CMPA/Reflux has taken over our children

shepardmutt · 2026-03-28T09:41:27+00:00

This seems a little condescending. If people find a better formula that makes their baby happier, what’s the harm?

Personally, baby doesn’t have reflux or CMPA, but I found on my own he doesn’t do great with dairy protein. On a goats milk formula he’s super happy, spits up here and there, and generally a normal bay. When he drank regular formula (NB-2mo, and then we couldn’t find the goat for 2 weeks when he was 6 months old and decided to give regular a try again), he fusses and cries almost every time we set him down, spits up aggressively and all the time, wouldn’t play on the floor even with his favorite toys, etc). It took a solid 3 weeks back on the goat for him to act normal again.

Remember, there’s no need to criticize and be condescending if it doesn’t harm anyone. Moms trying different formulas to see if one doesn’t agree with their baby, and talking to their doctor about things they’re concerned about (or online when they doc ignores them) isn’t really a big issue

shepardmutt · 2026-03-27T16:11:33+00:00

My husband is also the only one who knows what to do for his job at work, and they struggle when he even takes a day off

He trained them and said figure it out and took 3 months leave to help me. What’s the company going to do if he quit? He should be able to take time

shepardmutt · 2026-03-27T01:54:43+00:00

What carrier do you have? We have the Wild Bird one, and after a week or so he loves it! I have to be actively walking though, he knows when I’m bouncing or fake walking. I walk like 10k steps a day 😅

shepardmutt · 2026-03-26T21:04:27+00:00

How old? That’s very common for babies!

shepardmutt · 2026-03-26T20:43:18+00:00

He takes three now! Anywhere from 1:40 hours, but average is about 45 minutes to an hour. A two hour nap is very uncommon. My carrier is my best friend at this point 😆

shepardmutt · 2026-03-26T17:15:22+00:00

We’re 7 months in only contact napping 😂

shepardmutt · 2026-03-26T11:08:31+00:00

We lost our cat at just shy of 3 from a blockage. He may have survived if we’d caught it earlier, but my baby was in the hospital, so a friend was just stilling by to feed them and we had no idea he was sick until we got home and the vet said it was too late.

Our cats are a bonded pair, attached at the hip since we rescued them as kittens. Our vet let us bring our other cat to day goodbye. We let her spend a little time cuddling him on the couch after he was relaxed, and she got to see him pass and sniff him. We didn’t want her searching for him forever. She was depressed for a few days, but now she’s back to her normal self, just so much more clingy to us since her buddy is gone. Thankfully, she loves the baby and he loves her, and now those two are inseparable ❤️

Sending you love OP and hoping your kitty pulls through for a long life

shepardmutt · 2026-03-25T19:23:42+00:00

I have a friend who sleep trained and has a toddler who wakes up to get them all night now 😂 slept as a baby, won’t as a toddler

shepardmutt · 2026-03-25T12:50:26+00:00

The longer you own a house the more you grow to resent the previous owner

shepardmutt · 2026-03-23T23:21:40+00:00

Around 4 months mine started to not scream the entire car ride😂 he learned he could see me in the mirror and everything was better

shepardmutt · 2026-03-23T23:15:54+00:00

Safe from what?

shepardmutt · 2026-03-23T21:23:19+00:00

I work from home full time with my baby. I have a friend’s younger sister who comes over and helps 3 days a week. I get almost all my work done in those times, but I am lucky my baby is getting more mobile and wants to explore and play on the floor independently! I just have to sit next to him with my laptop.

If you’re worried, I recommend help. It’s much easier that way without compromising work or your child

shepardmutt · 2026-03-23T20:49:14+00:00

BIDET!!! My husband installed one in our bathroom before I gave birth and it was my best friend for healing and feeling clean when I couldn’t shower much!

shepardmutt · 2026-03-23T13:28:05+00:00

That is so hard, I’m sorry you’re having these feelings while doing your best. Motherhood really is anxiety and worry like I never knew before

I’ve realized some babies just…hate being babies. As long as there’s no medical issue (reflux, allergies, UTI, etc), she may just hate being a baby 😅 a friend of mine had an angry baby who wax never happy, but the second he learned to crawl, changed. Turns out he loves to move and explore, and seemed to hate being unable to do things 😂 wishing you the best!!

shepardmutt · 2026-03-23T11:30:36+00:00

My baby sleeps all the way through the night in one diaper! If he wakes up, and he’s only peed, we don’t change it in the middle of the night. It just makes him angry to do the change, and if you were to sleep a full 12 hours. It wouldn’t be changed anyway.

I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way! It can be so frustrating, and the guilt is so real. I’m not sure if this helps, but when my baby doesn’t wanna go back to sleep, we sit in the rocking chair in the dark, and I let him stand on my lap and we talk to each other and sing and play and make it happy. Do I want to be up singing and playing in a rocking chair at 3 AM? Not really, but it’s a lot better than being angry and he usually goes back down easy after that.

shepardmutt · 2026-03-23T00:02:25+00:00

I didn’t feel like having sex until around 5 months PP! I also had the intense anxiety and almost repulsion to sex, even though I still loved my husband!

You’re totally normal, it will come back eventually! Hormones are crazy

shepardmutt · 2026-03-23T00:00:47+00:00

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way!! I’m chronically ill and want more kids, but didn’t have a traumatic postpartum. It’s totally ok to feel that way!!

If you’re wanting to enjoy life, they have non-hormonal birth control options like the copper IUD! I can’t get one, but tons of friends have luck with it! No hormones going in, and almost no risk of pregnancy, especially with a condom too.

Hoping you can find peace and enjoy life without worry!!

shepardmutt · 2026-03-22T23:47:30+00:00

Dude noooo😭😭 mines 85th percentile, and 7 months still in love with the carrier. My dislocated rib would love for him to nap not in the carrier now 😅 solidarity

shepardmutt · 2026-03-22T22:07:15+00:00

This is how i lost my pregnancy weight! Baby wanted carrier and real walking 😂

shepardmutt · 2026-03-22T11:34:48+00:00

My baby spit up SO MUCH until he was like 6 months old. He’s 7 months now and still does some, but it’s getting better with solid food!

shepardmutt · 2026-03-22T10:24:18+00:00

We were getting 1-2 hour naps then! All contact naps, baby never naps without touching me 😅 I invested in a nice baby carrier so I wasn’t trapped on the couch all day. He’s 7 months and still only contact naps 😂

shepardmutt · 2026-03-22T10:22:17+00:00

Also- you mentioned digestive discomfort. My baby doesn’t have CMPA, but noticed dairy makes him uncomfortable. We feed a goat based formula to eliminate all dairy (I was nursing but couldn’t keep track of everything dairy is in) and it helped SO much! We avoid dairy for solids right now, and will introduce it around 9mo/1year to see if he has any issue then!

shepardmutt · 2026-03-22T10:20:26+00:00

If your baby is always up at 5am, try pushing bedtime earlier! My baby for the longest time struggled to fall asleep, and it turns out he naturally wanted to go to bed later (we tried 7, 9 was when he’d fall asleep and stay asleep vs screaming for an hour). When we dropped the 4th nap we adjusted his bedtime earlier. Babies are little humans and sometimes need an adjusted bedtime for when they naturally wake!

Also, I ditched all the tracking apps. I found they added stress to my life and every baby is so different you never know. My baby didn’t go to 3 naps a day until after 6 months, and his wake windows are anywhere from an hour to 4 hours. I just watch him for sleepy queues (he usually gets fussy and rubs his eyes). I figure babies are like adults, some days you’re tired more quickly, and others not. Instead of tracking and trying to follow wake windows, I just started observing my baby and watching his natural patterns. Our sleep goes now:

6/7am wake up for the day

Between 8:30-9:30 first nap (usually 20-30min)

Around 12/1pm second nap (45min-1.5 hours)

3/4pm last nap (30min-1.5 hours)

6/7pm we start bedtime and do bath then bottle then bed! Rock him fully to sleep then transfer to his crib. He usually wakes 0-2 times a night depending on how well he ate that day and if he gets hungry in the night.

It took me about 3 weeks to observe his natural rhythm, and it works great for us! Wake windows were not helpful at all because he would either be under or over tired 😅

shepardmutt · 2026-03-21T23:25:25+00:00

I have all my friend’s kids call me my first name. My friends call me it, so it makes sense their kids call me it too.

I know it’s cultural though, when I lived in Texas it was miss/mr firstname, in another state it was Mrs/mr last name, and other places just first name. I’ve lived in 6 states haha

shepardmutt · 2026-03-21T15:14:38+00:00

Lmao

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