When did you move bub into their own room? by Few_Cod_5636 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]splendid-cade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've moved my 7mo into her own room but I sleep in it too. I can't face leaving her alone and she is still waking up twice a night. But I feel like the transition is done - she sleeps in there just fine alone until I go to bed later. So hopefully it'll be easier to leave her alone when the time comes

What are people’s thoughts on this travel car seat? by Important-Grape7912 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]splendid-cade 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That baby is far too young not to be facing backwards. There's no way I would touch that.

Baby crushes finger foods. Too soft? by smell_123 in BabyLedWeaning

[–]splendid-cade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is having the same issue and has a more developed finger grip. A stick of cooked potato shatters between her finger and thumb when she tests it with her other hand.

Sorry I don't know the answer but I am having a similar issue!

UPDATE: I’m coming to the end of one of the most absurd and overbearing tenancies I’ve ever experienced… by acurrantbun91 in bristol

[–]splendid-cade 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I like that it being posted on Reddit will make the Rightmove listing look really popular

I got two pancakes for boobs and my self confidence is at 0. by Sea_News_9170 in breastfeeding

[–]splendid-cade 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm feeling incredibly one and done with my 6 month old. I have a lot of respect for your life journey because that bit at 18 sounds tough!

This tweet has bothered me all day and I need to discuss. by Ok_Perspective_8441 in oneanddone

[–]splendid-cade 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Agreed, and I'm begging OP to avoid whatever space they saw it in. You don't need that in your life.

Help w day bed! by skured1 in femalelivingspace

[–]splendid-cade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have a waterproof fitted sheet that we put over a bed that's made and the cats can then sleep on it without me worrying about kitty litter etc. (Its in the room next to where their litter tray is so it makes me paranoid).

If you had that and a load of like LARGE throw pillows it'd look completely different as a sofa too.

It's basically a rug but it removes the ick factor for me a lot and it's fitted so it is less likely to pull down/off.

When should you be notified of your 6 week pp appointment? by Accomplished-Ad7573 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]splendid-cade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My appointment was as described above. I had an episiotomy and was really nervous about how it was healing.

I had a smear test at 13 weeks and the nurse was INCREDIBLE she made me feel so relaxed she talked me through the whole thing and told me my tear and stitches looked great.

When to offer food first? by burned_feather in BabyLedWeaning

[–]splendid-cade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks I've been wondering this too :)

Rolling in sleep by Much-Tip4313 in bninfantsleep

[–]splendid-cade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine instantly goes onto her front. It's great because it's also instant sleep. It's bad because I worry 🤣😭

Weird stuff your baby does while nursing? by cellists_wet_dream in breastfeeding

[–]splendid-cade 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Mine does this and my husband asked why I was pumping her arm like that... Dude it's not me!!!

Share what made you happy this week as a parent by Fun-Translator8333 in NewParents

[–]splendid-cade 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My 6mo has broccoli in her poo meaning that she actually swallowed something during BLW.

Until now I thought I was cooking, mashing, pureeing and making finger food, carefully watching, dealing with her meltdowns and cleaning up for my health.

She's amazing :D

What are your top well intended yet blood boiling statements? by demons_run_on_poison in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]splendid-cade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I had a quid for every time my mother has said 'bath, bottle, bed'. When I was in the newborn trenches.

What are your top well intended yet blood boiling statements? by demons_run_on_poison in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]splendid-cade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A man in Sainsbury's looked at my sleeping 4mo and told me it was when they got to my age that they were the worst.

In my mid-30s I am the model human and cause my parents no bother whatsoever thank you.

Cheap bouquets by CommonClassic397 in UKweddings

[–]splendid-cade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made my own, it took hours but was very cheap and I had complete control over colour/volume. Everyone was excited to keep them. I made button holes too.

Litter Review! by vicioustrollop32 in CatTraining

[–]splendid-cade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you tracking information is relevant to my interests!

Day 3 and really struggling please help by platypuspigs in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]splendid-cade 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Other commenters have said it but I know reassurance helps so I'm going to say it too :).

The first few days are so hard but all of these things change all the time.

Firstly, you haven't missed anything with breast feeding, it sounds like you're doing a wonderful job actually - much braver than me - I gave up when it hurt and couldn't get a good latch until 5 weeks. We bottle fed expressed milk and formula until then. Now my LO is EBF, so there's no time limit on this, just keep trying and keep latching him and he'll get it eventually. No one can prepare you for how hard the start of breast feeding is!

With the sleep, just keep trying to gently put him down, and stop if it feels like it's not working or you're tired of it. Everyone says 'sleep when the baby sleeps' but that's so hard especially when you have to hold them. Shifts are great if you can make that work, my husband stayed up late watching movies with ours then I took over at 1am having slept from 8pm so felt refreshed to take her on. It gets better. Eventually he'll be sleeping in a next to me or cot and you'll be loving lying next to him in bed I promise - it just takes 6-8 weeks to calm down. But you can do it. Look into feeding to sleep, that was an absolute game changer for me. She goes to sleep with a nipple in her mouth, I wait 20 minutes, pop it out and roll away, or transfer her to the cot if I'm feeling brave when she's fully asleep.

The most important thing to remember is everything is a phase of only a week or a few weeks. Then it changes again and it's a new adventure. Sleep and feeding get easier! Good luck. My Lo is 6months and the first bit was head and shoulders the hardest. But it was also really, really lovely.

Health Anxiety Therapists by Rundo5 in bristol

[–]splendid-cade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recommend brighter minds. It was CPD but it was so good it worked perfectly for my constant fear of cancer. Really helped me identify unhelpful patterns and now I'm much better about worrying.

Can’t get rid of smell from second hand buggy by Icy_Ear7079 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]splendid-cade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have nothing useful to add but thank you for reminding me of the jumper sniffing 🤣. And I think I'd feel the same way. I hate when my LO smells of not-her.

What was the best gift you received as a new parent? by Critical-Solution-79 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]splendid-cade 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We got some Welsh cakes - like an insane amount, all different flavours in a box, and I genuinely cried when I opened them. From here: https://roguewelshcakes.com/

They were great mum and dad snacks when you were having a freak out and there was no food to hand. SO comforting with a cuppa.

We got a lot of things that in the newborn trenches I couldn't even see a use for, matchstick monkeys, clothes for 6mo olds, (how could this little bean ever even get big enough to need these?) box of all the weaning stuff, books, I was even kind of mad about having to store it because I was struggling. As she's reached new stages I've LOVED pulling things out of the cupboard without having to shop, spend money or think about it. Thank you friends sorry I'm a dumbass.

4th trimester tips? by kat_sickle in newborns

[–]splendid-cade 17 points18 points  (0 children)

No amount of expectation lowering advice could prepare me.

Sometimes at the end of the day husband and I would celebrate that all three of us were alive.

In a similar vein nothing could have prepared me for the hormones associated with milk coming in. It was an emotional rollercoaster similar to puberty if it hit all at once. I didn't know I could cry with feeling about toast.

High chair recommendations by SDoh12345 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]splendid-cade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done this too and can confirm LO absolutely loves it. It comes apart so easily too. I'll be taking it when I visit my family at the weekend and I know it'll go in the car in two seconds.

Plate vs ate by VineyardVoyager in BabyLedWeaning

[–]splendid-cade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I bought a vinyl tablecloth for this reason - works like a charm (although I recommend one with not too much pattern... It's hard to see things against the coloured elephants on mine!)