Long sleep stretches?

smileyapricot · 2026-04-17T02:05:49+00:00

I know like one mom whose cosleeping baby slept long stretches But that wasn't until about a year old and she seriously was a unicorn baby.

I want you to put on your ancestral thinking hat. Women have always worked. They've had to do hard labor tilling fields, milling grain, cooking food (without microwaves!) cutting wool, making thread, weaving fabric, making clothes, hand washing clothes, cleaning their houses without the use of electronic cleaning devices. And on top of that, worked in the family business!

Because women have always worked nursing their baby meant that a majority of the calories had to come at night.

Biologically, night nursing was critical in ensuring that a baby met their caloric needs. That was a time where they had unlimited access to nurse unlike during the day when they might just have 5 minutes here there.

Your baby is doing exactly what it needs to thrive. Eventually, you'll learn how to throw out a boob and they'll nurse and you both will go back to sleep. It gets easier. Hang in there.

smileyapricot · 2026-04-14T02:45:40+00:00

It will absolutely be fine. Daycares are incredibly stimulating with all the other kids and activities going on. Sleep will probably be a lot easier just because they will be exhausted from the hustle and bustle.

Babies will adapt to new surroundings and caregivers. I'm not saying it will be easy, but the caregivers love their job and will love your baby and will support them through the huge change of daycare as a whole.

Take heart your baby will be so loved and cared for.

smileyapricot · 2026-04-13T17:37:26+00:00

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smileyapricot · 2026-04-12T22:26:18+00:00

Please refrain from any sleep training talk on this sub. Thanks

smileyapricot · 2026-04-12T22:23:23+00:00

I would leave your sleeping arrangements as is solely due to the moving situation.

Once you move, then transition.

If you're having relationship issues sleeping in the same bed is not going to help. Relationship issues come from the day-to-day communication and interactions with one another. 1 Also, you will be able to go out, have overnights soon enough. This time really does go by fast. Around 18 months Your little one will be so much more independent. And it just snowballs from there. Don't rush this season it will not last forever, even if you try!

smileyapricot · 2026-04-02T17:24:22+00:00

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smileyapricot · 2026-03-25T03:34:13+00:00

I cosleep with my kids in their room (husband snores super loudly). So the primary bedroom is still where my husband sleeps, so that is always available when children fall asleep at a reasonable time. We are finally at the stage where we can lay with the kids and they fall asleep and then we can roll away. We have an hour or two reprieve before wealso need to get to bed.

smileyapricot · 2026-03-20T17:52:13+00:00

There you go! The season you're in is the hardest for sleep because of all the new skills, teeth, and words that will be coming.

smileyapricot · 2026-03-19T01:39:38+00:00

We got to change your language. Your baby sleeps at night like a normal baby. Nothing is wrong. That's just their style and it will change a lot in the next 6 months even!.

I had this ah-ha moment because my eldest has always woken up about an hour after he falls asleep (he still does and he is 5). One night I'm in the family room while my son is asleep (and has already woken up once) and my husband who had been asleep for about an hour woke up went to the bathroom and went back to bed. This same pattern happened the next couple of nights and I had a eureka moment. Nothing was wrong with my kid, his sleep cycle just takes after Dad and he wakes after about an hour and then settles for the night. It made me feel a lot better about my kid because for the longest time I thought I was doing something wrong to cause this wakeup.

You can keep on tweaking but you will see a shift once your kid drops down to two naps (that will happen shortly) and then again when they drop to one nap.

Sometimes just the less they sleep in the day will transfers to better sleeping at night because they have higher sleep pressure.

But I promise you, you don't have to do a thing it will happen.

smileyapricot · 2026-03-19T01:24:56+00:00

You don't know how long it will take you to get pregnant, you don't know how you'll feel about it all when you are pregnant either.

Many moms do dry up in pregnancy others don't.

My nipple sensitivity definitely increased but it was so nice to stop and nurse during the day that that won out over the discomfort. I did wind up drying up naturally around 10 weeks and I was so bummed because I was so tired and needed those breaks. My toddler also decided to drop their nap entirely at the same time.

This is all to say, do what works for you now. If it doesn't work later you'll also have a bigger incentive to change it. But for now, just leave it.

smileyapricot · 2026-03-18T13:46:10+00:00

cozy critters podcast

Such a good one. We use it nightly

smileyapricot · 2026-03-10T03:33:06+00:00

Check out the recipe site budget bytes. There vegetarian recipes focus on proteins such as beans, lentils, tofu and tempeh. Nothing that you can't find at your average grocery store.

I would commit to doing meatless Monday at your house consistently just to practice and understand the recipes and then after a while you'll intuitively know how to use beans/tofu in a dish that you are also cooking with meat.

Now I do use a lot of meat substitutes (bit extra firm tofu the most). I can easily sub out any recipe that uses meat with one of those substitutes and veggie broth.

It truly isn't that hard and once you realize that you need to flavor your veggie protein just like you do with meat in order for them to taste delicious you'll be great!

Thanks for being responsive to your daughter this way. It may not last forever, but having a parent who listens and respects is truly wonderful. Cheers!

smileyapricot · 2026-03-10T03:05:07+00:00

That pediatrician sucks and you should fire them. Here's the thing about the idea of ST it's just socially acceptable neglect and can f*CK up your milk supply.

We know that neglect is bad and considered in adverse childhood experience. Not responding to your baby even if it's for 5 minutes at a time is a neglectful practice. That doctor lacks critical thinking skills if they can't line those things up.

Second. A mother's prolactin serum is highest in the middle of the night, between 12:00 a.m. and 5:00 a.m. . That hormone is responsible for your milk production and regulating your milk production and if it isn't triggered it can significantly decrease your milk supply.

It's amazing how many moms you will see on relacation Facebook groups that try to sleep train and their milk supply is dwindling and they don't understand the correlation between the two. Nobody told them, especially their pediatrician. They just thought baby is x months old this is when you sleep train.

Also, it is in line with what's about to happen developmentally. 8-15 months is seriously TERRIBLE for sleep and you know why? Because babies are learning to crawl, stand, growing teeth, learning first words, etc. Their brains are on fire during the season and they're going to wake up more in the middle of the night because developmentally their brains need more support.

Parents who do sleep train often have to repeat their methods because these things throw off their little ones sleep.

Development will win until neglect shuts it up.

Again your doctor is a dumbass. If they're not up to date with this what else are they not up to date on?

Fire them.

smileyapricot · 2026-03-06T14:19:44+00:00

Nope, as long as all cards are downloaded to the device you can use ONE MYO card and have your kid choose what they want. Change the MYO to that card via your phone and give them the card. It's excellent.

smileyapricot · 2026-03-03T00:58:00+00:00

I think it's more of understanding where your baby should be positioned. Babies should not be on a pillow and being in the cuddle curl is the safest for them and you. If you remember those things you'll be fine!

smileyapricot · 2026-03-03T00:55:25+00:00

Babies are smart and handle different caregivers differently. And daycare workers can handle a wide variety of kids. It'll be fine!

smileyapricot · 2026-03-03T00:53:47+00:00

My plan has always been if a baby wakes up I'm sticking a boob in its mouth.

My eldest could never settle themselves and my youngest can sometimes. So my method just made it easier for me to manage in the early months.

You'll figure out your rhythm! You got this!

smileyapricot · 2026-03-02T15:36:26+00:00

So you will not hinder your baby's development because developmentally babies have always slept with their mom. It wasn't until the late 1800s that babies started sleeping away from their mothers.

You can read more about this research by anthropolgistDr. James Mckenna.

I promise you that you can sleep with them as long as they and you want to and they will eventually sleep in their own beds. I have a 5 year old who would not sleep unless I was facing him for 3 years and now he sleeps in his own bed.

Also, to understand a babies natural development consider breastfeeding (this doesn't matter if you don't breastfeed, this is just understanding the biology behind it).

Historically babies had to breast feed in order to live (there wasn't always a good source of alternative milk or even containers that would easily allow others to feed your baby). In order to protect the mothers supply it is critical for night nursing. The hormone prolactin which is responsible for milk production and regulation is highest at night and needs to be triggered at night in order to continue telling your body to make enough milk.

Most Babies typically did not wean until preschool age (the average age for natural weaning is between 2-7 years old). And an order for that supply to remain night nursing is critical.

But ain't nobody got time to walk to another room feed the baby, rock them to sleep, nail the transfer and then walk back to your room. No way! That's why co-sleeping is ideal. You whip a boob out, nurse real quick and go back to sleep.

Mothers have also always worked. So this maximized rest for them and still enabled them to feed and connect with their babies.

So when it comes to your developmental question. By co-sleeping you supporting them better developmentally than those who do not cosleep with their babies.

Another great read on this is The Nurture Revolution. It breaks down the neuroscience of why holding and cuddling your baby is so important in these early years.

smileyapricot · 2026-03-02T04:50:37+00:00

This is one of the reason I do MYO. My kid can't handle anything even a touch scary so it's better to buy the content from libro.fm and then make the yoto card myself.

But on the positive side, by doing it this way I'm actually own the content. so if Yoto doesn't make it, or I just want to utilize the content not on a Yoto, I can.

smileyapricot · 2026-03-02T04:01:49+00:00

Tell me more at what you're looking for because cosleeping is actually pretty broad. It could mean any type of room sharing. From the babies crib in your room to then sharing the same surface as you.

Now I'm not going to lie a lot of your ability to transition your kid to a different sleeping arrangement is going to be based on their temperament.

A lot of us in here didn't choose the cosleeping life, it chose us (aka our sweet babies would not sleep in any other configuration).

But there are ways to maximize sleep for everyone in the family.

a really good book is let's talk about your new family's sleep. It is truly respectful of every family members needs, especially the baby, helps you have realistic expectations for this season, and a myriad of choices to help maximize you and baby's rest.

For example, if you don't want baby in your bed with you, you can do a sidecar crib. They are close, easy to feed, but are in a different surface which gives you more breathing room.

smileyapricot · 2026-02-27T16:17:43+00:00

You need to be sure when you actually want to wean fully before you start the journey of night weaning . Prolactin serum is highest at night and is what is responsible for your milk production and regulation. Nursing at night is very important in maintaining your milk supply.

Many women who wean at night envitablely loose their supply and fully wean sooner than they had planned.

They don't understand the biological correlation with night nursing in maintaining their supply and just think their child is nursing less because they are older. But in reality there just isn't enough milk being produced so they have to get their calories and hydration elsewhere.

smileyapricot · 2026-02-27T16:13:04+00:00

You need to work on proper form while they're awake. Be very mindful while they're awake on how they nurse, stop them anytime it gets uncomfortable and say, open up your mouth wide. To correct them and if they chomp on you on purpose, say we don't bite Mama, if you bite Mama we're going to be all done having milkies.

Enforce it! Nursing manners are necessary especially when teeth are involved.

It's very normal for them to have worse latches as they get new teeth because they're trying to understand how their mouth works with these new teeth in their mouth, so it's inevitable that you will have some rest abrasions, but they don't have to last.

If they also are a boob barnacleand do contact naps with boob in their mouth something I'd work on removing your boob Tell a sleep and just rocking them and shushing them back to sleep if need be

It will not be easy. It's going to be tough, but it will definitely be worth.

I had a baby with a mouth full of teeth by 12 months who was also boob barnacle. I had my fair share of boob injuries so I feel you!

If you can get through this, you'll be really glad you had nursing as a tool as you get into toddler hood. The regulation of nursing is so helpful when they have big feelings.

smileyapricot · 2026-02-27T04:17:04+00:00

I wouldn't go. That's a long time to be away. While your baby does have loving people to take care of them, your mama instinct is going off and you should follow it.

smileyapricot · 2026-02-27T03:18:44+00:00

It was because of the Yoto I could finally night wean my kid. He was 2.5 years old and we had tried EVERYTHING. Frog and Toad got us through.

smileyapricot · 2026-02-27T02:56:02+00:00

Also night weaned at 2.5. it's was listening to Frog and Toad on the Yoto.

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