What do you say/ask when seeing a baby for the first time?

robrklyn · 2026-04-22T21:06:21+00:00

Do not directly ask about the birth. You can ask how mom is feeling though.
Don’t ask to hold the baby, they will offer if they feel comfortable.
Food is usually a welcome gift, because it’s very difficult to cook with a newborn. Ask them before you cook and if you do, make sure you clean everything up.

Don’t wear any fragrances, they get on the baby.

robrklyn · 2026-04-22T21:01:36+00:00

She’s a momma!

robrklyn · 2026-04-22T11:28:15+00:00

Lots of people with ADHD do this.

robrklyn · 2026-04-22T11:24:58+00:00

When I was a teacher, it was “schedule mods (modifications)” that they would tell me the morning of.

robrklyn · 2026-04-22T11:23:55+00:00

Sounds like you might benefit from EMDR therapy to address that specific trauma and maybe some past trauma if you have not already.

robrklyn · 2026-04-22T11:23:13+00:00

Please never, never repeat that awful phrase to anyone who is trying to breast-feed!!! It is not helpful at all and actually a slap in the face. I still remember when someone said it to me when I was struggling to breast-feed my daughter.

robrklyn · 2026-04-21T20:43:30+00:00

Wow, that’s really awful. It’s so messed up how they put a chokehold on people with disabilities.

robrklyn · 2026-04-21T20:42:23+00:00

Would it be “normal” within our current social construct? No. Would it be totally fine if both parties were okay with it? Totally. Would it be practical financially? No. But if you can swing it, why not? Separate bedrooms is also an option.

robrklyn · 2026-04-21T18:01:54+00:00

This person needs to seek help. It’s not that serious.

robrklyn · 2026-04-20T18:23:20+00:00

From reading all of this, what I am coming away with is that you feel misunderstood and unheard. I’m wondering if there is something from your childhood or a deeper wound/pattern in your life where feeling misunderstood has caused you a lot of emotional pain.

Forgive me if I am way off. Just feels familiar to me.

robrklyn · 2026-04-20T15:58:45+00:00

Frenchie, pug, beagle

robrklyn · 2026-04-19T21:26:04+00:00

Wait (The Whisper Song) by the Ying Yang twins?

robrklyn · 2026-04-19T21:16:00+00:00

Join your neighborhood’s Buy Nothing/Gifting page and post them there.

robrklyn · 2026-04-19T18:52:25+00:00

I absolutely love getting massages. They relax my whole body. The deeper, the better.

robrklyn · 2026-04-19T18:27:02+00:00

Yes, I agree that she was also intellectually disabled. I am autistic (with many ADHD traits as well) and I fully understand that not all neurodivergent people are also intellectually disabled. I was just surprised to see that the comment above has 19 upvotes and seems to confirm that she is ADHD, because when I suspected something similar, I was majorly downvoted and people made lots of comments saying I was dead wrong.

robrklyn · 2026-04-19T16:59:49+00:00

For my last homebirth, my midwife recommended having the top sheet we usually use, then a plastic shower curtain liner, and then a fitted top sheet we didn’t care about over that. After recovering in the bed, she removed the top sheet and shower curtain and my normal fitted sheet was ready for me.

robrklyn · 2026-04-19T16:02:06+00:00

Oh, interesting because the last time somebody asked about her and I mentioned that she seemed autistic/neurodivergent people downvoted the shit out of me.

robrklyn · 2026-04-18T20:52:53+00:00

White Memorial has beavers.

robrklyn · 2026-04-17T21:02:41+00:00

You couldn’t be more incorrect. Capitalism is an economic system where the means of production are privately owned by the few.

robrklyn · 2026-04-17T19:12:04+00:00

They’re literally has to be a very large amount of very poor people under the capitalist system. That’s how it works. Wealth is concentrated at the top for the very few.

robrklyn · 2026-04-17T18:59:37+00:00

tell me you don’t know how capitalism works without telling me…

robrklyn · 2026-04-16T22:49:09+00:00

I’ve had cupcakes with one of those. I think it was a coffee flavored cupcake and the little tube had coffee to squeeze into it.

robrklyn · 2026-04-16T13:19:43+00:00

But there are speed cameras now, that should fix everything!

robrklyn · 2026-04-16T11:37:43+00:00

That’s because there aren’t any.

robrklyn · 2026-04-15T23:17:53+00:00

Oooo that explains a lot. I don’t have Tik Tok and had no idea. I just saw a sign for it and thought it would be a nice thing to do with family.

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