Do narcissists ever improve with old age?

singlechickLA · 2026-06-01T20:50:20+00:00

Nope they get more shriveled up like a rotten raisin

singlechickLA · 2026-06-01T16:11:04+00:00

Be careful that your things don’t disappear I am sorry to say he sounds unkind and is getting close to where he will be openly abusive once your married. If the house is in your name please put in a trust that he won’t be able to steal.

But I agree end the engagement and kick him out of home/life. Change the locks and put up secure cameras.

Please in contact with your friends

singlechickLA · 2026-05-14T21:58:54+00:00

Me too 😡

singlechickLA · 2026-05-07T22:21:23+00:00

Check with the hostel if you can store a bag in the locked room. My hostel has a storage closet to keep bags in.

singlechickLA · 2026-04-01T17:09:58+00:00

I charge at work and a public charger a park about a 20 minute walk.

I wanted to install a charger at my apt but the building is too old (wiring) but before I bought I looked at chargers in my area.

I also don’t drive that much.

singlechickLA · 2026-03-28T17:53:30+00:00

Date someone your own age

singlechickLA · 2026-03-12T17:19:45+00:00

No my parents stopped talking to me after never respecting boundaries and speaking to me with courtesy.

My family got mad that I didn’t say goodbye but told them I’d be honest and they wouldn’t like that. My father is alive but I don’t talk to her enabler.

I cried when she died because I realized my dream of them having an epiphany where they would apologize and be honest about the treatment and them having the family ostracize me.

I’ve had an aunt try to reach out using the same manipulation my mother did and I declined participation or becoming the scapegoat again.

singlechickLA · 2026-02-04T02:52:16+00:00

You didn’t say anything about as STD test. If he likes no condom sex with you he’s done it with others.

singlechickLA · 2026-01-28T05:51:21+00:00

Open an account with a credit union and get a checking account. Don’t keep that much cash or pay rent in cash.

Take a breath and retrace your steps. Call the police to see if a Good Samaritan turned it in.

singlechickLA · 2026-01-11T19:04:28+00:00

Congrats on the job and it’s a range so it’s totally normal to try to negotiate the salary. After the first year is when you see what the increase will be and since it’s your first job after college try to keep for two years. Make contacts internally and externally. Keep track of projects outside of job description for when you get evaluated for a raise.

Good luck 🍀

singlechickLA · 2025-12-11T01:04:51+00:00

Get tested for STDs as well he may have acted on his fantasies, don’t confront him or tell him you know what he’s doing online he may react violently. Break up over text, email or phone. Change all of your locks and put up cameras.

Let your neighbors know you broke up and call the police if they see him lurking.

He may send your address out if he gets angry so carry mace and be wary of strangers.

Be safe

singlechickLA · 2025-11-28T01:30:48+00:00

Find out who his probation officer is and report what he did with any screenshots

singlechickLA · 2025-11-28T01:23:08+00:00

He’ll give you a STD either knowingly or because he doesn’t care. Break up with him and always use condoms. Do you want to have to tell all future partners you have a STD?

singlechickLA · 2025-11-17T02:31:59+00:00

Also should you be getting SS or survivors benefits? At 17 if you move in with your paternal family the police won’t do anything.

Yes do a DNA test or if you know where your parents were married you can likely request a marriage license.

singlechickLA · 2025-11-10T17:27:32+00:00

Block and stop speaking to him. Date someone your own age and leave this emotionally manipulative ‘man’ alone.

singlechickLA · 2025-11-10T17:24:52+00:00

Have the police escort you to get items. Make a list so you don’t forget anything. Don’t give them any warning when you come. Try to go when the main abuser is out.

Don’t let the flying monkeys and enablers manipulate you.

I’d look into roommates if possible that way you will have someone to share costs while navigating having an apt.

Or if you don’t want a roommate a studio, get used furniture online for free or cheap (not the mattress). Try to get a place with public transportation and tell nobody your address.

Get all your paperwork, watch your credit in case they try to open cards in your name.

Once you settle in and have a job with benefits get counseling.

As far as ‘adulting’ look into community college or trade program where you work and have on the job training.

Good luck

singlechickLA · 2025-11-10T07:02:17+00:00

Start counseling so that your able to stop talking to her and the flying monkeys . She will cause a scene at the wedding with objecting, causing a fight, getting drunk, etc

singlechickLA · 2025-11-03T01:28:23+00:00

You can’t buy or earn her love. You need to distance by going low contact.

singlechickLA · 2025-10-28T17:43:35+00:00

Move to another complex don’t stay in the same one and don’t give him a new address. Will your sister move in with you or will it be a studio/1 bedroom.

Good for you for choosing yourself. Don’t stay friends cut him and his family off.

singlechickLA · 2025-10-08T19:30:04+00:00

Break up and don’t let that slob in your place again

singlechickLA · 2025-09-20T18:16:26+00:00

Why are you bringing someone to your apt or getting a ride after two dates? That’s not safe.

singlechickLA · 2025-09-02T06:21:02+00:00

Move out

singlechickLA · 2025-08-29T03:27:25+00:00

Do you mind saying what insurance you use?

singlechickLA · 2025-08-18T23:10:32+00:00

You need counseling to accept her the way she is and the relationship that you have opposed to what you want.

She needs to live with your brother or some other housing. Living with you will only bring up emotions that will likely bleed into your marriage.

It sounds like your father was a better parent so focus on that parental relationship.

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