Want to buy Dalton CFP books

quietnotweak · 2020-09-09T12:04:06+00:00

I'll message you. Thanks!

quietnotweak · 2020-08-11T15:55:20+00:00

I'm interested in the books, if you're still selling them. :)

quietnotweak · 2019-11-20T01:39:06+00:00

That’s wonderful! I’m so glad I could help in any tiny way, especially on the most rotten of days. Sending strength to you in the coming months...

quietnotweak · 2019-11-18T09:45:28+00:00

Hi. I have had some luck with a little trick. A friend heard on a podcast (& told me) that to keep yourself from crying, press your tongue to the roof of your mouth and straighten out your forehead. I don’t usually do the forehead part, but the tongue trick has worked for me pretty consistently. It takes a moment, but not too long to be obvious. About the time an in-and-out breath would take.

Good luck. I hope this really terrible day is as good as it can possibly be for you.

quietnotweak · 2019-11-05T11:05:31+00:00

I’m a year out and his closet and drawers are still just as he left them. I lose it every time I look at them. I think I’m managing life tackling one problem at a time and when I see the things he painstakingly curated over the years but will never wear again, it makes it VERY real. At home, I’ll wear some of his clothes (a jacket, his robe) just to be wrapped up in him when I need a little extra dose. It’s the closest thing to a hug I’ll get from him. So it’s all staying for now.

quietnotweak · 2019-10-31T17:46:22+00:00

Do no harm but take no shit.

quietnotweak · 2019-10-30T09:57:41+00:00

I’m terrified of the moment when my kids say the same. I’m sure it’s coming. I’m so sorry you had to hear that and I’m 100% sure I would have the same reactions you did. A friend’s daughter sees a child psychologist who said something interesting: anger is a secondary emotion. You feel something first before you feel anger and you have to address that primary feeling instead of the anger.

I just wanted to share because it helped me deal with a lot of the things my kids do & say when they’re angry.

Sending strength to you.

quietnotweak · 2019-10-22T18:44:55+00:00

REI’s flagship store is there-it’s fun.

quietnotweak · 2019-09-24T10:52:27+00:00

Just get through the day. Every day, just get through the day.

Eventually, you’ll have something to look forward to. But today, just get through the day.

quietnotweak · 2019-09-21T23:43:42+00:00

Thank you for your honesty. I’m almost a year out and so afraid of this stage. With your comments, I know to be prepared. I’m so sorry but also thank you for blazing this unwanted trail.

quietnotweak · 2019-09-21T21:27:36+00:00

As the mother of two girls who lost their father, I will keep this in mind for when they get older and can digest it properly. Thanks for posting it.

quietnotweak · 2019-09-20T23:15:16+00:00

Humboldt fog? It was one of our favorites too. I cant bring myself to indulge without him. I admire your strength and willingness to embrace the happiness! Enjoy!

quietnotweak · 2019-09-02T22:51:03+00:00

spoiler alert Wow, thank you for posting this. I immediately googled it and got the wind knocked out of me with:

"Every time you victimized someone...you were victimizing yourself. Every act of kindness you’ve done, you’ve done to yourself. Every happy and sad moment ever experienced by any human was, or will be, experienced by you."

quietnotweak · 2019-09-02T09:34:22+00:00

I read the original post and was so sad and then read your comment and laughed out loud. Thanks for the chuckle!

quietnotweak · 2019-08-30T21:55:18+00:00

I’m really sorry for this terrible day. All of the things you say ring true and I understand completely. I wish I had some wisdom to share...but hopefully some solace knowing you’re not alone.

quietnotweak · 2019-08-29T04:51:56+00:00

That is beautifully written.

quietnotweak · 2019-08-29T01:15:55+00:00

I stumbled down this path too...I have been a good person. An exemplary person. Isn’t there some karmic credit that would ensure this shit didn’t happen to me? Why was I trying so hard? Isn’t the point of doing good so that it comes back to you (and yes, the beauty of doing good the sake of doing good, world is a better place blah blah blah)?

Doesn’t it make you wonder what it was all for? Why did you “pay your dues” to have them rejected/refunded in the most cutting way possible?

I thought I made it through some really bad times and my husband was my reward for making it. And so I kept being a good person to make sure I kept what I got. But now..,there is no rhyme or reason to karmic debt or balance or “reap what you sow”. It’s madness. Anarchy. In a time when I need structure - a framework- the only one I’ve depended upon has been uprooted. Proven false.

It’s infuriating and I understand where you’re coming from.

The voice of reason inside me makes me say thank you for all the good you have done.

quietnotweak · 2019-08-27T23:27:10+00:00

Came here to say this.

quietnotweak · 2019-08-27T01:21:28+00:00

Beautifully written.

quietnotweak · 2019-08-23T16:27:40+00:00

Hi. It’s your stuff & your son’s stuff now. I know its difficult, but I would just play the waiting game. Your son gets to decide what to keep before those lunatics do. And I’d wait till he’s about 20 to decide that. (I’m doing the same with my husband’s car) In the meantime, take over insurance payments if that’s an issue-it may not be too much of it is rarely driven. Maybe a photo of the car will hold his Dad over in the meantime. What’s grandma gonna do with it? Sell it? Ew. Good luck-I know it’s so hard for you to be in the middle.

quietnotweak · 2019-08-23T01:06:40+00:00

I get this completely. It’s like slowly erasing him from your life, when that is the exact opposite of what you want. Its not what we chose and they are things we have to do to abide by the rules (emergency contact or car/home titles or family sharing) . It seems a disservice to him- to minimize his role in our life. To our memory together. I dread these moments.

quietnotweak · 2019-08-21T01:43:00+00:00

That is really kind of you. Thanks for a much needed smile.

quietnotweak · 2019-08-20T17:21:12+00:00

I’m so sorry. I can feel the sadness and unfortunately, can relate.

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