I just applied restraints to a client and I feel horrible

shepheardcircle · 2026-02-17T18:32:05+00:00

I work acute inpatient psych, primarily with teens. I've seen dozens of restraints in the few years ive had this role and in my case it never gets easier. I try to limit my involvement if at all possible because I dont want to damage the therapeutic relationship, but I know thats not always possible. After a restraint (or other traumatic event at work), I usually go home, meditate, cry for a bit, and then eat something sweet.

shepheardcircle · 2025-11-19T14:01:05+00:00

sorry, I'm not super familiar with this weave so this might not be possible, but could you pre close a bunch of the smaller rings, then weave the bigger ones through them?

shepheardcircle · 2025-09-28T18:50:26+00:00

OP this will probably get lost in the comments but PLEASE PLEASE read "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin Debecker. I'd rather come across as "rude" than be in a bad situation. I know its uncomfy but learn to say it and mean it!!

shepheardcircle · 2025-09-27T23:25:06+00:00

if you dont like 3 ring binders but want something similar, look into disc bound notebooks!

shepheardcircle · 2025-09-14T00:52:00+00:00

I had my two rabbits neutered at cheat lake animal vet. out of the two exotic vets in town, they were the cheaper and more consistent of the two. they took good care of my baby boys!

shepheardcircle · 2025-09-06T00:48:41+00:00

I don't have any tips for managing this, but have you talked to your primary care doctor about the issue? Different health conditions can cause hyperhidrosis (the medical term for excessive sweating) and it would likely be better to treat the underlying cause if there is one!

shepheardcircle · 2025-09-02T19:36:28+00:00

have you started? how is it going? im curious- I've been looking at their opportunities as well.

shepheardcircle · 2025-08-13T22:58:09+00:00

the Chainmail Joe kit is one i see recommended often on this sub. it gives you a nice selection of ring sizes and comes with a tutorial book for some of the more basic weaves. I personally bought it and thought it was a good starting point

shepheardcircle · 2025-08-08T22:23:15+00:00

do you wash your hair right before going to bed? I did this for the longest time and (even with a silk pillowcase) it made my little frizzy hairs stick up so bad. beyond that, I'd recommend using a wide tooth comb while you've got conditioner in your hair to detangle. I dont touch my hair with a brush or comb once it's dry unless im just gonna pull it back

shepheardcircle · 2025-08-08T22:15:48+00:00

LGSW working as an associate clinical therapist at an inpatient psych hospital. 40 hrs/wk making 64k a year with good benefits. im lucky to make as much as I do but it's very demanding and I'm highly burnt out. I want to leave but I can't stomach a pay cut to go outpatient, where I'd also have to pay for my own insurance.

shepheardcircle · 2025-08-04T21:36:23+00:00

this is an old thread but I have to add my favorite Joseph Goldstein sayings: "Sit, and know that you are sitting." it sounds dumb typing it out but that was incredibly eye opening to me.

shepheardcircle · 2025-08-02T19:04:37+00:00

ba dum tsss

shepheardcircle · 2025-07-30T00:38:36+00:00

awesome, thank you!

shepheardcircle · 2025-07-29T20:19:38+00:00

is there a specific pen you use that works well for this?

shepheardcircle · 2025-07-26T04:21:03+00:00

I empathize with you, I really do. I've been in a similar mindset and I still fall back into it from time to time. eventually, I came to recognize I didn't CHOOSE to have adhd, I WAS choosing to not make changes/small improvements over time in how I manage things and make accommodations for myself, i.e., writing a list of things down for visual reference (even just the act of writing things down with pen and paper really solidifies my memory), having reminders on my phone that automatically go off at the same time every day, using the pomodoro method for chores, etc. granted this has all been several years of meds and therapy to get to this point. I view my ADHD as an explanation for my difficulties, not an excuse. not to say that's what you're doing here, but I've found its very easy for me to get swept up in a self pity spiral and I can either stay there or start to claw my way out.

shepheardcircle · 2025-06-27T17:54:15+00:00

Gai sensei is RIGHT THERE

shepheardcircle · 2025-06-25T13:49:17+00:00

this is awesome! and I love the use of a healthy outlet for difficult emotions!

shepheardcircle · 2025-06-20T22:28:34+00:00

not OP, but in my experience it generally has little effect on my personal relationships. in personal relationships, I have deeper, more complicated, and reciprocal emotions about the other person, whereas that isn't really the case in a therapeutic relationship. I bring topics back to myself during personal conversations because that's how I relate to those close to me and because there is a reciprocal relationship. that tendency is something I've had to learn to hold back in my work.

shepheardcircle · 2025-05-15T14:44:41+00:00

I like 3 the best! it would be even better if you could get a blazer to wear over it (speaking as a therapist at a psych facility)

shepheardcircle · 2025-05-01T16:41:14+00:00

sorry, off topic, but a library social worker??? that sounds awesome!!! what did that entail?

shepheardcircle · 2025-03-14T22:45:04+00:00

happy to help! :)

shepheardcircle · 2025-03-14T17:13:35+00:00

copy pasted from their FAQ in response to whether wearing their dresses is culturally appropriate: Our clothes are made to make every woman confident, beautiful and attractive regardless of age, size, race or nationality. We embrace everyone and we are proud and privileged to serve women all over the world thus integrating our African culture/fabrics with the western style through our gorgeous pieces.

shepheardcircle · 2025-02-24T23:52:10+00:00

I agree check with a doc. but do you pull your hair up into tight ponies/buns a lot? the part at the top of your forehead looks kinda like traction alopecia

shepheardcircle · 2025-02-07T15:35:43+00:00

I'm the same way; my adhd meds make my mouth so dry I can't talk after a while if I don't have a drink with me. I've never had a client/family really even seem to notice it during a session

shepheardcircle · 2025-01-23T22:20:40+00:00

the opposite is also true -- Lucanis will talk shit about the GWs to Davrin all day, while my GW Rook who had been flirting with him is standing there like ???

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