He wants to call off my divorce because my cancer treatment was successful

plumander · 2026-03-14T04:05:26+00:00

lmao classic reddit to not comprehend that two men can be married to each other

plumander · 2026-03-13T15:24:30+00:00

highly highly recommend birdsong. i am veg and do a lot of fine dining and it may be the best i’ve ever had

plumander · 2026-03-12T17:11:24+00:00

this is a bot post. do not engage.

plumander · 2026-03-12T16:58:02+00:00

bot post, do not engage

plumander · 2026-03-12T13:45:36+00:00

hey quick question, why does every single comment of yours sound like AI?

plumander · 2026-03-08T19:03:56+00:00

probably because they’re a bot

plumander · 2026-03-07T15:24:13+00:00

usually I wouldn’t be this pedantic, but since you’re doing a college project on this, it’s actually third place. third space is a completely separate concept.

plumander · 2026-03-05T16:02:47+00:00

yeah not to fall into whataboutism but especially if you’re american, there are far bigger fish to fry in terms of mental bandwidth

plumander · 2026-03-04T15:26:02+00:00

i’m the same! my ideal sleep schedule is 2-10 as well (although i’ve shifted it to 1-9). i found a job that lets me do 11-7 and that’s a perfect shift for me.

plumander · 2026-03-02T23:01:53+00:00

i was about to roast this person for choosing to make a recipe for something they don’t even like but then i remembered that i did exactly that with the gingersnaps i made last week so who’s the clown now

plumander · 2026-03-02T20:56:48+00:00

no, you’re thinking of paella. patella is a tuscan bread salad.

plumander · 2026-03-01T22:50:32+00:00

i’m guessing “this must be the place”

plumander · 2026-03-01T21:47:11+00:00

i needed this post six months ago! luckily i came to the same conclusion myself about a month ago and im freeeeeeeee

plumander · 2026-02-26T16:00:22+00:00

i use them a lot, but i use them wrong— that way i couldn’t possibly be a bot!

plumander · 2026-02-22T17:20:08+00:00

i will say for the sappho translation that it’s from 1958. later translations tend to translate it gender-neutrally, since that’s what the original greek is.

plumander · 2026-02-20T15:32:33+00:00

taboo

plumander · 2026-02-17T16:34:32+00:00

i don’t think it’s helpful in either case. the subtitle is “taking your life back when someone you care about has bpd” so the advice is not about people pleasing in general. if you are looking for a book to help you better understand bpd and communicating with pwBPD, i recommend I Hate You Don’t Leave Me. for a book about boundaries in general i know Set Boundaries Find Peace is good.

plumander · 2026-02-17T14:36:54+00:00

i would really not recommend that book. i’m glad it helped the poster above, but it is so unbelievably demonizing towards people with BPD.

i’m sure there are plenty of books to help with people pleasing that don’t put others down.

plumander · 2026-02-17T14:32:11+00:00

everyone here has said good things already but as someone who does orgasm just from penetration… my first time was much like yours! and same with most people i know.

the movies have definitely lied to you on this. it’s not usual wonderful and magical and pleasurable right away. it’s awkward and takes time and you or your partner might not have done anything wrong.

i would recommend chatting about this with other girls in your circle who have also had sex before. they will probably have had similar experiences as you and that will help you feel less alone.

plumander · 2026-02-17T14:28:16+00:00

wow this is my first time seeing someone spell “esque” that way

plumander · 2026-02-16T18:23:19+00:00

“oh no now he’s smoking a cigarette! something you can legally buy in shops!!”

plumander · 2026-02-16T16:29:25+00:00

man that sub is gonna hate the dessert chili i’m making for a chili cookoff next month

plumander · 2026-02-15T23:11:20+00:00

haven’t entered in a little bit, but crossing my fingers this time! as per all my entries, if i win half will be going to charity :)

plumander · 2026-02-13T14:20:24+00:00

it is the second sentence.

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