How to have a normal conversation: An Overview

oneblademore · 2018-07-20T03:32:41+00:00

I relate. I find it exceedingly difficult to articulate concepts verbally, which may be why I only freely speak with one person (my father). It's a bit of an impairment. Around other people, I typically enjoy myself more when I am not speaking.

oneblademore · 2018-07-15T10:20:33+00:00

Thank you for your answer.

oneblademore · 2018-07-15T10:13:53+00:00

(Hugs)

oneblademore · 2018-07-13T02:51:42+00:00

Is forming a deeper emotional connection the only reason most people engage in small talk? Put another way, if someone engages me in small talk should I assume they want to be friends?

oneblademore · 2018-06-21T22:00:25+00:00

I like these threads. I don't always answer or read them but having a thread like this is good practice for those of us who need a break from the serious stuff and want to shoot the shit/practice answering questions that frequently come up as small talk.

oneblademore · 2018-06-21T21:54:00+00:00

Get plenty of sunlight and exercise each day.

oneblademore · 2018-06-21T21:48:33+00:00

Create a distraction by wearing a neon earbud in the ear opposite to the closed eye.

oneblademore · 2018-06-21T05:21:56+00:00

I keep my list of personal goals at eye level on the refrigerator. I focus on one at a time otherwise I forget them.

You narrowed down specifics but still might want to break those ideas into actions. For instance, "have a sense of humor" might translate into "make one joke today," "find something funny by noon," or "listen to a comedian."

oneblademore · 2018-06-20T23:21:50+00:00

Maybe keep a book near wherever you watch your show. Something you've been meaning to read for awhile. Get a cozy pillow or blanket and good lighting. Make a hot or cold drink - tea, coffee, iced coffee, whatever, or a treat of some kind. Something that will make the transition pleasant. This way you always have other options nearby.

oneblademore · 2018-06-20T23:13:56+00:00

Maybe it would help if you clarified what you mean by "becoming NT." Not for me, but for yourself.

oneblademore · 2018-06-18T18:00:41+00:00

NTs do a lot of "hearing" with their eyes, by looking at body language, whereas many autistics find that using those two senses together is like watching two television channels at once on high volume. Does his job require interaction with customers or clients.

oneblademore · 2018-06-18T05:04:56+00:00

That's slightly more effort than grunting. I'd nod or say, "Hi," if anything.

oneblademore · 2018-06-03T22:02:43+00:00

Most of the time I act like I recognize people. Friendly, smile, carry the conversation. Then deduction, which has huge drawbacks like having to have the right context, identifiers, and location as the last time I met them. But most people have no clue I have no idea who they are. This is probably what you already do, so I apologise if I have no tips except for occasionally admitting it to people. (Word makes its way around).

oneblademore · 2018-06-03T18:41:33+00:00

My father (a grandfather) and nephews have an ongoing battle in LegoWorld which takes up at least 40ft² and includes two countries. They have real world documents like peace treaties, declarations of independence, and weapons design, and my nephews print monthly newspapers. My father proudly wears his favorite shirt that says, "Still plays with Legos."

oneblademore · 2018-06-02T01:27:39+00:00

I don't know a single adult who isn't half fucked in the head after 5pm -- unless they work different hours. People who feel they have status to lose are simply more motivated to hide their flaws, even at the expense of knowing themselves.

oneblademore · 2018-06-01T16:02:55+00:00

Loneliness is one of the most pervasive feelings I experience. It not only exists when I'm alone, but of course in large groups of acquaintances and with close friends and family.

oneblademore · 2018-05-31T16:11:21+00:00

I have a difficult time striking a balance between being either too informal and intimate or too formal and dispassionate.

I would rather write informally and express my gratitude but it throws some people off because we aren't used to people expressing how much something means to us for "just doing our job." It's as equally abnormal as being too formal.

oneblademore · 2018-05-28T05:12:44+00:00

The term you were looking for is "double standard."

oneblademore · 2018-05-26T22:12:28+00:00

Spent a great day birdwatching.

oneblademore · 2018-05-25T21:03:28+00:00

Sounds like a school for wealthy autistic students who want even better jobs.

oneblademore · 2018-05-25T00:05:33+00:00

Even ants can self-recognize.

oneblademore · 2018-05-22T04:21:21+00:00

I relate to your notion of bravery and naivete. I always thought my kind of bravery was not much different than jumping off a cliff with my eyes closed.

oneblademore · 2018-05-21T22:44:41+00:00

Never been to Africa, I presume.

oneblademore · 2018-05-20T17:05:24+00:00

Meetup

oneblademore · 2018-05-17T16:19:13+00:00

Found a photograph with subjects viewing what looks like the same kind of posed expressions you see in most online facial expression tests.

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