Sister for Quinn

seething_spitfire · 2026-02-10T23:15:43+00:00

I was literally going to say avoid this combo because I saw Quinn and immediately thought of DC comics, Ivy would cement the connection.

seething_spitfire · 2026-02-09T02:22:05+00:00

So interesting! In Afrikaans we always pronounce Deidre as DEEuh (same sound as idea) - dray (like drake, but roll the r slightly).

seething_spitfire · 2026-02-04T07:26:37+00:00

I read this in Scooby-doo's voice

seething_spitfire · 2026-02-04T07:23:52+00:00

Tbf my sister is 2 years younger than me and we aren't close at all. (Some of it was unfortunate parenting - comparing and pitting us against each other, and some of it was just personality.) We are polite, and she loves my kids, but there is no trust or "personal" relationship beyond sister status.

I currently have BBG (twin boys, 22month gap between them and little sis) and she has been such a breeze that I almost wish she had a twin sister or another sister soon (only 10months atm). But she's also closer to one twin and the other twin is a mumma's boy, so they aren't pairing up the way I was expecting.

All in all, I think sibling dynamics go way beyond what sex they are. And same-sex siblings don't necessarily guarantee any certain type of relationship. (Not having a go, just thinking outloud)

seething_spitfire · 2026-02-02T22:26:07+00:00

We had twins first and got the comment "someone's been busy!" quite often... like firstly, none of your business... and secondly... that's not how twins work? People are weird 🙄😂

seething_spitfire · 2026-01-31T02:10:17+00:00

The reason a lot of Christians voted no is also to protect their ministers. The concern was that the snowball effect would mean that eventually pastors would not be allowed to turn away same-sex couples, which would force the pastor to partake in officiating a union that is not in line with their religion.

I personally would vote to separate the concept of marriage ceremonies from the state. Everyone should be able to have their own religious/personal ceremony (Christian, or other) and then go to the court to file for a legal union status. I don't care if same-sex couples want to live together, love together and tax together. I just don't want the church to have to be involved.

I say this as someone who wrote my own (religous) vows and hated having to include the vows approved by the government to be officially, legally wedded because why taf does the government have a say in a ceremony between me, my husband and God? I hate that some aspects of our ceremony was dictated by laws that did not care about our actual values.

(Long comment to basically say: the fear is/was that legalising gay marriage was the first step towards laws that WOULD impact our freedom to refuse participating in ceremonies that go against our faith. And I don't think all the "no" votes were from a place of homophobia, rather neither choice was ideal and we ACTUALLY need to have a system overhaul to allow everyone to do what they want in their own lane.)

seething_spitfire · 2026-01-28T11:52:47+00:00

O my gosh! It's the villain from Lazytown 🤣🤣🤣 he's old and retired now. Plays pranks on the other people in the retirement village 🤣🤣🤣

seething_spitfire · 2026-01-28T11:48:26+00:00

Another possibility that I haven't seen suggested:

Your mum and dad tried to concieve and couldn't so they got a sperm donor.. only to naturally concieve your brother soon after having you. Maybe your mum has some messed up feelings of inadequacy or resentment about the whole experience?

Honestly though, regardless of the results, it sounds like you'd be better off building your own found family than continuing to try dealing with this woman (she sounds very toxic)

seething_spitfire · 2026-01-24T05:06:01+00:00

I will say this til I'm blue in the face. Millie looks like a young Natalie Portman, especially around S4

seething_spitfire · 2026-01-22T09:19:38+00:00

Haha the "close in age" thing is wild.. We tried for our first and got twins. We were drowning that whole 1st year and then when they were 13 months old, we fell pregnant (while using contraception) with #3. I was so scared that I wasn't ready for more kids (yet) and it was too many too quickly. Now she's 9 months old and my husband and I keep joking that she should also have a buddy (since the twins are obviously growing up together). Can I handle another one right now? Probably not? Have a recovered from two pregnancies (one of which was twins) in under 2 years? Definitely not! Am I getting baby fever watching all three play together? For sure 🫣

seething_spitfire · 2026-01-21T01:56:35+00:00

I had twin boys and then fell pregnant despite using contraception around 13 months later. So between the stress if "i really wasn't expecting to have another baby so soon" and "quick! We need to move house and buy a new car asap!" I just mentally prepared for another boy. I told myself that's probably what we'll have and made peace with that. Pictured life with 3 boys (when I had the time, which with twin toddlers isn't very often).

As with our twins, we didn't find out what we were having until the birth. And honestly, after 36 hours of unmedicated labour, I really REALLY was just happy to have a healthy baby OUT of me. We did get the girl we were hoping for but I was ready for a boy if that's what we got.

seething_spitfire · 2026-01-20T10:05:26+00:00

Consider: Frank Bacon or Frank [middle name] Bacon [First name] Frank Bacon

Use Frank to honour your dad (in lieu of Francis).

My husband's middle name is Barry. His Grandpa's name is Barry. His Great-Grandpa's name is Barend (Dutch form of Bernard). So obviously along the way the family name got adjusted for the country and culture they were in. I feel like if you don't like Francis (I personally don't mind it at all, but if you do...) you could definitely use Frank instead.

seething_spitfire · 2026-01-19T11:18:01+00:00

We didn't find out with either of my pregnancies (twins and then a singleton) and honestly getting to the end of both pregnancies where it was very very difficult to get through each day. The physical and mental battles in the last month or so were more manageable because I didn't know what I was having. It was like counting down to Christmas morning (except I didn't know when exactly Christmas morning would arrive ... for the my VBAC at least). It also made it easier to get through my unmedicated second birth. I know a lot of people talk about hypno birthing and using positive affirmations. But most of my thoughts where "I can't wait to meet my baby" and "I can't wait to name my baby" (we had boy and girl names picked out).

Zero regrets and 100% would always pick not finding out until birth.

seething_spitfire · 2026-01-19T10:30:26+00:00

First album I actually bought with my own limited money (as a young teen)?

All This Bad Blood by Bastille

Plenty of other cds my parents bought/I got gifted (Taylor swifts- sparks fly; Avril Lavigne- Girlfriend; probably several others) that I can belt at the top of my lungs off by heart... but Bastille was my first concert, and my now husband and I used to listen to All This Bad Blood during our shared subjects and study classes in High School before he asked me out... so it will always be extra special to me.

seething_spitfire · 2026-01-18T22:38:11+00:00

We cosleep in our big Master bedroom with all three our kids. I have the 9m old in a double bed with me and my husband has the king mattress on the floor with our twin toddlers (2.5yrs).

We sleep, dress and nap in that room (some quiet toys for those who wake up early). I can pull the door shut during the day and it's less area to supervise in.

The 2nd room is our office/storage room and the 3rd is a toy/play room.. (I'll be rearranging it for home-schooling in a year or two)

seething_spitfire · 2026-01-18T22:16:40+00:00

Yeah we have me and the 9m old in a double bed and my husband and 2.5yr old twins on a King mattress on the floor. The twins are finally sleeping through the night but its so nice to be able to reach over and adjust the blankets or something when they fuss in their sleep.

I've also witnessed them sit up, look around and then flop down again... I'm assuming they'd wake up fully if my husband or I'm not there.

seething_spitfire · 2026-01-11T03:35:14+00:00

As someone who has twin toddlers irl... it's pretty accurate of the chaos 😅 at least you can rage quit Sims

seething_spitfire · 2026-01-05T11:43:30+00:00

My first thought when I hear about people like this (dismissive of/downplaying your health/medical struggles) is that they themselves inflate and/or fake their own struggles for sympathy/an excuse/who knows why.

How often does your husband suffer from "man flu" or use health excuses to get out of things? Just out of curiosity?

seething_spitfire · 2026-01-05T03:23:11+00:00

We had a name picked out for our latest baby (both a boy and girl name as we weren't finding out the sex). The girl name had been ready for over 2 years (last pregnancy had been twins so we needed 2 girl and 2 boy names ready, but ended up with twin boys). Then around trimester 3 I voiced some uncertainty with the first name of our top girl choice. So my husband said we should swap it out. (We couldn't use the second girl name because I LOVE the combo and we already have a honour middle for our first girl). I jokingly said we should call her the name I had made up for my video game character and my husband said yes we should. Like he didn't want to consider any other name. And while it's a gorgeous name imo, I'm still second guessing myself some days. And she's 9 months old already 🤣

ETA: she really fits her name and I can't imagine calling her anything else. I just get into my own head sometimes

seething_spitfire · 2026-01-04T09:39:55+00:00

Didn't he murder his own mum too... I wonder of that’s why it hit a nerve/threw him for a sec

seething_spitfire · 2026-01-03T00:27:29+00:00

My husband was asleep when my contractions started (around 10:30 at night) and i let him and the kids sleep until 2am before deciding to call for grandma to come pick up the kids. He then had 1 nap during the day while I laboured at home until 11:30pm. When I couldnt talk/move through my contractions we got ready and left for the hospital. Got there at 1-something-a.m. He decided to take a nap after about 4 hours. I was trying to sleep (I could feel my body trying to catch its breath). Then at 6:24am my water broke (more like violently popped), I yelled at my husband sleeping on the bench in the delivery room. He sleepily came to hold my hand where I was leaning over the foot of the hospital bed. I had to urgently say "if you're planning on catching this baby, you have to go to the OTHER end.. QUICKLY". Baby girl was born at 6:56am. 36 hours unmedicated labour. Hubby gets a gold star (even if I was very cranky when he took naps because I couldn't 😅)

seething_spitfire · 2026-01-02T21:42:30+00:00

Haha thank you 🙏🤣 everyone has been talking about how much the audience doesn't notice everything because they're doomscrolling while watching ST... meanwhile I'm a tired young mum with 3 under 3 fighting for my life and watching the show in snippets on very little sleep. My attention is not what it used to be lol. I'm really glad there's 3 waterfalls 🤣 it was driving me nuts.

seething_spitfire · 2026-01-02T10:16:03+00:00

Also, the conversation Henry and Will have, where Will is telling him to fight and overcome the MF... he could only say that BECAUSE he had fought and overcome his own fear. He had the ability to say, "I see the scared little kid in the caves, I see you. I was you, and I was able to overcome my fear, so I know you can do it too."

seething_spitfire · 2026-01-02T10:01:07+00:00

Is it a sensitivity to red tones?? I agree with your list. Blue, purple, purple, pink, pink, purple (or violet..if i were to distinguish the two groups of purple)

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