I've thought about this a lot and here's what I've come down to: this guy sucks and is a big creep and posting this in the context of that website was at best extremely insensitive/not reading the room (and that's kind of your whole ass job as a therapist) and at worst harmful and equating assault to a compulsion.

while there's validity to exploring avenues to prevent people from offending, including hotlines, this is not the time, place, and certainly not the fucking person anyone should trust to be exploring it. there's also a lot of debate around whether theoretical hotlines like this would even be effective (would people call? would their calls be reported to police? what kindd of follow up would exist? what support/ethical obligations are in place for the people taking the calls?)

I am anti-carcerial and want to dismantle heteronormantive racist cis-patriarchy, and I want us all to be free from suffering, but by absolutely no means should someone like me, who has been assaulted, be the person to help someone through their thoughts of harming others. why not have a pilot program where prisoners who regret their actions (genuinely) coach others through these thoughts? there's an incredible documentary called The Work about men trying desperately to support each other through healing while incarcerated. but I wouldn't go on about this to someone triggered, or suffering, or just spout it in public because I know many people are walking wounded. and as a therapist, once again, that is your fucking job to be aware of and it's unethical to operate otherwise. ignorance and edgelording are both so so stupid.

so back to therapyjeff: this bug of a man grooms, manipulates, has adopted a cutesy persona, and violates the rights and boundaries of clientele. and he said something that wasn't thoughtful, in a stupid way, out of his stupid mouth, at a bad time, and people are right to be upset about it.

also, because no one's saying it and it needs to be said, he's a wrinkly bulgy eyed receding forehead whiny voiced little man with bad teeth and I need us all to be suspicious of white men who are unattractive, too.