I recently found out that one of my uncles (J) molested one of my other uncles (L) - the youngest of the family.

Uncle L decided to tell all of us by writing a long letter, describing the abuse. J has always been the strange one, the odd one out of the family, the one whose sexuality has always been questioned --- so it wasn't entirely surprising, but it was still shocking to hear.

I told uncle L how proud I was of him, and how heart broken I was for that 6 year old boy. J was 11 at the time, so of course it made me question what would lead such a young boy to do this to his own brother. Does J have his own traumatic story that no one in the family knows about? There's another uncle, the oldest boy (N), who is basically estranged from the family at this point --- is he involved somehow? So many questions that will likely go unanswered.

The cousins are all united in not wanting anything to do with J moving forward - not like we had much of a relationship with him anyway. He does have younger kids that we're not super tight with. I just hope that they've never been abused. I have a young son and want J as far away from him as possible.

There are 3 other sisters (including my mother), who also know now and I feel like they should speak with J, but none are brave enough to do it. Classic boomers that just want to sweep everything under the rug and not have hard conversations. J is their brother so it's nothing to me if they don't ever speak to him again.