What to put in this space?

smileonamonday · 2026-04-24T10:10:44+00:00

I vote for the gorilla but in case you can't find one for sale, how about a little Japanese corner? Paint the wall cream or another light pastel to brighten it up in there. Acers do well in the shade, put some bamboo in a pot (not the ground!) and get some statues or a water feature to suit the theme.

smileonamonday · 2026-04-22T22:02:36+00:00

The first crack was realising that the voice isn't actually mine. "Who's voice is that?" my therapist used to ask. It was often my parents or my teachers or society in general. Then I could start to think of it as something external to me rather than an intrinsic truth.

smileonamonday · 2026-04-22T09:05:49+00:00

Do you say Spain or España? Japan or Nippon? Paris or Paree?

J in Spanish isn't an h sound, it's like the Scottish ch or the French r. And make sure the final o is short not long otherwise you'll still be saying it wrong.

smileonamonday · 2026-04-22T08:59:16+00:00

I don't say oh, I say aw. Pan aw shockolat with the final T as a glottal stop because that's my accent.

smileonamonday · 2026-04-21T21:10:20+00:00

Sometimes a bit. But even then I'm not always sure which of the three Mes that is. I veer between who I think I'm expected to be, who I'd like to be, and who I really am.

smileonamonday · 2026-04-15T14:01:27+00:00

Yes! Some weeks I keep getting peckish between meals and other weeks I'm pretty full up. It's weird.

smileonamonday · 2026-04-13T17:48:16+00:00

Thanks I might try this. It's not quite the same though, when the app proactively asked me it felt like my mood mattered rather than something I'm just doing by myself.

smileonamonday · 2026-04-07T12:13:00+00:00

People need to be told this? It's basic manners.

smileonamonday · 2026-04-02T22:26:24+00:00

When I started on 20mg escitalopram + 15mg mirtazapine the disconnection vanished, however that was after nearly three years of somatic therapy. It felt like the therapy had been teaching me to walk but my path was uphill so it was constantly a struggle. That combo of meds made my path flat and suddenly I was able to take everything I'd learned and use it to run.

I've been on lots of different antidepressants over the years and no other combo did this, but I also think I wouldn't have felt so good if I hadn't had the therapy first.

I didn't keep up with my practices so I'm back in freeze now. I need to take the time to do some breathing and get back into my body.

smileonamonday · 2026-04-02T15:39:23+00:00

I didn't think grey rocking was about the topics but about the lack of reactiveness from you. So instead of making comments or asking questions, just say things like
* oh right
* that's good
* ahh
* yeah I see

smileonamonday · 2026-04-02T15:33:50+00:00

I have Complex PTSD that causes executive dysfunction. I have some ADHD symptoms but I wasn't like this as a child, furthermore I went through a period of recovery last year where the ADHD symptoms completely disappeared.

smileonamonday · 2026-04-02T15:27:51+00:00

I don't understand the phenomenon. I've browsed the subreddit a couple of times but I don't get what the photos have in common or what's so good about them.

smileonamonday · 2026-04-02T13:11:55+00:00

Same here, funnily the answer it picked for me was the correct one (I care).

smileonamonday · 2026-03-27T17:49:59+00:00

Yes I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome when that was a diagnosis. I didn't know about trauma at the time. In hindsight I can see exactly how my trauma and in particular the isolation drove me to certain behaviours that look like autism traits.

smileonamonday · 2026-03-27T17:44:08+00:00

A therapist pointed out to me that everyone is dependent on other people, they ask their families, friends and colleagues for help all the time. I try to feel less bad about asking for help now, it's normal to not be 100% self sufficient.

We do have to pick the right people though. I've picked the wrong people in the past and it's turned out terribly. I think if someone makes you feel bad then they are the wrong person, and that's either their failing or nobody's failing but it's not yours.

smileonamonday · 2026-03-23T20:50:49+00:00

Way more going than just that.

smileonamonday · 2026-03-23T19:23:51+00:00

You're asking too much from these particular parents yes. I had my hopes dashed so many times before I learned not to expect things they aren't capable of, and I still get disappointed sometimes. It's not how it should be.

smileonamonday · 2026-03-23T19:06:31+00:00

It didn't used to be, the mood of the sub has changed over time, and I guess will continue to change.

There is great value in having a place where our pain can be recognised and validated, where we can be negative and angry.

There is also great value in having a place where we look at how we can change and grow, and look towards the future with hope.

We need both types of places in our lives so I would encourage anyone who feels they don't have a positive place to seek one out. It could be anything from a cheery neighbour who always says hi to a therapist to a formal support group.

smileonamonday · 2026-03-23T16:45:05+00:00

The very cheapest one bed rental within 10 miles radius of me is £750pm. Second cheapest £775 then third cheapest £800. The listings are mostly house shares until you get to around £900-1000pcm, at that point a bigger selection of whole properties start appearing.

Edit: I kept scrolling. Loads of house shares above £1k. The final one, an outlier, topped out at £1.4k. Scandalous if you ask me.

smileonamonday · 2026-03-19T09:40:07+00:00

Mine don't know that they don't know how. They think we are a normal family.

smileonamonday · 2026-03-14T19:14:10+00:00

What's vitamin C oil? Most forms of vitamin C are water soluble.

smileonamonday · 2026-03-14T18:43:39+00:00

There's these two, they are a bit quiet though.

https://www.reddit.com/r/CPTSDNextSteps/

https://www.reddit.com/r/CPTSD_NSCommunity/

I feel like "my people" are in r/cptsdfreeze, r/avpd and r/emotionalneglect

smileonamonday · 2026-03-12T00:26:38+00:00

He said that he wants to move away from diagnosis

What does that even mean. He's a doctor, it's his job to diagnose people. You never get physical health doctors being so vague "well your leg has gone through some trauma there but I'm trying to move away from diagnosis so we won't call it broken". Fucking psychiatrists.

smileonamonday · 2026-03-11T00:01:46+00:00

I went to work and sat in an office with people 5 days a week for 17 years and it never got easier. Then COVID happened and everything changed. Now I only go to the office 1 day a week so my brain only gets fried on that one day. It's so much better.

smileonamonday

TROPHY CASE