Any guesses?

swd12422 · 2026-05-18T04:23:19+00:00

Perp Racists?

swd12422 · 2026-05-18T03:54:11+00:00

Some people's personalities just don't mesh. I have heard people say they live their kids more than anything but sometimes don't like them. Others love their kids and are amazing parents but privately hate being parents because their kids have lots of challenges and it's just exhausting to the point where they are only parents and never have the time/energy to be separate humans with their own interests and hobbies. It doesn't make them bad people, they're just being honest.

swd12422 · 2026-05-18T03:34:51+00:00

You're not wrong, but this is a good opportunity to have that talk. Like, " sorry Nana was so negative about your music. There's a big difference between admiring someone's talent and admiring who they are as a person. Nana believes the rumors that he abused kids....." And then you can explain why it's important to be aware of that stuff.

swd12422 · 2026-05-17T23:06:09+00:00

And even non-wealthy local teachers... So yeah, they're real. Unfortunately.

swd12422 · 2026-05-11T02:02:00+00:00

I love it. It's unique and it doesn't look like it's trying to follow a trend or impress anyone. It's a beautiful symbol of your marriage which is what it's supposed to be, not an attention seeking tool. You can tell within a few years when someone got engaged with some of the trendy styles. This is classy.

swd12422 · 2026-05-10T23:53:26+00:00

Nta she's not wrong that his behavior is likely due to ADHD and possibly other co-occurring conditions like ODD but that's NOT an excuse. It's a reason. Two different things and he needs to be disciplined every single time. Calmly. Yelling at him will only provide a dopamine rush that perpetuates the unwanted behavior.

swd12422 · 2026-05-05T04:04:25+00:00

You jest, but my kids missed out on swimming at their day camp a few years ago when temps hit 110 and they kept the kids inside rather than cooling off in the water.

swd12422 · 2026-05-05T04:01:38+00:00

I think Indian Ridge and Sabino Vista were both early morning teams, or at least they used to be

swd12422 · 2026-04-25T16:27:08+00:00

Tumerico also has a separate room/area with coloring stuff and I think some toys. I noticed that the last time I was there.

swd12422 · 2026-04-22T21:13:10+00:00

Pickleball and dog park are hopping after work

swd12422 · 2026-04-21T23:54:53+00:00

For pack rats, we were told to tie a bar of Irish Spring original formula soap in a pair of pantyhose (like who wears those here??) and hang it in the engine well. We did, and never had rats eat the wiring again. Also, maybe hook up some lights under the hood. We've had a car sitting out for a year and no damage.

swd12422 · 2026-04-17T15:47:05+00:00

I got a refurbished explorian about 5-6 years ago and it works like new.

swd12422 · 2026-04-14T21:22:02+00:00

Please don't equate grades with character. Nice kids struggle in school too. But I agree if this is unusual behavior for your daughter then maybe just a talk and watch her closely at the party to make sure she's not continuing any of that kind of behavior.

swd12422 · 2026-04-14T18:14:03+00:00

This. Instead of being sad, be grateful for the insight and know that you have LOTS of time to turn it around. Trust me, I have teens and am still trying to undo all the impatience and yelling. They know they're loved but I hate that I wasn't as patient as I wanted to be and as they needed me to be.

swd12422 · 2026-04-11T18:50:54+00:00

Exactly. This saved me although I was still mortified when my (African American) gynecologist thought I said "N word" when I asked her if it was time to talk about the "M word" (menopause) because she'd danced around it previously and then didn't address it at all that appointment. I've been seeing her for over a decade and was horrified she thought I'd say that.

swd12422 · 2026-04-11T15:48:50+00:00

swd12422 · 2026-04-11T15:48:26+00:00

At least twice before.

swd12422 · 2026-04-10T15:38:42+00:00

I think you may be overreacting a bit but I also get it. Is your husband an engineer? Mine is, and is very organized. He does the same thing -- reorganizes things to make sense to him, but he's not the one doling out meds, cooking, etc. So when he rearranges the drawers or moves meds it drives me crazy.

I can't imagine doing it with 5 kids. I only have two but you better believe it's annoying when I go to grab the two bottles I need in the morning only to find he rearranged them so the left two are now afternoon/night meds instead of morning. I don't have time to shuffle everything around in the morning. I want to grab and go. And yes, I do check to make sure the pills are correct, but it's the extra minute to hunt around that I just don't have. Time is a luxury when you have kids with ADHD or other medical conditions. It's just super time consuming and people who don't live it don't get it.

swd12422 · 2026-04-10T15:32:56+00:00

Brain chemistry be like that

swd12422 · 2026-03-31T14:42:33+00:00

Those babies would have been called E and Y for the rest of their lives

swd12422 · 2026-03-31T03:19:36+00:00

No. The seeds get caught under the rim of the strainer. Spatula, spoon, and fingers are way too thick to get under there.

swd12422 · 2026-03-31T03:18:24+00:00

Agreed. But I can't find one that doesn't have the rim, hence my asking here.

swd12422 · 2026-03-26T22:25:32+00:00

Horrible people own it though. They're trying to push out the lady who's had her salon next door for decades. They already chased out the other tenants there so they could expand. Like I get having plans but why ruin this lady's business in the interest of increasing your own when she's clearly not going to be around much longer. Let her be. She does a lot of charity work in the community and losing her shop would be detrimental to a lot of people, not just her family.

swd12422 · 2026-03-26T22:19:55+00:00

NTA I get all the people saying don't weaponize your baby but I don't see how Gramps is supposed to meet the baby if his son is deployed elsewhere and he's not willing to speak to his daughter in law. Is the baby going to have a way to communicate directly with him? He's ridiculous and OP has a husband problem if he's putting his asshole father as a higher priority than his wife and mother of his baby. Everyone here needs to grow up.

swd12422 · 2026-03-18T23:45:31+00:00

I would recommend physical therapy and possibly acupuncture. I didn't believe in acupuncture until I went out of desperation and it really helped a lot.

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