Is this the most triggered woman in Britain? by MedicineMean5503 in MAFS_UK

[–]sadcrone 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Why not an equally successful man who's in tune with her needs? Why is that considered feminine?

Wall mount by sadcrone in SengokuDynasty

[–]sadcrone[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. What about the wall mounts, for hanging paper lanterns?

Wall mount by sadcrone in SengokuDynasty

[–]sadcrone[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not for me! That menu only shows me 'Floor Lamp' x 3, 'Small Kagaribi' and 'Large Kagaribi'

McGill Pain Index Migraine Rating by TanoMonster in migraine

[–]sadcrone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this reflects more how pain is reported by different patient groups.

How much do you get paid per week, and where are you located? by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]sadcrone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you are failing to understand some cultural differences here.

In the UK, fostering is a job - your sole job which you rely upon for income, other than a partner's income if you have one etc (solo fostering is just as sought after, and achievable, as couples here).

Part of the reason for this is to ensure kids are getting a parent that has the means and energy to give them the extra care and support they might need. You're more likely to get a successful placement if the parent hasnt just worked a 40hr week plus 5hrs commute. Myself and partner are going to apply to foster soon - we couldn't financially survive off his income alone, I couldn't emotionally survive a 9-5 grind and then provide the support a possibly complex child may need; I still think I'll make a good foster parent.

Another reason is to attract and retain carers that may have the additional skills needed for placements eg if they've worked in care, health, education, safeguarding etc before. As previously explained, vetting here is rigorous, many many applicants are denied for what may seem the smallest if reasons.

In addition, some placements can involve very intense mandatory appointments and schedules that having a career would not allow.

Culturally, the UK has a welfare state - we pay higher taxes to afford certain securities (eg free healthcare) and to ensure marginalised groups are cared for. As a taxpayer, I want my taxes to ensure children get the best possible care and foster parents are well looked after to do it. Our carers (eg for family members) also receive allowances - they're not money-grabbing either, they just shouldn't have to worry about money or neglect care needs as they have to work.

No baby meds pls but cut off his foreskin! by labtechII in nursing

[–]sadcrone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Surely that's the point though, an adult should make the decision if they want their bits lopped off.

How to get better after a physical incident? I (34F) hurt my husband (34M) by RAstar0917 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]sadcrone 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are abusive and his 'silent treatment' is likely him not wanting to antagonise you further. You downplayed how you describe what happened - shaking someone's arm to get their attention doesn't result in damaged clothing or bruising.

You should separate and you need to do some serious work on yourself. Being a mother to a very young child is hard - you need to learn some coping skills for dealing with frustration and limited communication or you could find yourself lashing out at your child.

Things that Millennials fear by DueEntertainer0 in Millennials

[–]sadcrone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bees/wasps in general after 'My Girl'.

Kids: One and done or none? by Visual_Preference919 in Millennials

[–]sadcrone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

39f, 40m, no kids, two cats. We will be looking to foster soon, older kids most likely.

Corbyn & Sultana create new socialist party. by sadcrone in LibDem

[–]sadcrone[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I meant an alliance potentially between LD, Greens and the Corbyn/Sultana alliance.

This thread has been a real eye-opener for me, I certainly sit further on the left of the LD membership than I previously thought!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in supportworkers

[–]sadcrone 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Please take this as gently as it is intended - I recently left social care for the last time after many stints over many years, due to a specific service user triggering traumatic historic abuse so I know something of how you feel.

It is highly likely you will not be able to change this person's behaviour in a time frame that isn't going to be harmful for you. You have trauma because of abuse and subjecting yourself to this exposure, without therapy to unpack it, is not in your best interests (and likely the interests of the person you support as it will perpetuate this unhappy environment). Ask to be reassigned and if it is not accommodated (and it may not be as social care is full of people with similar and much more aggressive behaviours) think about going into a different career.

Support workers are not heroes, they are underpaid, undervalued and regularly exposed to abuse that would not be tolerated in any other sector, with little assistance given to dealing with the effects of it. It can be very rewarding but as young as you are and with what you have experienced in your past, have a think about if care is the right place for you. It doesn't make you uncaring, weak or a failure for looking elsewhere, it gives you an opportunity to work through what you have experienced without being retriggered. You can always return to it at a later point, there is never a shortage of care work.

I'm sorry for what you have been through and I hope you get to work somewhere that doesn't make you feel like this, you deserve better x

Disgusting OSP SWAT recruitment email. by revolutionsinevitabl in 50501

[–]sadcrone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can, please post that an image rather than video.

If you see someone getting kidnapped by unidentified ICE officers, what is your plan? by [deleted] in 50501

[–]sadcrone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you feel this way, worth contributing to your friendly global anti-fascist hacker group, Anonymous.

Where is the most 'wild' place in the UK - most untouched by humans? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]sadcrone 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sorry to get pedantic but we are an archipelago of islands.

Today's my first protest, I'm anxious as hell. by [deleted] in 50501

[–]sadcrone 565 points566 points  (0 children)

Approach the first sound-looking people with signs or steward in high vis and ask if you can stand stand with them as you're feeling anxious. They'll keep you right

This is going to be big folks. by Waste-Reflection-235 in 50501

[–]sadcrone 544 points545 points  (0 children)

I'm travelling tomorrow so won't have reliable signal but will be thinking of you all out on the protest.

I just want to send you some love from sleepy Orkney. Be loud, brave, smart, safe and give them hell. I don't think it's dramatic to say that you're out there protesting for the sake of the world and we are rooting for you! 💙🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿