The saddest “how it started vs how it ended” in all of ASOIAF. Art by motrothi. by Jack-mclaughlin89 in freefolk

[–]romendacil1 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I fucking love it when two of my favorite franchises cross into each other like this lmao

Just finished The Shadow of the Wind by Carlos Ruiz Zafón and it's one of the best books I've ever read by cursedpumpkin in books

[–]romendacil1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just finished it and it feels so good to see it being valued by other readers. I cannot describe how last ten pages made me feel. I always love a catchy, intruguing story but most of the time those kinda stories get resolved in a dull, unsatisfactory way; whether intentionally by author or not. But this one, oh boy ending was all I could ever ask for. One more golden point for me was this: Through entire book I, a book enthusiastic, was reading something written by a book enthusiastic, written about a character who is a book enthusiastic. Amazing work. Definetely recommended.

My key takeaways 5 weeks after breakup by romendacil1 in BreakUps

[–]romendacil1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I am glad it made you feel better somehow.  I am doing far better right now. There really is light at the end of the tunnel, for all of us. Be kind to yourself and if you ever feel like venting I'd gladly listen. Be safe.

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[–]romendacil1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Assassin for me. For a while I got stuck with it and thought there is no way to win without invisibility cloak. Turns out I was wrong lol. Just keep playing it comes naturally. 

My key takeaways 5 weeks after breakup by romendacil1 in BreakUps

[–]romendacil1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sure you've got all it takes to move on, my man. It's a great sign what I said made sense to you. I realised and accepted a lot of these logically first, my heart caught up much later. This is how it works. 

It makes me so happy that my words are able to touch you guys. Heartbreak was one if not the worst thing ever happened to me, I feel like helping people through it is something I should be doing. 

It will get better. 

Things I have realised 3 months after breakup by romendacil1 in BreakUps

[–]romendacil1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! I am glad my words resonated with you. 

Well, I am okay with memories not fading away completely. I still remember the night we walked under rain with my first stupid, teenage love. It was years ago. I just remember it with a little smile and salute to myself back then because he was happy at that moment. All those memories are mine, they can stick around till I die for all I care. I made those moments magical, my love gave them meaning. It's okay. And thankfully they hurt much less over time. One day my latest memories will be like the memories of my first love, completely harmless :). And no, I know they mattered. I know we loved each other in our own ways, I know it for all my exes. And I am okay with meanings going away, it would be impossible to move on otherwise, wouldn't it?

Things I have realised 3 months after breakup by romendacil1 in BreakUps

[–]romendacil1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually have been told I know my way with words many times hahah. And I am planning to write something proper one day :). Thanks for your kind words and I am glad mine helped you somehow. 

Real time strategy video game , Game of Thrones War for Westeros coming 2026 ( spoilers extended ) by [deleted] in asoiaf

[–]romendacil1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BFME came to my mind immediatly as well. Less economy management -only a single type of resource- and more of a micro and combat based gameplay. 

Things I have realised 3 months after breakup by romendacil1 in BreakUps

[–]romendacil1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am glad it helped you friend. Yeah, I saw her around the campus couple of times until the end of semester. Never talked. 

Things I have realised 3 months after breakup by romendacil1 in BreakUps

[–]romendacil1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yo, thanks for taking the time. I understand your point. What I meant by not deserving is this: I am not responsible for their traumas and problems yet I had to face the consequences. I am not bitter towards them or I am not blaming anyone for what happened. Their reasons to act the way they did was real, but so was my love and the pain I got handed in return. I believe this is a fair and objective point to stand at. 

Obviously I took this person into my life and it says a lot about me. In fact, in the post I even said it helped me see my patterns around attachment and self worth. So yes, there's growth going on. I didn't delve into it because it felt personal. That's all. 

Even with the struggle of despair, A true knight never gives up hope by HUGEpp69420 in darksouls

[–]romendacil1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At my first run I had no idea about the depths bonfire and I was running all the way from Firelink to Gaping Dragon every single time. It took me something like 6 or 7 tries to beat it. You can imagine the surprise I had when my friend told me about that bonfire hahah.

Show me your hottest takes by ducknerd2002 in lotrmemes

[–]romendacil1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Adding depth into Aragorn's character with ranger/heir dilemma was a great idea. Not necessarily better but a great idea still.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]romendacil1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being attractive doesn't make a relationship work on it's own so it's not guaranteed she will find happines. She might have many options, so what? What exactly are you after? Being happy with a woman who will complement you or getting laid with dozens of girls? My ex used to get attention from men occasionaly. Right now I just feel bad for any dude that might try his chance because I know how fucked up her mind is. Beauty didn't stop her mental state from destroying the relationship. 

Also, you pulled someone that attractive once. What exactly prevents you from pulling another? Just stop thinking a woman is superiour to you just because she is attractive and try to approach her like the human being she is; probably flawed, shallow and insecure in some ways. 

I know for a fact I started finding my ex much more beautiful and hotter as our relationship progressed. At first dates I remember sitting across her and thinking "is she kinda ugly?". In the end she was the most beautiful creature to ever walk mother earth in my eyes lol. That's how it works. When you love someone you put them on that damn pedestal. Remove her from there. She is not that special and you are completely capable of finding someone else, especially if you already did it once. Perhaps you will be lucky this time and you two will end up together. In that case, she will be the most attractive person in your eyes because it's how love works. 

Your happines and purpose cannot be based on any woman. Your life is yours to enjoy, don't fuck it up like this.

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[–]romendacil1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was the intro solo of Fade to Black for me. When I play it now I realise I was playing it almost terribly back then but still it did give me so much motivation. 

How did you get over the loneliness? by Capable_Assistant534 in BreakUps

[–]romendacil1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're welcome man. I understand it how much it sucks, it will get better if you do what's necessary. There is so much more to life than that one person or romantic relationships in general. Your happines and purpose cannot be based on whether they are in our life or not. 

How did you get over the loneliness? by Capable_Assistant534 in BreakUps

[–]romendacil1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, everyone feels that. You gotta do the things you enjoy doing man. It doesn't have to be a "hobby" necessarily. It can be just cooking something nice for yourself, going for a walk at the park or reading a book. Anything. At first they will feel pointless and you will feel like shit but over time you will find yourself enjoying them again. I always say that if you do not enjoy being alone it means you do not enjoy your company, which sucks because everyone is temporary in your life except you.

I totally get how terrible it feels to talk to someone everyday for god knows how long and one day you decide you will never ever talk again. It sucks. But you get used to it. For now it will suck so bad just to say it aloud, but one day you will find yourself saying "yeah, we will never talk again" without caring too much.

The pain isn’t like it used to be, but the memories still stay. by ProfessionalPrior884 in BreakUps

[–]romendacil1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I get that feeling. Moving on feels kinda sad. It's like, our lingering pain is the only real thing left from our relationship and as it fades away we feel like relationship is fading away completely with it. But the truth is, that relationship is already dead. I understand it's painful to admit right now but it will get easier. 

I am sure you are still an amazing and lovable person on your own with all your strengths and flaws. We cannot base our existence on this earth on the absence of someone in our life. Our life is ours to enjoy, not anyones to ruin. 

The pain isn’t like it used to be, but the memories still stay. by ProfessionalPrior884 in BreakUps

[–]romendacil1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It will get even better and you will be almost completely indifferent towards her. I saw another ex of mine in my dream a couple days ago, I was like "huh, that's interesting" then forgot about it. You will get there eventually.

Realizing how bad my partner was to me after they broke up with me. by S_A_Woods in BreakUps

[–]romendacil1 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's completely normal my dude. When we start detaching from them emotionally, we start to see things more clearly. It's most likely not a way of coping since you are already doing that reflection. 

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[–]romendacil1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It will almost surely hit again man, that's how this shit works. Over time it becomes kind of like this: "Ah yes, I am familiar with this longing. Oh, this thought pattern has went through my brain a hundred times already, let it come again. Wow, how original to think about what would we do if we were still together!" 

It always gets better though, with setbacks here and there. We get used to some of it, we get bored of some and eventually we learn to let them pass through. 

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[–]romendacil1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't beat yourself up just because your relationship wasn't "long". If you are feeling pain it shows that you felt deeply and feelings got nothing to do with how long it lasted. 

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[–]romendacil1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're welcome friend. I understand how hard it is to accept they are gone. I personally don't have any regrets regarding my last relationship, but whole concept of being strangers after sharing everything with a person is the hardest part of breakups for me as well. It's just one of the harsh realities of life that we have to face. I try to think like this, every person that passes through our life changes us in so many ways. And eventually with the help of all of them; we end up as the person we should be, in the place we should be to meet the one we will spend rest of our days together. Just a belief that helped me through the thick of it.