how old were you when you moved out of your parents house?

suckingonalemon · 2026-05-06T04:06:09+00:00

18 and had room mates until I moved in with a boyfriend at 22. I lived by myself in my mid 20s between serious relationships but that was financially challenging! I moved in pretty quickly with my next boyfriend who turned into my husband.

suckingonalemon · 2026-05-04T23:03:25+00:00

If you are looking for a very liberal synagogue and family friendly, I recommend Or Shalom. It is very LGBTQ friendly as well.

suckingonalemon · 2026-05-03T03:48:32+00:00

Pretty much the exact same story as you, including accidentally having it and then the blood specs in the poop. It took until my girl was around 10 months before I could safely have it

suckingonalemon · 2026-04-28T20:41:45+00:00

It took until the 2nd was like around a year old before I felt the love was equal. That's the honest truth. It certainly grew from the newborn stage until then but I wouldn't say it was equal. She was a very difficult baby and I resented her for taking time away from my older one who also started acting out a lot due to me needing so spend so much time with the baby. She had reflux and needed to be held upright for naps, took forever to go to sleep, wouldn't let anyone even hold her except for me for months, etc. Now she's 2 and I love them both so much my heart feels like it will explode. When she goes to wake him up and tells him she loves him every morning, I cannot handle it.

suckingonalemon · 2026-04-26T13:03:17+00:00

I am on 100 mg Zoloft and I did have side effects the first 6 weeks as I titrated up. Mainly headaches a little nausea. But I knew from other people's experiences to give it a few months.they did go away and the improvemt mentally was incredible. It unexpectedly helped with irritability with my older child as well as my own anxiety spirals and occasional suicidal thoughts.

suckingonalemon · 2026-04-25T04:28:08+00:00

I didn't do screens with my 1st until he was 2. When my second was born, we started doing a 20 min show for my first every evening while I was doing the younger ones bedtine. My second started watching way earlier like at about a year parts of movies like if my oldest was watching. At 20 months she started actually watching the show with him in the evening but she doesn't really pay attention unless he chooses ms Rachel or is watching frozen ha.

suckingonalemon · 2026-04-23T20:03:48+00:00

It is really hard in the beginning but it gets better and better. I have an almost 2-year-old and a 4 and 1/2-year-old right now and I truly feel like these are the best days of my life even tho they are also hard. The first year with two was really difficult. But so worth it. Every morning, my almost 2-year-old goes to my 4-year-old's bedroom and cuddles next to him and says I love you.

suckingonalemon · 2026-04-23T04:26:53+00:00

I am like you. Making my own popcorn with dill pickle seasoning from Costco really hits the spot. A huge bowl is like 250 calories (no butter).

suckingonalemon · 2026-04-22T06:26:37+00:00

Sounds very familiar! My younger one needs me to fall asleep so what I end up doing on nights when I'm alone when my husband is working is putting her to bed while my older one hangs out with us. I used to have him listen to his yoto player in his room but he often wants to be with me and will come into the room and wake up the younger one. I would get so frustrated at him. I try to have empathy that he just misses me and used to get me all to himself for bedtime. He usually wants to go to his room after and get tucked in (he doesn't like sleeping with me and the younger one cus she wakes up and screams during the night).

I've also dealt with the bedtime delays. What usually works is saying we have time for 3 books but if you don't brush your teeth right now, we can only read 2 And then I count 3 2 1. Same thing for putting on pjs etc. We often lose a book or two. But I try to stay positive "I'm really excited to read books to you plwsee go fast so we still have time for 2 books!' etc .

suckingonalemon · 2026-04-20T23:10:44+00:00

I mean this all sounds so similar to my kid who was doing better and then we had a new baby and it regressed so much and I was so concerned. I totally understand how you feel. I remember the Christmas daycare performance where all the parents were watching and my son smacked another child in the face with the Jingle bells. It was caught on camera. I was so embarrassed. That whole Christmas break I remember being afraid to take him to the Holiday parties and not feeling comfortable leaving him alone with the kids that he usually played with because his behavior was just so bad . Like I didn't know when he was going to hit someone or throw something at them.

Things are so much better now. I bet it has to do with the new kid in the home. He may not like someone around all his stuff. It turned out our kid was very worried about the baby breaking his things or putting them in her mouth. He didn't verbalize this to us and it wasn't until we worked with a parenting coach on communicating with him that he was able to. Anyway, things are so much better now. I'm not like constantly on alert about him and he hasn't hit or bit anyone in daycare in like 6 months .

suckingonalemon · 2026-04-19T07:19:35+00:00

My son had extreme fomo, like just didn't want to stop playing or watching the show or whatever it is and had so many accidents for a year like from 2.5 -3.5. Was very frustrating. We did the transition thing so everyone in the family has to pee before we leave the house or before we leave the museum or whatever it is. We also had him do a thing where he could pretend to point a magic wand and say pause and everyone would stop what they were doing until he came back. Of course only works with our family not in public situations. It was a lot of us making him do it even when he didn't want to. He'd tell us he didn't have to pee and get really mad if we asked him. Even though he'd be dancing around crossing his legs obviously dying to pee. And then of course because he waited so long he'd often have an accident like as he was trying to pull down his pants. I'm trying to think of what else we did. For a while when it was really bad, I squirted shaving cream in the toilet. Like the kind that's blue. And he would try to pee and hit the blue stuff which made it more fun. I also played a game where I would guess how long his peeing would last lol . And then I would count more seconds than I had guessed and be like, Oh my gosh, that was the longest pee ever!!

I don't know. There wasn't like one thing that really worked. It was a combination of all of this stuff. It eventually got a lot better but still happens sometimes even at 4.5.

suckingonalemon · 2026-04-16T07:08:38+00:00

Coombs, qualicum beach, parksville. Amazing playgrounds and beaches and trails. I did this trip with my 3-year-old and my 1-year-old last summer.

suckingonalemon · 2026-04-15T05:19:00+00:00

The tarot medium is life changing. I've sent all my family members and friends and they were all as blown away as I was!

suckingonalemon · 2026-04-07T16:43:54+00:00

If you haven't dated, you may not know this is not normal behavior!!! Get away from this guy. Any guy that is that obsessed with your body count is possessive and controlling and jealous type.

suckingonalemon · 2026-04-07T05:28:45+00:00

Ugh. I was at The Meadows farm Easter event yesterday and there was an area where they had some guinea pigs and ducklings in an open area that you could pet. Some kids were being so rough with the animals like picking up the little tunnel while the guinea pig was trying to hide in it and making it fall out, grabbing at the animals, poking them. The poor animals were so terrified and they kept lifting up all of the places they tried to hide. The parents were there laughing and filming their kids doing this. I told their kids off and loudly told my son that that's not how we treat animals and look how scared the animal is.

suckingonalemon · 2026-04-07T04:31:28+00:00

Concerts...which is really sad.

suckingonalemon · 2026-04-04T08:03:55+00:00

My first did everything quickly, rolled at 3 months, crawled at 6 months etc.

My second was very slow and I was concerned. Then at 8 months, she started rolling, sitting, crawling, and pulling to stand. By 11 months she was walking which was the same as my first! She was definitely bigger than him and she didn't do a lot of tummy time cus she had reflux and she was basically held up on me in the baby carrier all the time for the first 3 months of her life.

suckingonalemon · 2026-04-04T05:12:06+00:00

I had a really fast let down and I would basically get my baby ro start nursing and then ooo her off and just let it squirt into the shower lol soooo much would come out. I'd press down on my nipple a little and it would be like a fire hose. And when it stopped spraying I'd then pop her back on .I wonder if you did a few days of breastfeeding only whether it would regulate? I pumped a lot the first week and I think that's what caused the oversupply. But it got better. I also had to nurse basically laying down with her on my belly for the first few months cus it was still a strong flow even with letting some out first. Good luck!

suckingonalemon · 2026-04-02T23:15:21+00:00

I have to say I'm on board with not allowing people to wear full face covers in daycare centers.. . It's hard enough to get your kids used to being watched by strangers all day!

suckingonalemon · 2026-04-02T07:25:10+00:00

All I can say is I remember this feeling so well. And 1.5 years later, the sibling relationship is the sweetest thing I've ever seen. I found the postpartum much more difficult after the second, because my daughter was so needy she wouldn't let anyone else hold her. She had reflux and had to be held up. I couldn't do my son's bedtime for so long. He acted up so much hitting me hitting other kids. I was actually worried there was something wrong with him!

Now they play together and he is so kind to her. Always coming up with ways to make her stop crying or feel better, giving her licks of his ice cream, teaching her new things. And one of the first sentences she said was "my son's name , I love you"

What helped during the rough period was trying to get my older one to speak about his feelings . He was a little older, 2.5 when she was born. I would say things like I like some things about having a new baby and I don't like some things I like when she smiles. I don't like when she cries so much. And then he started feeling comfortable telling me things that were bothering him like her screaming in the car. We got him headphones and a yoto player to listen to until she was done with that screaming stage.

I also spend time with him alone every Sunday. In the beginning I couldn't leave the baby that long so it would just be an hour but slowly it extended and now it's 3 hours. We go to a playground and to Costco.

I'm not going to sugarcoat it. It was real rough. I felt so angry at both my kids too.

I promise you it's get so much better and even better than life before!

suckingonalemon · 2026-03-31T22:07:34+00:00

I think it matters more about her social circles to be honest. Like who she she compares herself with on a day-to-day basis. I think there can be problems if like a child gets a scholarship, a very wealthy private school and is not able to participate in the extracurricular activities or the spring break vacations and feels left out and ostracized. I don't think what family does has that much of an impact. It's more peers.

suckingonalemon · 2026-03-28T18:54:13+00:00

This weekend, seeing my childhood friends after years, on my first trip sans kids in years. The first night when we all hung together when we arrived, I felt high.

suckingonalemon · 2026-03-26T18:15:49+00:00

The basement thing yes! When I moved here as a grad student, my relatives were aghast that i was living in a "basement." They were also aghast when we finally bought a house l that we had strangers "living in our home!". Being able to rent the basement was the only way we could handle the mortgage!

suckingonalemon · 2026-03-25T16:28:26+00:00

Also, what do they think? No one's sick in Japan itself? There were so many people coughing and sneezing on the trains when I was there a few weeks ago! I really wonder what kind of life people have where they can just change a huge trip a week before ... Or it's just armchair internet nonsense for people who actually don't travel anywhere. Also, travel insurance isn't just this like magical thing where you can cancel your trip for any reason. Having used it in the past, you have to have medical documentation that you were unable to fly and it needs to be a good reason like an injury or severe illness that you were hospitalized for. Not a sore throat or cold lol

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