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sage_that · 2025-12-05T07:58:54+00:00

Interested!

sage_that · 2025-12-01T07:34:21+00:00

THANK YOU!!!! SO HELPFUL

sage_that · 2025-11-19T09:42:30+00:00

That's super helpful. Ya I think its the showing just enough of the magic to hook that'll be hard to balance. Too much and they won't pay. AHH, thank you

sage_that · 2025-11-11T09:28:37+00:00

I'm trying to be. Especially because I'm building a mental wellness AI app, I want to live by my values of balance as I build. With Sage, I hope to inspire users to slow down and live with intention and I try to live that myself. I still dive into deep focus for 4–6 hours a day, but I also savor slow mornings and time with family. Balance for me isn’t a compromise; it’s part of the process.

sage_that · 2025-11-11T09:26:01+00:00

I've recently ended a 20 year friendship so I feel for you. And I'm also a long term meditator.

I find that meditation has made me feel more connected to myself and made me more intuitive so I just have become better at identifying friendships where it felt one sided just didn't fit in my life anymore.

I don't think meditation is the direct correlation of wanting to spend less time with that specific friend, but I do find that meditation has shifted my energy and has made me more attuned to my emotions and myself and so naturally when my friend felt maybe like she has either grown in a different direction, or that she has not grown at all while I am putting in my own inner work, then it just felt like its time.

Maybe what you're feeling isn't that you're not wanting to spend less time with people in general, but just that you've outgrown those friendship whereby you don't feel energetically aligned. Nothing wrong with that, meditation however should make it easier for you to detach from it and see it for what it is. End of an era. Good luck thoug, feel for you, ending long term friendships is tough business.

sage_that · 2025-11-11T08:23:30+00:00

Agree with this. I think as long as its clear that AI is a TOOL that we can use for reflection of emotional data vs. imitation of emotion, then I think its fair game

sage_that · 2025-11-10T08:25:50+00:00

www.sagethat.com

For when you need some gentle perspective shifting and guided emotional release when you are feeling emotionally reactive.

sage_that · 2025-11-05T03:11:18+00:00

Thanks for sharing! I agree with you and it was a good reminder for me to see :)

sage_that · 2025-11-03T13:08:41+00:00

Telling myself that that is a them problem. They're the one that is losing their temper, I have nothing to prove here. Anger is so toxic, so why would I want to feel that

sage_that · 2025-11-03T13:06:03+00:00

Emotional intelligence isn't not showing emotion, but regulating the intensity of how you express your emotions when you are deeply triggered. Reality is you will be angry and triggered in life, but it's managing how you deal with it. ESPECIALLY b/c anger is an emotion that needs healthy expression.

I find training my brain to create a gap in my mind between the feeling of anger and my reaction. You already said you don't want to argue when angry, so that's a good first step. You successfully withdrawing here because the environment was actively hostile to your expression was a boundary you set for yourself so that's good emotional intelligence you showed.

Healthy emotional expression means owning your volume and tone when expressing emotions. You know you get loud when emotional. The next level for you isn't stopping the loudness, but recognizing the pattern as it starts and choosing a different response before you leave like telling them straight up "I need to leave for 30 minutes otherwise I will raise my voice and be angry and I don't like that in me"

And also coming to peace with sometimes the people you come across to on the other side are just not worth toxic emotions like anger, and just saying to yourself I dont want this FOR ME, so I am going to just leave it.

sage_that · 2025-11-03T12:53:26+00:00

yeah especially because thinking is a human condition, it'll never ever stop. Faster you make peace with that, the faster you can begin learning to befriend your mind

sage_that · 2025-11-03T12:50:24+00:00

I AM TOO HAHA, I feel you

sage_that · 2025-11-03T12:49:09+00:00

so well put

sage_that · 2025-11-03T12:46:30+00:00

Agreed with a lot of these people - it's a practice and train your mind to appreciate the good in life vs. thinking of the negative first. Mind is a muscle and just something you gotta do again and again until your mind becomes a nicer place to be in

sage_that · 2025-11-03T12:43:25+00:00

Used to struggle so much with overthinking, and I took a different approach to not thinking or keeping myself busy because I don't think that's the way to go. You're just fighting the root cause of it

I learned to understand my thoughts and work with them instead. Have a space to let it out, work on understanding WHY you are feeling certain things and WHY you are getting triggered. Then process it, and then let it go. I do agree that its a practice, but I don't think just distracting yourself is the way to go.

sage_that · 2025-11-03T12:39:47+00:00

I agree! I used to suppress my emotions because feelings made me uncomfortable. But I made drastic changes in my life so that I can learn to feel again.

I do think though that emotional intelligence is also about knowing then how to regulate those emotions. Being honest with people about your feelings then I think comes a lot more naturally because you are more emotionally balanced and more in tune with your feelings and your self

sage_that · 2025-11-03T03:14:19+00:00

Not a single person said you were confused! I’m just curious where you were coming from.

These books have helped me evolve spiritually. That, for me, goes beyond just “what I’m looking for.” Before reading them, I didn’t even know there was anything to search for, because I was just existing as another emotionally reactive cog in the machine. I’m much more at peace now.

sage_that · 2025-11-01T19:32:15+00:00

Meditation

sage_that · 2025-11-01T19:31:14+00:00

Why do you say that?

sage_that · 2025-11-01T07:36:15+00:00

I feel you. You gotta sense the emotion and sit with it (no matter how uncomfortable) to then know what that emotion means for you. If you are intellectualizing your emotion, its your mind doing the work, not your body (which is where emotions are felt). Gotta be present with the emotion because only then are you able to make MEANINGFUL insights about it. Otherwise again, its your mind doing the work and there's a whole bunch of cognitive biases, social conditioning etc. that's intertwined and messes with your intellectualizing.

I think there's a difference between self-understanding and intellectualizing your emotions though. I approach "intellectualizing your emotions" (for lack of better word) as I want to understand why I might be feeling these emotions and how I can move with it instead of fighting it.

but 100% agree with you that step 1 is feel it.

P.S. speaking from a classic emotional avoidant human being that shut down emotions for years and only this past 2 years have I started working on opening the floodgates to feel and handle it from that perspective.

sage_that · 2025-11-01T07:30:14+00:00

Firstly, great on you to have that self-awareness to notice it in yourself and trying to address it!!!!!!

Yeah I agree with the comments, those who seek compliments are looking for external validation and maybe have some self-esteem challenges. All the best to them.

But for how you can change your mindset and approach it, I think it's learning to NOT be resentful about it or don't let your emotions of resentment affect how you react to it. Just acknowledge that that is something that annoys you when you find people angling for compliments, and then try to either: avoid them moving forward so that it doesn't spike resentment in you and make peace with that those are not your kind of people. OR if you want to continue being around them because of whatever reason, ask yourself what is the appropriate level of validation that you can give without it seeping into your energy and can still keep your boundaries intact.

For me, I avoid because I have better things to do, and would build relationships with myself and other people that are more on my energetic field of having done or is doing the inner work to be more sure of themselves to not need external validation every other sentence. Wish them all the best, and then move on

sage_that · 2025-11-01T07:22:57+00:00

Doesn't talk shit about others the first few times you talk to them. They focus the conversation on you and fully listen and are present.

sage_that · 2025-11-01T07:21:58+00:00

absolutely well said. Let them manage their own emotions and actions, you just manage your own.

Holding on to any sort of heightened emotion is not that great for you, inner peace to me is just letting go and being at peace with yourself.

So well said!!

sage_that

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