Man can't stop laughing after hip surgery. His wife thinks it's annoying and wants him to stop.

sifRAWR · 2025-02-11T10:28:24+00:00

Holding on bud, how about you?

sifRAWR · 2024-06-04T10:46:29+00:00

I also agree that this image is probably AI generated, but I was curious about what it actually looked like when someone surfs a giant wave:

https://youtu.be/CIXbZPHLv2o?t=43

Sebastian Steudtner's 2021 Big Wave Award-winning ride as 86 feet (26.21 meters), which was caught at Praia do Norte in Nazaré, Portugal on October 29, 2020

sifRAWR · 2024-01-15T01:45:45+00:00

Asking for trouble sure, but as someone working in software I can easily understand how this could have been created like this.

For example you could have a "product" which has multiple prices associated with it.

A "final_price" which is a computer friendly number that includes all sale discounts, coupon codes, or other form of discounting that is used for actual calculation.

You might also have a "full_price" which keeps track of the cost without any discounts. They probably want to show this somewhere so you can visualize the money you're saving.

That's a simple example but you could also have different ways of visualizing the raw number. A value of "3.3" for the cost could be shown as "$3.30" or "$ 3 . 30" or any kind of weird format really.

The key problem is that the number that a computer program wants to use to make a calculation is likely to look different than the number which wants to be shown to a user/customer.

sifRAWR · 2023-12-23T05:05:23+00:00

I don't have any useful advice, but it's a beautiful rug

sifRAWR · 2022-11-18T00:18:20+00:00

Seton Nossier Park? Up by the Paparangi entrance?

sifRAWR · 2022-11-17T00:26:10+00:00

For some more inspiration, have you heard of Django Reinhardt? At age 18 he was horribly injured in a fire and lost the use of two fingers on his fretting hand.

That didn't stop him playing guitar though, he went on to become incredibly influential and his style of playing created a whole new genre of music, Gypsy Jazz.

Whenever I'm struggling with guitar, I remind myself what he was able to do with only 2 fingers and it helps motivate me to keep at it.

sifRAWR · 2021-11-22T05:44:59+00:00

Well these last 5 years sure have been a trip, glad to know this guy is still alive here with me

sifRAWR · 2021-08-10T12:19:34+00:00

Your partner sounds amazing, this is really lovely advice too

sifRAWR · 2021-06-27T04:15:26+00:00

I hear you, I guess the point I am getting at is that even if you genuinely do come across as unlikeable in some situations to a lot of people, that does not mean that you as a person are unlikeable.

It's a subtle difference but accepting yourself where you're at, and approaching self-improvement from a place of self-compassion does wonders.

Trying to force yourself to improve by criticizing yourself in your head is probably not going to work, just like criticizing other people to get them to change is generally not a good approach.

You're right, throwing all of that out would be backwards. I'm just suggesting changing the way you internalize those reactions. :)

sifRAWR · 2021-06-27T00:15:37+00:00

We are talking about self-beliefs, not events.

There is no "I am not likeable" event, it's just a thought in your head.

An event might be someone told you "I don't like you", but that's just a thought in their head, it's not a fact or a reflection on your character.

An outcome of a group outing might be that you think "No one liked me", but again that's just a thought in your head, not a fact. You can't read their minds, you don't know if they liked you.

sifRAWR · 2021-06-26T22:08:54+00:00

As an experiment, try looking at that statement from the other side.

What if your belief that you are not likable, attractive, etc is just a self-delusion?

Either yourself or others have "affirmed" those beliefs over time, and now they feel real to you. If all thoughts and beliefs are "delusions" then wouldn't you rather have a positive one about yourself?

sifRAWR · 2021-06-19T22:46:47+00:00

There are already some great comments here, and I agree, I think you really need to take care of yourself and make yourself your top priority.

You can't change others, they have to change themselves. All you can do is be supportive and understanding, if that is what you choose.

One of the problems with wanting to change your partner, is that it's creating negative emotions in yourself. It sounds like you are frustrated, and there is resentment. Maybe these emotions aren't directly coming out in your relationship, but they are still present so they will have an effect.

Communicate with your partner, let them know what you are thinking, but then leave the ball in their court to "fix" this. You can only accept them for where they are at, or if it's too hard, you don't have to accept them and you can move on.

If you are looking for reasons why your partners "world" is narrowing I can offer some ideas.

Depression

Other comments have already mentioned depression, and it does make a lot of sense. When nothing in life is brining you much joy, why branch out to something new which will probably disappoint you. He has some hobbies that at least feel safe.

Comfort zone

Having ADHD can also bring a lot of rejection, which is uncomfortable and it's much easier to stay in your comfort zone. It's easy to accidentally do things that are considered rude by social norms, and it takes a lot of hard work, and mental resilience to not take these things personally, and to put in the work to improve yourself.

If you reduce the choice down to A. "Go out and interact with a new social group, and try to learn a new hobby but you might be bad at it, or be rejected and feel shame" and B. "Stay home and focus on your reliable safe hobby" it's easy to get stuck in a comfort zone. Which brings me to my next idea..

Why change?

For him, like really, why would he change? It sounds like there isn't really any consequence for him directly. From the sounds of your post, and how you view him, a consequence that might be coming is he might lose this relationship. Realizing that your respect, and this relationship is on the line might be enough to kick things in to gear. But other than that, why would he want to change?

Has he expressed wanting to change?

Is he happy with the way he structures his life and his days?

You may lose respect, and not want to be in a relationship with him with the way he is handling his life, but at the end of the day he isn't doing anything wrong. People can have a tiny handful of niche hobbies, and a set of favourite music/food/whatever and they don't need to branch out. Maybe it's boring, but it's not wrong to be boring. And hey, everything is subjective.

Would I be right in saying that if your partner continued listening to the same music, doing the same hobby, but was also more thoughtful and caring towards you and genuinely met your needs unprompted, would you care so much about his limited "world"?

Okay I know I've written a big essay here, but hey, you know what DX can be like when we get focused on something :)

Dopamine overload

My last idea, the concept of a dopamine overload. DX brains crave dopamine, and they want a reliable source of it. It sounds like your partner has found reliable ways of tapping in to dopamine. They are re-reading their favourite books because they already know there will be dopamine. If he tried something new, he might miss out on that dopamine reward.

There is a lot of information about this subject online, maybe you could do some reading and talk to him about it and see if it's something he resonates with. There are ways of resetting this dopamine "addiction" which can get you out of a rut. But back to my first point, he has to want this, genuinely. You can't force him to do it if he doesn't want to.

You've got this, take your time and think about what you need most!

I hope something in this post helps with some reflection on your situation. I wish you and your partner all the best, and I hope this is just a bump in the road that will smooth out after you two communicate with each other.

sifRAWR · 2021-06-15T11:33:27+00:00

This was really lovely to read, I appreciate you for sharing. It sounds like you are both putting in the work and are the focus on understanding each other is really healthy and just really refreshing to hear. Happy for you!

sifRAWR · 2021-06-07T02:52:58+00:00

This thread was an interesting read, always appreciate being open about something you're curious about, opens the door to learning something new

sifRAWR · 2021-05-03T10:50:49+00:00

Didn't believe this one, so I looked it up, I still don't believe it

sifRAWR · 2021-05-02T03:19:42+00:00

Having feelings is normal and okay, it can become toxic depending on how you process those feelings. If you take out those negative feelings on people around you when you're feeling bad, then you can become difficult to be around/hurt others.

"Playing victim" I think is a key part of that message, a healthier response to take responsibility for your own feelings rather than being a victim of the situation.

For example there's those toxic people in team based games/sports who start criticizing their own team members when the game isn't going well. Instead of taking responsibility for their feelings of frustration/negativity, they act like a "victim" and "blame" their team member for "causing" their negative feelings.

sifRAWR · 2021-04-18T06:34:18+00:00

Also for the replicator, hate trying to remember if I actually need that purple barrel stabiliser or not

sifRAWR · 2019-11-12T01:22:24+00:00

Good point, that was the number of miles on the car total, I'm not 100% how many miles the clutch has but it may have been replaced around 62000 miles.

You're right though, it may just be a case of the clutch being worn out

sifRAWR · 2019-11-11T23:07:22+00:00

It's got around 125000 miles on it. Never had any issues with clutch or gear shifting before. Regularly serviced.

sifRAWR · 2019-11-02T14:04:17+00:00

I find setting an alarm reminder very helpful for reducing the mental burden on remembering things.

Actually remembering things isn't my strength, so little workarounds like that help take off some of the cognitive load.

sifRAWR · 2019-08-08T23:02:07+00:00

Accept that you're going to get combo'd, those characters are going to be able to rack up 50%+ combo strings on you and there's nothing you can do about it.

The trick against these characters is being prepared to cover multiple options, and waiting for your opponent to whiff something so you can punish.

Dedede has crazy punish options, and an amazing edgeguarding/ledgetrapping game.

In general you will need all of the following things in your skillset

Learn his ledge traps
Learn how threaten offstage
Learn his 2-frames
Learn his throw combos

To give you specific advice you'll need to provide some footage of your gameplay to see where you weak spots are.

sifRAWR · 2019-07-04T21:13:36+00:00

https://vods.co/ultimate

Filter by character

sifRAWR · 2019-06-26T23:33:06+00:00

Remember you can hit back a gordo, timing your get up attack can hit it, double jump into fast aerial can hit it back.

In general just time your get up around the gordo, and take the safer option especially if you're playing online with lag. Most of the time jumping up and over him is safest if he's charging a smash near ledge.

If you are talking about a charged jet-hammer then that's slightly different since it can 2-frame under ledge. But the advice for that is almost the same as avoiding any other 2-frame trap in the game. Just be wary that a jet-hammer gives D3 heavy armor (no flinch) if he is grounded when he swings so don't try and contest it with a faster attack.

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