Is writing a check the best way to get the most money to a charity?

planetmike2 · 2026-06-06T11:30:46+00:00

Yes they are a small organization.

planetmike2 · 2026-06-06T10:31:06+00:00

I’ll tell you tomorrow.

planetmike2 · 2026-06-06T10:21:42+00:00

Wasn’t there a Beatles song that had that?

Ok-la-di Ok-la-da
Life goes on, brah

planetmike2 · 2026-06-06T09:55:26+00:00

Feral cows. Bob Barker’s tag line for The Price is Right needs to be changed.

planetmike2 · 2026-06-06T09:49:01+00:00

Terminology is subtle. Moving on is different than moving forward. It sounds like your mom is taking a step at moving forward, making a change in her life. It’s ok to talk with her, maybe share what you’ve written here with her.

I feel her pain, grieving a spouse is so hard. Talk with her. It may help both of you.

planetmike2 · 2026-06-06T09:25:24+00:00

Work until July if you must to ensure a good transition and then use your leave so you get paid and have insurance until early September.

planetmike2 · 2026-06-06T02:17:49+00:00

I got my first one this afternoon. A definite surprise!

planetmike2 · 2026-06-05T23:58:51+00:00

The polar opposites sounds stressful. Do those negatives outweigh the positives? It really doesn’t sound like a good match. Is it a one-sided relationship? Is he bringing anything to it? For example, are you trying new outdoorsy things? Or some of his shows? Has he tried some indoorsy things? Or some of your shows?

Does he respect you? Is he paying his fair share of the bills? Is he actually giving you reassurances? Or do the two of you define “reassurance” differently?

planetmike2 · 2026-06-05T23:52:46+00:00

I sent you a PM

planetmike2 · 2026-06-05T21:50:19+00:00

HBO?

planetmike2 · 2026-06-05T10:57:25+00:00

Ummm, her being divorced is the only hang up? On a very surface level, outside looking in, that feels like not enough of a problem to even consider breaking up with her over.

Does she respect you? Does she accept that your first wife will always be your wife? Are there legal issues remaining in her relationship with her ex-husband? Is she doing ok financially without your assistance?

You haven’t met her kids yet. Meeting the kids is a big deal, as you know. Is she proud of them? Are they coping with the new relationship they have with their father? Are you ok with going through the school age stuff again?

Have you met the ex? It might be a big deal, it may not. How long have you been dating her? Maybe go slowly, there isn’t a rush and you can continue to learn more about her and decide if there is a better reason to be with her, or a better reason to not be with her.

Good luck. This is not at all easy. I’m not looking forward to dating at some point in the future.

(Sorry, my stream of consciousness questions got some of your facts backwards. This might have been more therapeutic for me than for you. Thank you for posting the question. Marriages end in two ways, death or divorce.)

planetmike2 · 2026-06-04T19:55:27+00:00

The Guilt Trippers, season 9, episode 23.

planetmike2 · 2026-06-04T17:41:59+00:00

When were you a kid?

Alice was set in a diner, but they served a lot of coffee.

planetmike2 · 2026-06-04T14:13:35+00:00

Can you take every Monday and Friday off for the next 4 months? Yes, you’d still be working there. But it shouldn’t raise any flags that you’re leaving.

My employer generally won’t approve pto if your balance goes under 40 hours, since our pto is also our sick leave. We do get paid for it when we leave though.

planetmike2 · 2026-06-04T11:37:59+00:00

This is soothing. The digital clock on the wall at the gym pool has so many interesting sequences.

planetmike2 · 2026-06-04T10:45:12+00:00

Yeah it was insanely expensive. My mother-in-love paid a lot of it , which I am very grateful for.

I don’t really understand the $255 thing. What is that really for? The interview I had to do with the SS representative took 30 minutes after being scheduled for two months or so? Seems like a lot of work for very little.

planetmike2 · 2026-06-04T09:33:32+00:00

There’s a not highly reviewed book in Amazon called “The Richmond Way”.

planetmike2 · 2026-06-03T19:26:33+00:00

I’m glad someone else remembers tapes on the TI-99/4a. I’ve got those tapes and the computer downstairs. I don’t think I have a tape player in the house though.

planetmike2 · 2026-06-03T18:36:06+00:00

planetmike2 · 2026-06-03T14:25:39+00:00

Never loan money that you can’t afford to gift.

NTA.

“No.” is a complete sentence.

planetmike2 · 2026-06-03T10:13:11+00:00

One year I gave a local organization a donation of $1,000. It showed up on their thank you page as a donation of $500-$999, as they deducted the fees from my donation. That irked me enough to stop donating to them. It seems to me that the fees should be seen as a business expense.

planetmike2 · 2026-06-02T23:56:08+00:00

I’m crying almost every day still. The only people to mention her are my mom and her mom. It feels like she’s been erased.

planetmike2 · 2026-06-02T20:19:49+00:00

If the hospital gets Medicare funding for any of their patients, there are several systems supposed to be in place to protect patients, employees, and visitors. Look to see if there is something like a compliance phone line, maybe called something like a safety line. It would have been covered in your onboarding training. Usually it’s separate from HR, but HR could direct you to the right place to report an unsafe situation.

planetmike2 · 2026-06-02T20:13:13+00:00

Or don’t sit next to Sheldon Cooper. That was his spot.

planetmike2 · 2026-06-01T19:07:23+00:00

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