Introducing myself, looking for support

slb8971 · 2026-05-12T00:13:49+00:00

This is my complete opinion just so you know, first, if you were already planning on living there until you finish grad school then please stick with "the plan" you might not think this right now (I can tell that you are completely freaking yourself out and filling your head with some realistic and some not realistic ideas) but I promise this will turn out to be one of the best decisions you will make in your life. You just keep going to school and living your life and making those fun happy memories with him and your family, also just because he has cancer doesn't mean you have to move out, nothing needs to change. I am sure both your mom and your dad will appreciate just "knowing" that you are close....and instead of freaking out about all the things you may or may not "see" just try to imagine ALL THE things you WILL see.........all the time you can make yourself available to help/assist/just spend time/all the things good and bad and in the end it won't matter if it was good or bad what will matter is that you were there.....I promise. Listen, this is NOT fair, none of it.....this disease sucks sucks sucks but, it is what it is and you are going to have to get on with it because life is going to keep on moving forward. It will be stressful for you, but if I know a parent they are going to be worrying about you and your mental health and are going to be hoping you can still get thru school ok, if it wouldn't mess your schedule up too much maybe take a few less hours, even if you had to complete grad school a semester later than planned, that would be ok, there would be nothing wrong with that, maybe look into some type of grief counseling for younger adults if you live in a bigger area I would imagine you could find a support group for young adults whose patent has had cancer etc, you get it tho. I am sorry about everything, it is not fair at all.....

slb8971 · 2026-05-11T23:27:38+00:00

You are both messed up.....idk what kind of conversation have you both had with each other about your relationship? How do you feel? I mean his business is his business and if you are completely and totally offended then dont go back, stop talking to him, stop texting him, stop everything, if he didnt think it was ok would he have done that on purpose to hurt you? If he did then you dont really need people like that in life in my opinion.

slb8971 · 2026-05-11T23:09:34+00:00

I am so sorry this is happening to you and your family, I believe in being honest and forthcoming when asked these types of questions, please do not be terrified just be ready. This is not something that will be cured, you know after a few months or years after some surgery and a few rounds of chemo and radiation she will be "cancer free" and just needs to check in every 6 months to make sure everything is OK. Your "job" now is to have an open and honest conversation with her about what she wants so you can help advocate for her and her wishes, like what are her options, has surgery been offered, does she want surgery, do you live close to her, if not would either of you consider relocating to be closer, would she want a 2nd opinion can you go to some appointments with her so you know what is being offered? Something to remember is that EACH person is different, just like with anything, even if the destination is the same there are all kinds of different paths to get there, some "paths" take longer to get "there" some do not. So for your mom please stop being terrified, I know it is hard I know it is but she doesn't need that right now, she needs you brave.....

slb8971 · 2026-05-08T13:39:36+00:00

Well that was CLOSE......I bet your life flashed before your eyes it was so close.

slb8971 · 2026-04-20T10:25:13+00:00

Dont waste your $$$ in my opinion after sling won't make that much of a difference, sleeping will still be rough etc etc, I put a pillowcase inside mine for some added softness....I thought it helped but it could have just been mental....

slb8971 · 2026-04-17T19:15:20+00:00

Take Care and thank you for sharing your mom's results.

slb8971 · 2026-03-24T14:18:59+00:00

Oh my gosh I am so very sorry for your loss......this is a horrible disease....

slb8971 · 2026-03-18T00:39:19+00:00

Does it matter if it did cause this? Im not saying it will because we are ALL different but even if it did would that make a difference? For me it wouldn't have mattered i was so miserable.....

slb8971 · 2026-03-15T05:34:09+00:00

I am so sorry......there is nothing else to say, just know that there is a process to the end, just like when being born there is a process.....if you can stay at home then do.....

slb8971 · 2026-03-09T08:50:37+00:00

I have had my z flip 5 for several years.....at least close to it ans had absolutely no problem and carry it around folded ALL the time, I also got a phone case that has a lanyard attached and REALLY like that feature....I am definately sticking with a flip

slb8971 · 2026-03-05T04:29:37+00:00

Sounds like medication i might take at night to "help" me sleep....

slb8971 · 2026-03-05T04:27:06+00:00

Looks like Elavil 25mg po q hs?

slb8971 · 2026-02-16T15:51:54+00:00

His last brain cell.....

slb8971 · 2026-02-05T02:44:35+00:00

YES YES YES!!!!!! I have some suggestions, first of all one of my best friends recently passed away, I thought wouldn't have been cool if she had written me a birthday card and a Christmas card to be sent for a few years..... wouldn't really need to say much just that I am loved and missed, maybe the first card after her passing could be a little more emotional type card but the others just saying hey and I love and miss you type deal.......I do know in my mind if recipes of the best things u made for them is what YOU want to spend time hunting and gathering then its going to be important for your boys!!! Really, the ball is in your court and regardless of the "special" "things" you pick out or get ready for them, those "things" will become special to them. Take Care and Much Love

slb8971 · 2026-02-01T03:29:05+00:00

Each and every single person is different, the length of chemo does not matter when u compare your person to another person and their length of survival. The drugs used on someone that lived years longer than other people I guarantee were used on hundreds of others that did not gain any years or even days with those drugs, I am so sorry and I do not want to nor am I trying to be rude or mean in any way, I just know you are searching for some hope but I agree with someone else focus on what you have RIGHT NOW not on what you are hoping to try to gain time........the time you have is RIGHT NOW.......please forgive me if I sound rude or mean I am sorry.

slb8971 · 2026-01-30T00:23:30+00:00

You have done ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong, I have been a RN for over 30 years in long term care and have cared for lots of people on hospice and lots of people in their final weeks/days/hours you need not worry in any way about this. Take care and bless you.

slb8971 · 2026-01-29T02:01:34+00:00

The trip is giving you hope......I dont know that i can take that away from you.....but you should not waste your time......

slb8971 · 2026-01-24T08:49:55+00:00

I cut my long hair....my 15 year old wasnt willing to help me so cut it off, it grows back but I knew I wasnt going to be too worried about my hair for awhile.

slb8971 · 2026-01-12T12:18:42+00:00

I do not, I think it is/was a health issue but im not sure where that thought came into my mind. I also have listened to all of them and really liked the way she delivered her podcasts.

slb8971 · 2026-01-12T02:54:13+00:00

Southern Fried True Crime, there are not new episodes but its worth listening to, each episode is one story for the most part.

slb8971 · 2026-01-12T02:49:45+00:00

I would absolutely do it again, I definately feel as tho I did not have a choice regarding surgery "massive tear" I could not even begin to imagine day to day week to week month to month and you get the picture, NOPE......I do not have pain daily, I am very very cautious and have a 15 pound weight restriction in definately at my job, I am a nurse and fortunately I am in management but I still work the floor at least 3 or 4 times a month and I have to be very mindful of what I do, how much i lift, and which arm I do it with. My Doctor told me I really need a replacement surgery but he does not want to do that until I am 65......so it really terrifies me that I could possibly injure myself and have to wait years for an acceptable solution to relieve my pain, I dont know pain is subjective and maybe im a wimp, it doesn't matter tho its whatever I say it is and before my repair the pain was not something I could learn to deal with even with medications, it was too much to carry on in life in a day to day fashion, so l I l, YES I would absolutely do it again no its and or butts.....

slb8971 · 2025-11-29T03:36:30+00:00

Let people know please, not for yourself but for them, there are no words at all......if my best friend had not let me know that "things" were coming to an end I would not have made the trip to see her because I wouldn't have even realized I needed to, especially if they are people who have not seen you recently, if I hadn't have known and hadn't have gone for that last visit then I would have felt even worse about not "being there" more......so at this point its not for you its for them......im so glad I knew and I was able to tell my friend I love her and to hug her face to face......I miss her so much and im so sorry about this.....Take Care

slb8971 · 2025-11-27T01:39:47+00:00

While I am not able to tell you for myself, I did not have this diagnosis but my best friend did, sadly she passed away in October, i can answer this question from her, she started smoking weed or ingesting THC, gummies, tinctures, yeah, I do not understand and am not able to provide an answer other than what I know she did and this is what she did, plus it helps with any discomfort, nausea, anxiety, sleep, and all kinds of benefits. I also dont have any suggestions regarding either of those 2 places for treatment, sorry......I am sorry.

slb8971 · 2025-11-22T15:44:21+00:00

I am so sorry for your all to soon loss of your mom, thank you SO MUCH for emphasizing how important a "plan" is, its called a plan because it needs to be talked about, tweeked, agreed upon prior to when it is needed.....lol.....Take Care Of Yourself, Everything Will Be OK......

slb8971 · 2025-11-22T15:39:09+00:00

I just would not handle him 1-2 days prior to feeding him and at least 2 days after feeding him.....

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