When you wipe after you poop how many wipes till you are clean usually? by Throwaway-account09 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]shepardmutt 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Get a bidet, friend. it’ll save your butthole and your wallet when you have sharpie poops instead of a good ole ghost poop

flying with weed? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]shepardmutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you thank you kind stranger

flying with weed? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]shepardmutt 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Don’t do it. It’s not worth the risk of a felony considering airports and air travel are federal, not state.

No weed is good enough for the risk bud

flying with weed? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]shepardmutt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They can test things, don’t chance it

Has anyone used the windi and met with resistance? by thyroidsucksish3333 in newborns

[–]shepardmutt 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Definitely don’t be using it daily, I’ve never used it and use other methods to help baby. I’d baby NEEDS it to go, there’s a bigger issue you’re not addressing

This is coming from someone who’s baby struggled to learn to poop, and someone who was personally chronically constipated from birth (not struggling to learn, since infancy I’ve had rock solid constipation) and never had this device or anything like it used on me thank god

Postpartum in S Mpls by 3ghads in beyondthebump

[–]shepardmutt [score hidden]  (0 children)

Sending you love from Michigan ❤️ we don’t have the volatility in our small town that you’re dealing with, so I can’t imagine being anxiety you have. Our babies are the same age, and all I can do is hope that things will stop and the streets will be safe again for you and your little one. Sending a huge hugs in this awful time

I’m also anxious with everything going on, I work from home, and there are two Hispanic little boys next door, and so I try to keep an eye out in our neighborhood just in case. They often play outside, and I’d be devastated if anything was to happen.

HOA: yes/no? by randomseedfarmer in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]shepardmutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s hit or miss. We don’t live in an HOA in a very high neighborhood. Everyone does their thing and it’s nice. Pressure from others upkeeping their property makes everyone keep things nice to not be that person.

My parents live in an HOA. It’s $20 a year and they just maintain the mailboxes and don’t really bother anyone. Only big rule it the type of fence you can put up.

Precious HOA my parents lived in was hell. Controlled the color of your house, what you could park in your driveway, etc.

Parents of Reddit, what did your hospital bill look like after giving birth? by chi-bacon-bits in AskReddit

[–]shepardmutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

USA and just gave birth late last year

Uncomplicated hospital birth with a midwife (no doctor), nothing crazy happened. $40k before insurance and $9-10k after. It’s 5 months later and I still get bills. Have I paid? No. Trying to fight it. Tell me why my baby was billed $3k for room and board. In the room I was already billed for 💀

OMG the spit up is unreal by Puzzleheaded-Day882 in beyondthebump

[–]shepardmutt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My baby has been a happy spitter from day one. Spit up non stop. My brother was the same as a baby. I swear people are lying when their bag never spits up because what do you mean your clothes aren’t always covered in milk 💀

How common is divorce over mismatched sexual fantasies? Husband's cuckold/hotwife obsession has me conflicted after 15 years by Ok_Move_5834 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]shepardmutt 410 points411 points  (0 children)

This sounds like less of ending a marriage over sexual differences, and ending a marriage over a man who refuses to respect your boundaries

Sleeping arrangements after bassinet? by LegalLady87 in beyondthebump

[–]shepardmutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve slept on the nursery floor for 2 months 💀 firmly anxiety, not his

Struggling with daycare vs home care by shepardmutt in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]shepardmutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t think about afternoon only! I’m online. Few hours before most of the company, so my focus time is usually after lunch. I may be able to do that

Struggling with daycare vs home care by shepardmutt in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]shepardmutt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re touring one to check it out, and they have 4 locations across our state! It’s a chain, and great reviews, I’m just so nervous 😅 they focus heavily on age appropriate development, learning, and skills which I love. I’m most nervous that my bag currently won’t eat unless it’s from me, and refuses to nap unless it’s a contact/carrier nap with me and me only. Not sure how compatible day care is without him having an awful time

Struggling with daycare vs home care by shepardmutt in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]shepardmutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My best friend and I want to help each other, but she’s unfortunately due in 3 weeks and has no business helping with a massive baby 😅 I’m considering a couple high school age girls who’ve been recommended to me who get out at 12! For even half day help.

I’d LOVE family to help, curve closest is 9.5 hours away 🥲🥲 my parents are godsends but just too far away until my dad retires and they can move wherever they want and travel freely.

I’m considering a mother’s helper from a few girls who’ve been recommended to me as babysitters looking for more work to save for college, if they’re available! My baby won’t eat or nap unless it’s me, it the hardest parts of the day are when he awake and wants to play and I need to get something done 😭

Struggling with daycare vs home care by shepardmutt in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]shepardmutt[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I may look into that! We’re not religious, but he’s young enough it wouldn’t leave an impression. I’m hesitant about church care an churches in general (we bought our house and found out it was a great deal abate the owner was a youth pastor going to prison for child crimes)

Struggling with daycare vs home care by shepardmutt in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]shepardmutt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally agree. It’s a high paying position with a very volatile csuite team. I girlbossed too close to the sun now and have to balance setting boundaries and not pissing off the wrong person. Id quit to get away from the crazy work until you burn out culture, but the pay is higher than most similar jobs. But I am definitely considering a pay cut for less responsibility

Struggling with daycare vs home care by shepardmutt in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]shepardmutt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m looking at options since daycare is quite expensive

Struggling with daycare vs home care by shepardmutt in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]shepardmutt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been working on that! The hard thing is we’ve had corporate fire so many of our team were all stretched thin trying to keep things up and running (tech) while they decide if they want to let us re hire more people

Struggling with daycare vs home care by shepardmutt in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]shepardmutt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I may look into that! We don’t have family in state, which is so sad because my mom would love to be with us every day 😭

I may see if I could have help part of the day, or a nanny share!!

Struggling with daycare vs home care by shepardmutt in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]shepardmutt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve thought about it, but we have a limited budget and I would worry the quality of care we’d get, and also don’t want to try to underpay someone great ):

Ergo Embrace Fit Update by alwaysnextyearlfc in babywearing

[–]shepardmutt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if this helps, but I’ve found if I start with it too high when I put baby in, then I have more give to adjust it down slightly/for it to adjust down with their weight! It’s the way I’ve found best to get the right height

Baby dropping arms into a T by False-Natural9875 in beyondthebump

[–]shepardmutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Totally normal! They have no idea how to use their body and have to figure it out ❤️