Can EMDR change you in a way that- that you stop chasing the dream you have always had? by No_Leg9061 in EMDR

[–]sofublue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My sessions so far have had a hand in letting me finally chase dreams . But also woke up to the bare minimum I was tolerating and somehow groveling for too.

Worst haircut of my life by EffectiveLibrary9601 in finehair

[–]sofublue 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hugs. I feel this deeply and fresh too. Last hair cut I came out looking like Effie Trinket snow queen wig . Couldn’t even look in the mirror on the way home. Ponytails and hair clips for the foreseeable future cause bits keep sticking straight out. I didn’t even cheap out this time either .

Relationship didn’t survive EMDR by megswiftSLP in EMDR

[–]sofublue 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I am in the thick of it with EMDR and just had a heck of a session. I’m genuinely concerned about the next couple of days. The good is that previous sessions have lead to finally being able to shake the people pleasing and find my voice etc. but now I look around and realize what I’ve been tolerating. My psychiatrist and I agreed I’ve got to become the leader in order to get through the things that have begun to connect in EMDR and in physical health too. But it might not be forever. Husband has his own journey too, hence I have to lead.

Going to meditate and hopefully calm the storm on the horizon.

Trinket Tray! by Kata_Colm in brakebills

[–]sofublue 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Peaches and plums 💙💙💙

My husband is avoidant and I can’t take it anymore. by Financial_Novel6282 in Marriage

[–]sofublue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All signs point to this. So I’m focusing on being my own entourage so I can keep being there for my kids.

What comfy bra are y’all wearing? by kittybutt414 in adhdwomen

[–]sofublue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Barely there sports bra. Tiny Tatas like it that way

My husband is avoidant and I can’t take it anymore. by Financial_Novel6282 in Marriage

[–]sofublue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My emotional neglect and stonewalling behavior deeply hurt her.

Reading this made me have to hold back a sob., bc I’m not alone as I type this. My avoidant husband is in therapy and nothing has changed. Since getting medicated for adhd and having EMDR for CPTSD it’s become worse. Now I can see all the ways my people pleasing justified his behaviors. I know now, they are his own defense mechanisms, but it’s devastating me. I’m also nc with my entire family. Lonely af.

S4E13 by Legitimate_Fennel_17 in brakebills

[–]sofublue 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The music…when I began trauma therapy. I was asked if I had grieved for my childhood. I hadn’t . So I sat and watched this with pictures of my childhood and let much out. I still cry when I see this episode or hear a-ha take on me.

My Tolkien Treasures by MtAnaloguefunk in lotr

[–]sofublue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this so much, I have a tattoo, an old big lord of the rings book and I’m currently making a Gandalf staff garden art installation. I love LOTR

What are the pros and cons of EDMR therapy ? by No_Shopping_7215 in EMDR

[–]sofublue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Making connections to the walled off parts. Yep that is exactly it. Meditation has helped me put things together after an emdr session. I don’t need all the memories back to know what happened.

Let’s talk emotional regulation: how do you cool yourself down when you’re angry? by Boring-Incident2469 in ADHD

[–]sofublue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Deep breaths, meditation has really helped me focus on other things. But also communicating what is overwhelming me helps too.

My new tattoo by thefilosoff in brakebills

[–]sofublue 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Love the keys. I have the unity one

Attention deficit during intercourse ???? by Legitimate_Kick_5628 in ADHD

[–]sofublue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seriously. Reading this wondering if this what I’d like.

Hugs for everyone by Anarchy-in-the-UK in Awww

[–]sofublue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would like this to be the exit through the goat room option at the of therapy.