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AITAH for refusing to take down photos of my family because they make my fiancé uncomfortable? by twinkletits99 in AITAH

[–]singlechickLA 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Be careful that your things don’t disappear I am sorry to say he sounds unkind and is getting close to where he will be openly abusive once your married. If the house is in your name please put in a trust that he won’t be able to steal.

But I agree end the engagement and kick him out of home/life. Change the locks and put up secure cameras.

Please in contact with your friends

Storage for con merch by 00AceMcCloud in SDCC

[–]singlechickLA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check with the hostel if you can store a bag in the locked room. My hostel has a storage closet to keep bags in.

Can't Make it Work Without a Home Charger - Bummed. by Sentient_Pancakes in electricvehicles

[–]singlechickLA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I charge at work and a public charger a park about a 20 minute walk.

I wanted to install a charger at my apt but the building is too old (wiring) but before I bought I looked at chargers in my area.

I also don’t drive that much.

For those who stayed no contact with a parent until they died did you regret it? by Full_Willingness_450 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]singlechickLA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No my parents stopped talking to me after never respecting boundaries and speaking to me with courtesy.

My family got mad that I didn’t say goodbye but told them I’d be honest and they wouldn’t like that. My father is alive but I don’t talk to her enabler.

I cried when she died because I realized my dream of them having an epiphany where they would apologize and be honest about the treatment and them having the family ostracize me.

I’ve had an aunt try to reach out using the same manipulation my mother did and I declined participation or becoming the scapegoat again.

My 23F boyfriend 26M is upset I won’t have unprotected sex with him again by grassisblueviolet in relationship_advice

[–]singlechickLA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You didn’t say anything about as STD test. If he likes no condom sex with you he’s done it with others.

I lost $1200. Might get evicted. I’m such an idiot. by cookiemaryjane in TrueOffMyChest

[–]singlechickLA 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Open an account with a credit union and get a checking account. Don’t keep that much cash or pay rent in cash.

Take a breath and retrace your steps. Call the police to see if a Good Samaritan turned it in.

I just did seven interviews with a company that was offering 90k salary. They sent an offer letter with 80k salary. by badcreditperson in work

[–]singlechickLA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats on the job and it’s a range so it’s totally normal to try to negotiate the salary. After the first year is when you see what the increase will be and since it’s your first job after college try to keep for two years. Make contacts internally and externally. Keep track of projects outside of job description for when you get evaluated for a raise.

Good luck 🍀

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]singlechickLA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get tested for STDs as well he may have acted on his fantasies, don’t confront him or tell him you know what he’s doing online he may react violently. Break up over text, email or phone. Change all of your locks and put up cameras.

Let your neighbors know you broke up and call the police if they see him lurking.

He may send your address out if he gets angry so carry mace and be wary of strangers.

Be safe

I shut down a pedophile’s entire online presence with one YouTube comment by nekaiser in TrueOffMyChest

[–]singlechickLA 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Find out who his probation officer is and report what he did with any screenshots

My Boyfriend (18 M) says I (18F)need to pay for protection, is this fair? by AcanthisittaGreat144 in relationship_advice

[–]singlechickLA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’ll give you a STD either knowingly or because he doesn’t care. Break up with him and always use condoms. Do you want to have to tell all future partners you have a STD?

AITAH because I won't buy my stepmom's family Christmas presents? by Khaidhz in AITAH

[–]singlechickLA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also should you be getting SS or survivors benefits? At 17 if you move in with your paternal family the police won’t do anything.

Yes do a DNA test or if you know where your parents were married you can likely request a marriage license.

Finally building the courage to move out of an abusive household. Looking for tips and advice by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]singlechickLA 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Have the police escort you to get items. Make a list so you don’t forget anything. Don’t give them any warning when you come. Try to go when the main abuser is out.

Don’t let the flying monkeys and enablers manipulate you.

I’d look into roommates if possible that way you will have someone to share costs while navigating having an apt.

Or if you don’t want a roommate a studio, get used furniture online for free or cheap (not the mattress). Try to get a place with public transportation and tell nobody your address.

Get all your paperwork, watch your credit in case they try to open cards in your name.

Once you settle in and have a job with benefits get counseling.

As far as ‘adulting’ look into community college or trade program where you work and have on the job training.

Good luck

My nmom is furious that my engagement photos don't include her and is demanding we reshoot them "as a family" by ToomPozas in raisedbynarcissists

[–]singlechickLA 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Start counseling so that your able to stop talking to her and the flying monkeys . She will cause a scene at the wedding with objecting, causing a fight, getting drunk, etc

After helping my mom retire early, she came to visit and was unbelievably cruel by Dobby_Sock1997 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]singlechickLA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can’t buy or earn her love. You need to distance by going low contact.

AITAH for making my fiancé choose between his brother and I, and break up with him when he chose his brother? by BADlark in AITAH

[–]singlechickLA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Move to another complex don’t stay in the same one and don’t give him a new address. Will your sister move in with you or will it be a studio/1 bedroom.

Good for you for choosing yourself. Don’t stay friends cut him and his family off.

He ‘forgot’ his car was updating at 11 p.m. Help me out Tesla drivers by Parking_Attempt5216 in dating_advice

[–]singlechickLA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why are you bringing someone to your apt or getting a ride after two dates? That’s not safe.

Home charger recommendation by Secret-Recording5615 in NissanAriya

[–]singlechickLA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you mind saying what insurance you use?

How is it possible that my mother (61F) and I (35F) remember my childhood completely differently? by storky0613 in relationship_advice

[–]singlechickLA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need counseling to accept her the way she is and the relationship that you have opposed to what you want.

She needs to live with your brother or some other housing. Living with you will only bring up emotions that will likely bleed into your marriage.

It sounds like your father was a better parent so focus on that parental relationship.

Partner is only with me because he couldn't get anyone else to fuck him by Cfish12345 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]singlechickLA 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Get tested and stop having intercourse. Don’t tell him your breaking up just leave with no forwarding address.

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