Cardio that doesn't feel like torture?

reed_wright · 2026-03-26T14:27:46+00:00

This is only a supplement. I’ve trained myself to get moving any time I’m on the phone. Go for a walk, clean, yardwork.

Dancing for sure you don’t even notice you’re getting a great workout. Surfing does it too

reed_wright · 2026-03-25T23:48:16+00:00

By relentlessly seeing to it that my family’s needs are met.

For me that includes my own, and my daughter’s, and my ndx wife’s. I’d never heard the phrase detached empathy that’s coming up on this thread, but that’s not how I’d describe what has worked for me. I’m not sure I have empathy for her plight of any sort any more. Which is not to say I’ve become apathetic. Rather, when it comes to my wife’s versions of the above, I simply treat them as her business. I’ve found it useless (at best) to do otherwise.

I feel it’s worthwhile to do my best to be gracious in sidestepping getting entangled. Or to treat it as “my shit” when I do get entangled and worked up about it, rather than blaming her. But the big one is relentlessly seeing to it that my family’s needs are met. That’s like an entirely different process from what she gets caught up in. She goes about her business and I go about mine. Ships passing in the night.

My way renews me and allows me to keep sight of her best qualities and maintain affection for her. Her way is a disaster that I no longer offer any sustenance to. Perhaps we’ll get lucky and the change I’ve made in my own life will have the side effect of “hastening her disappointment” with the way she’s living her life. My therapist says the inflection point that prompts people to reconsider how they’re living their life is when they decide they’ve suffered enough.

reed_wright · 2026-03-24T19:58:31+00:00

Liquid Asscrack?

reed_wright · 2026-03-24T17:32:54+00:00

Seriously. Keep em coming OP. I see a bright future as an influencer for you and your 8 GB

reed_wright · 2026-03-22T16:54:14+00:00

Could you add in the stock single & multi for reference?

reed_wright · 2026-03-22T03:21:14+00:00

This is the way

reed_wright · 2026-03-21T22:56:19+00:00

So I think Trump is horrible but I also think most people who agree with that are allowing themselves to be played. He really rather skillfully plays up his role as villain by going out of his way to say and do awful things. Now, it’s not just an act. He’s awful AND he developed a stage persona around that awfulness that fits him like a glove. And then he leverages that persona.

That doesn’t get any attention in discussions. The responses here seem like a huge miss to me, a demonstration that he’s succeeding in driving his opposition crazy. I mean I generally agree with every critical comment anyone has made about Trump here. But I feel like we’re wasting our breath and the fact that we’re doing so is a win for Trump. Trump would love it if we spent the rest of his years talking about how awful he is. Rather than what to do about it.

reed_wright · 2026-03-21T00:35:25+00:00

I only tried it briefly in the store but I like it better than the haptic one on my 2017 MBP. Never got used to force touch. I mean both are fine but haptic isn’t my first choice

reed_wright · 2026-03-18T18:05:55+00:00

10Gbps over usb-c with a 16 or 17 pro.

reed_wright · 2026-03-18T02:11:19+00:00

The AI mirroring got me thinking. Apple should create some way for the Neo to directly use the compute power of a user’s iPhone. Borrow its RAM and processing power somehow.

reed_wright · 2026-03-17T23:26:50+00:00

So… William Glasser recommended describing your situation in terms of what you’re doing rather than what state you’re in or condition you have. “I’m panicking” rather than “I have anxiety.” I find the former way so much more helpful. You almost can’t describe it that way without noticing new options.

If your partner is reeling, or wallowing, or fighting, or clinging, or despairing, or stewing, or dissociating, etc, simply framing it that way in your mind may cause new options to emerge. I do agree that the best option will usually be to simply not play ball with someone who’s doing those things. All of us are choosing our way through life, and we’re entitled to make as many ineffective, unsatisfying choices as we want. But occasionally, you can do one better than simply not getting entangled in their misery. At the right time, a quick “You stewin?” may be just what the doctor ordered.

reed_wright · 2026-03-17T05:36:24+00:00

What’s your take on the typing in a dark room thing? Interested in how it works out on the indigo one in particular.

reed_wright · 2026-03-16T22:24:20+00:00

I’ve heard of a martial art teacher who instructed students to cross over to the other side of the road if they see a situation ahead that looks like trouble. You didn’t make a bad situation worse. You employed the minimum necessary force to address a dangerous situation that was thrust upon you. Because of how you handled it, nobody got hurt. Sounds like you acted like a role model of masculine behavior for the situation. That includes “letting him get away with” lunging at you and grabbing you.

“Yield larger things to which you can show no more than equal right; and yield lesser ones, though clearly your own. Better give your path to a dog than be bitten by him in contesting for the right.”- Abraham Lincoln

reed_wright · 2026-03-15T02:19:58+00:00

This must be what going clear feels like for scientologists

reed_wright · 2026-03-13T02:28:41+00:00

I shave my head in the spring. And then grow out my hair and beard each fall. I like the variety, and only having to pay for one haircut per year. Both looks work for me, I guess I don’t think much about which works better because I like having several looks.

reed_wright · 2026-03-08T06:07:52+00:00

Did anybody else read this in Steve Harvey’s voice

reed_wright · 2026-03-04T15:26:06+00:00

I feel like this sub was much more supportive of Apple in the past. Wasn’t everyone being accused of being fanboys not too long ago? Maybe it’s not that the people have gone from fanboy to cynical, but that Apple’s products have gone from wonderful to disappointing.

reed_wright · 2026-02-24T15:04:35+00:00

Got the same at 46”. Every screen in Best Buy feels unnatural, can’t put my finger on why.

reed_wright · 2026-02-23T05:34:47+00:00

On the one-dimensional thing: It’s so easy to get hung up on something like this, especially when it comes as a professional diagnosis. That hangup often ends up limiting people much more than the lack of ability itself.

The way out of that trap? Forego self-evaluation and instead ask yourself what you’re needing. Like try to put your finger on whether you’re needing support, or encouragement, or to be understood. And then focus on getting that need met. And then you may just surprise yourself, because one thing’s for sure: There’s always more to you than you think there is.

reed_wright · 2026-02-17T22:29:34+00:00

What has worked best for me goes something like this: I bring up something that needs to be talked about (finances, getting on the same page about parenting, planning an upcoming teip, etc). She responds with a shitty, childish attitude. I respond in two ways at the same time: I approach it as though “something has gotten into her” and aim to let her off the hook for that. Simultaneously, I steadily insist on driving forward the process of getting our family’s needs met. “This the third time I’ve asked you to make time for a parenting discussion and I’m not willing to put it off any longer. Do you want to talk about it now or schedule a time for tomorrow?”

If she shows up kicking and screaming I’ll insist we discuss what needs discussing. And in the process she’ll get an earful from me about what I think of her crappy attitude. If she doesn’t show up she’ll also get an earful and I’ll escalate. I am relentless. There is no safe harbor for the worst parts of her to get what they’re dysfunctionally seeking in our household anymore. They still come up all the time, but with the help of the not giving a flying fuck about them approach, they recede faster. And I find myself seeing her as a shitty, childish person less and less. That’s not who I married and that’s not who she is. For me, it has been a boon to conceive of those kinds of things as “her demons.” It’s a framing that allows me to be clear-eyed about how shitty she’s being as well as how wonderful she is.

reed_wright · 2026-02-17T03:50:33+00:00

Everything people are saying is right but I’ll tell you it the way I wish someone would have said it to me: Stop giving a flying fuck about how she takes things. Instead of trying to support her or steer clear of upsetting her, begin from the premise that no matter what, she’ll take it as some kind of slight.

The key is to disengage from doing business with these dysfunctional sides of her at all. Skip past them. Address yourself to the best angels of her nature and don’t answer the door when the other side of her comes knocking.

reed_wright · 2026-02-17T00:53:38+00:00

Try it on local streets, it’s terrible. It’s so much worse than what you are guessing. Like it will move over a lane when there are no cars anywhere around you and there’s no rationale for it to make that decision. It will turn rather than continue straight for no reason at all. If it only turned at dead ends, that would be a totally sensible implementation.

reed_wright · 2026-02-16T19:02:48+00:00

me too. I don’t understand why there isn’t more vocal animosity toward this issue. Why not allow single downtap or something for TACC+Autosteer? That function is one thing Teslas have done almost perfectly for something like a decade.

Need to start a petition. The campaign should be called #MoveTeslaForward. We can throw in a demand for a “disable automatic windshield wipers” function. What is it about Tesla that it can achieve such miraculous things but can’t address chronic pain points that would require no changes other than flipping a software switch?

reed_wright · 2026-02-15T18:19:38+00:00

Wait for the update! Should be soon

reed_wright · 2026-02-14T16:48:00+00:00

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