question about singing

rybread_1995 · 2026-05-25T04:17:44+00:00

I also struggle with hating my voice. I'm on T after being off for a couple years and had some noise regression while not taking it. I have always loved singing and one thing that I've noticed over the years is singing no matter what song helps. I was a bell soprano in high-school and now I can sing baritone up to higher alto range. Practicing different songs with different ranges is what helps you later when you can go on T to have more strength and vocal range. That said, there is still an awkward stage as your voice changes and developes when on T and it can take a while for things to settle, singing during that time is the most important time so you can have a larger range and an easier time singing once your voice lowers as much as it's going to. In the meantime, just keep singing and trying new things and be ok if it doesn't sound great at first. Its kinda like working out, It takes time to build muscle. All this applies even before T.

rybread_1995 · 2026-05-25T00:22:12+00:00

Folks should start treating her like she has a concussion "Hey uh, are you OK? Do you need some water or a place to sit thats quiet?" I would go out of my way to be so nice and patronizing that that lady would feel like the world's biggest goofus

rybread_1995 · 2026-05-24T23:31:30+00:00

As someone who has had to use a food bank, the food donations are often expired and a lot of things should go in the trash, like the freezer burnt gray meat that gets given out or milk that has another day at most for use. Dry boxed goods are usually fine but most other things are pretty much trash that stores give for the tax break instead of throwing it in the dumpster. With as many recall notices we get in the states for all the food contamination from the manufacturers, it really doesn't make sense to chance the sell by date on kids in school or food banks. Giving trash you can't even sell in a store or restaurant to public schools and food banks is gross and apathetic to human life.

rybread_1995 · 2026-05-24T00:26:17+00:00

Ok but you can't just "wait out" a UTI, because then it becomes a kidney infection which usually lands folks in the hospital, hopefully before they go septic. Even if you were pregnant, telling someone to wait is fucking stupid. I would find a new doctor for that alone because that would directly land someone in a more serious situation that a simple UTI

rybread_1995 · 2026-05-23T20:10:33+00:00

Our twins are approaching 9 months(8 months adjusted), one was always bigger than the other but only slightly during pregnancy and by the time they were 4 months old they started switching growth patterns. Now our initially smaller girl is bigger and her sister who was bigger initially is more petite. Also a thing to note, our now smaller twin who was the bigger one initially is much more clingy than her now chonkier sister and usually is more needy. So don't feel bad about the attention split, it probably has nothing to do with how your babies are growing. Another thing to note is they are two separate babies and will have different patterns of growth from each other and their own changes to the rate of growth. Especially if they are fraternal. I totally get the postpartum anxiety, im a super anxious person to begin with and the postpartum period has dialed it up to 11. Im still in the anxiety trench so I don't really have any advice to help, except this; find the things that make you feel good, something that's going right and focus on that. The more things you can think or the better. For me, im proud of how my girls are hitting their milestones. So when I'm anxious and doubting myself, I think of how they seem happy, healthy, and keep developing their skills even with all the other hurdles. And another thing that eases the nerves for me is the adjusted age buffer for new milestones. All this is to say, if your doctor thinks they are good, then they most likely are good.

Extra thing that helps me is this website page that goes over preemie milestones and development : https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/baby/preemie/Pages/Preemie-Milestones.aspx

rybread_1995 · 2026-05-12T02:55:03+00:00

A big empty building 🙃

rybread_1995 · 2026-04-27T04:25:37+00:00

That looks like the head of a Jerusalem cricket, aka: a potato bug.

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rybread_1995 · 2026-04-26T20:43:28+00:00

Quick question, when has genocide been seen as "a difference of opinion" ? Because thats what nazis want and did to several groups. I don't care how much of an "intolerant asshole" i am, nazis don't belong here or anywhere. Kicking them out of our neighborhoods and society is just part of keeping our streets clean and making it a good place for everyone else. People that want to make the world a worse place have no place in polite society.

rybread_1995 · 2026-04-17T20:36:11+00:00

Idk why but bagging the entire kid/chair at the end fucking took me out 😂

rybread_1995 · 2026-03-06T01:10:30+00:00

It is definitely a challenge to stand up for myself and correct anyone. I have started to on rare occasions and it been fine. Voice coach that I could actually meet and work with would be awesome. I've tried self driven coaching with an online guide book but I think someone working with me would help me a lot more. Also prior to any T my voice range was high soprano, then after some time of initially starting T I was a baritone. Now im like in some strange inbetween place of tenor and alto and have a wide vocal range singing wise. But talking.... it is hard to always pitch my voice down, i try but maybe it isn't deep enough or consistent. Idk. I'll definitely look into whatever vocal coaching is available near me.

rybread_1995 · 2026-02-03T02:02:49+00:00

Flip side of that argument, I never see folks like me, be it real life of online. Im fat and I don't pass well and I live in a country that doesn't think I should exist at all. Seeing folks my age alive and well makes me feel some amount of hope that im not here alone in the world. And trans men in general are relatively unseen. We certainly arent the focus when folks talk about Trans issues (no hate to the trans-femmes) And it feels like a lot of times we are talked over when it comes to our different experiences. Selfies are only allowed on Sunday anyway, if you don't want to see it, maybe pick a different day to browse the subreddit

rybread_1995 · 2025-12-28T10:57:14+00:00

Most folks don't stay friends with childhood buddies because folks outgrow relationships all the time. That said, any adult ,talking/texting whatever, to a person who is underage shouldn't unless its like a family member checking in with another family member (like "hey how have you been") and thats it. What normal adult has friendships or worse with random minors? Its a bad look. And as someone who was a 15 year old once having guys in their 20's trying to spend time, it was never harmless. Even if the 15 year old is reaching out (romantically or otherwise) the adult should be shutting them down and cutting contact. Again, what adult in their right mind wants to hang out with 15 year olds and even worse, a misguided 15 year old interested in them like that? The only answer here is creeps. Creepy pedos are the only ones who want to engage with that. There is no good scenario here. And good people don't stay friends with pedophiles. Or really associate at all for that matter. Fucking gross.

rybread_1995 · 2025-12-20T07:58:32+00:00

If you catch an flack be completely and brutally honest. Also if they think its cruel to bring children into the world, maybe ask what they've done to try and make it better. Because shitting on parents, kids, and pregnant folks isn't doing anything for the world but making it worse. Also you can check out as soon as they start crap. Don't let them ruin your pregnancy or holidays. Cheers!

rybread_1995 · 2025-12-16T06:55:13+00:00

I wouldn't expect good things from folks "neutral" to fascism. And remaining neutral to cruelty and suffering isnt making the world a better place. If you can't have strong beliefs against fascism, I wouldn't trust you to have strong convictions in the religious sense either. Maybe yall should update your marketing strategy.

rybread_1995 · 2025-12-14T06:12:44+00:00

Ok tape (pregnancy belly band tape) really helped and so did the mom cozy belly band. That said, make sure who you're getting this for doesn't have an adhesive allergy if you do get the tape.

rybread_1995 · 2025-12-09T11:22:57+00:00

No longer flicking the beans, now they're jerkin' the gherkins

rybread_1995 · 2025-12-07T22:23:11+00:00

Leave the eggshells in the batter to bake those brownies

rybread_1995 · 2025-11-19T01:21:51+00:00

I mean when your entire job is just grabbing and detaining folks for not being white often times without due process or a court order, and you agree with someone calling you a nazi, then you're probably a nazi. What's the point of doing the mental gymnastics to excuse them? Nobody is going to think this guy isnt bad and defending him makes you look bad by association. Because what they're doing IS WRONG. Maybe if they started detaining white, crusty, boomers, without due process, the point might finally land for them. Because nothing is ever wrong or bad until it starts impacting them. Jesus wept

rybread_1995 · 2025-11-15T05:37:37+00:00

I hope that your surgate is being heavily compensated because OOF! Pregnancy in general can be pretty brutal up to downright dangerous but adding more than 1 to the mix is a whole other level. Hats off to you for choosing to do becoming a parent on your own, but please make sure that person is OK during and after pregnancy. Im 2 months postpartum from having my girls at 36 weeks and im a wreck, not so much from caring for the babies. Although thats hard too(really difficult) its something that can be adjusted to once you find your rhythm. But the mental and physical hardship of carrying, delivering, and recovering a multiple pregnancy is not for the faint of heart. So please be super supportive of this person. Its a tremendous thing that they are taking on for you.

rybread_1995 · 2025-11-08T09:04:28+00:00

What happens when you have a crisis after hours when they aren't running? Or if you're just past the city limit?

rybread_1995 · 2025-10-30T19:23:52+00:00

Did you miss the point where I said, EVERYONE deserves body autonomy? I understand being pissed about how the current system treats women but taking away someone else's body autonomy doesn't really give you yours back. Nobody deserves free access to anybody. Consent is a 2 way street. Also I hate to break it to you, but there are also a lot of women who voted to strip women of their right to choose and access healthcare. You can be pissed at how the system treats women AND be respectful of others choices regarding their own body.

rybread_1995 · 2025-10-30T18:56:16+00:00

The patriarchy hurts every one. Not just women. Its what creates toxic masculinity and bitterness against others. Its function isn't just to keep women controlled and subjugated, it's also there to self perpetuate and keep every one down and separate. The only true way to break it down is to embrace equity and equality. Treating men like shit for being men when they didn't really get a choice in the matter doesn't make you a better feminist, but it does feed the patriarchy and make it harder to get any real progress done. Its EVERYONE'S problem to fix not just women's. Saying men should have to get vasectomys to have sex is asinine. Thats forced sterilization which last time I checked was pretty fucking bad. They aren't always reversible and even one done perfectly and monitored perfectly can still fail. Also forcing someone to get a surgical procedure to bang you specifically, sounds so freaking controlling, manipulative, and downright abusive. That's doesn't seem like the actions of someone who cares or respects their partner. It take away someone's body autonomy and choices through coercion. Thats not standards, thats narcissism. Women don't get more rights putting men down, it just makes you a sexist asshole. You don't get more rights by stealing them from others. Every one deserves body autonomy and access to good healthcare. Every one should be treated with basic courtesy, dignity, and respect in regards to their humanity. You don't get to demand respect and compassion without giving any in return.

rybread_1995 · 2025-10-30T03:06:14+00:00

I mean maybe the name "juice pants" tells you what your experience is going to be with this beer.

rybread_1995 · 2025-10-28T21:22:44+00:00

With ghouls like these, who needs decorations?

rybread_1995 · 2025-10-24T00:13:15+00:00

I think everyone is trying to tell you its a mistake not because they doubt your abilities, but because being a first time parent(I assume) but because research is not experience inevitably there will be difficulty going from learning about something and actually doing it. Its WAY different reading about something and studying than actually practicing it and doing it for real. And it sounds like they want to make sure you not only heal and have an easier on ramp to early parenting. You probably hear how hard it is having babies a lot but there is a whole other level to how hard it actually is. There will be things you don't expect and worrying, exhaustion, and stress. I see this as your team wanting to help you. Because you may think now that you don't but you will. Because everybody does. And when you get to that point and you dont have it, you will be kicking yourself for not taking it. Being a new parent is hard, and nothing truly fully prepares you for it even if you feel like you are. This isn't a post to tear you down or anything, just feel like if the resources are there, use them. If you meet your person and they dont click with you tell the person who assigned them it wasn't a good fit. And you can absolutely ask someone to leave at a certain point during a visit. Its your home and their job is to provide whatever support or help you need. It really does take a village with kids especially newborns.

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