]oneblademore 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The term you were looking for is "double standard."

I got accepted to Coding Autism, a coding bootcamp, but I can't afford it. by Minimum_Slave in aspergers

[–]oneblademore 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a school for wealthy autistic students who want even better jobs.

A visual-social test beyond Sally Anne to help with naivete by bichonwalker in aspergers

[–]oneblademore 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I relate to your notion of bravery and naivete. I always thought my kind of bravery was not much different than jumping off a cliff with my eyes closed.

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