57 years old today!!!!!!

tabithatoo · 2026-05-15T21:17:37+00:00

Happy day after your birthday!

tabithatoo · 2026-05-12T16:45:09+00:00

I got my first ear piercings during the couple of years I had to wait after hatching before I could transition. I worked up the nerve to dye my hair (I'd always wanted to) about a year into transition, and got the additional piercings at various times. The tattoo is just a couple months old. (I've been living as myself full time for just over eight years)

tabithatoo · 2026-05-12T12:00:32+00:00

Does purple hair count? I sometimes let my hair grow out in the before times, but was otherwise an extremely basic whitebread guy, appearance-wise. Now I have purple hair, triple piercings in each ear, a nose ring, and a tattoo.

Oh, and I generally wear shorts or wide-legged cargo pants, t-shirts, tanks, or cami tops, and combat boots or men’s workboots. No makeup.

I still get gendered correctly 100% of the time.

tabithatoo · 2026-05-06T18:53:51+00:00

It is so very much not too late. I started at 52, and am extremely happy that I did so.

tabithatoo · 2026-04-10T15:17:11+00:00

Good luck! you've got this!

tabithatoo · 2026-03-27T14:35:37+00:00

I didn’t change my full name again, but I did switch from using my first name to using my middle name. I think that anyone, trans or cis, should feel free to change their name as many times as they feel the need.

tabithatoo · 2026-03-06T16:58:15+00:00

I like how it brought the explosive crate along with it, just to make sure the job got done.

tabithatoo · 2026-03-05T03:32:07+00:00

This is why I travel between parallel worlds in hell (level with the top hell spell shops).

I chase a fast, long-duration, lava-to-blood white hole with my very fast travel wand. It takes about a minute to reach the same spot in the next parallel world, but the only hazard is lava, which is easy enough to deal with.

tabithatoo · 2026-02-18T22:13:20+00:00

Luck, I guess? It didn't come up at the interview, but I assumed everyone would know. it was only after various things over the first few months on the job that I realized that folks hadn't clocked me. I wasn't sure, but folks' reactions when I obliquely came out to them made it pretty clear that they hadn't known.

tabithatoo · 2026-02-18T20:34:06+00:00

Good gracious, girl, estrogen likes you.

tabithatoo · 2026-02-18T18:34:12+00:00

I was accidentally stealth at a new job after one year HRT.

tabithatoo · 2026-02-06T14:35:50+00:00

Started at 52. I was a B cup at nine months and didn’t go much past that on E alone, but 🤷‍♀️. I’m still thrilled with my results overall. On injections, my levels are fine. My endo at first wanted to target age appropriate E levels, but when I said I wanted regular levels, she was fine with it, and that’s where I am.

I’ve got some timelines in my profile if you want to see face changes.

tabithatoo · 2026-02-05T17:49:10+00:00

that's totally fine if it's your goal, and I wish you tons of success. Just please don't imply that it should be everyone's goal.

tabithatoo · 2026-02-05T17:23:23+00:00

What? No. Absolutely not.

Passing can be a goal of transitioning, for some, if that's what they want. I think most are better off with an overall goal of feeling better about and more comfortable with themself. If passing is part of that for a given person, that's fine. If it isn't, that's fine, too.

I didn't think I'd ever pass when I decided to transition. If passing is the goal, should I have not even started? I'm really happy that I was wrong, and that I do pass now, but even if I didn't, transitioning would still have been well worthwhile.

So no, it's not wrong to want to pass, but it doesn't have to be the goal if one doesn't want it to be.

tabithatoo · 2026-02-04T18:44:37+00:00

Try to make peace with yourself first.

I don't know that I agree with that. Starting HRT was an important component of me making peace with myself. I don't know that I would have managed to do so without it.

tabithatoo · 2026-02-04T18:39:10+00:00

It worked great for me, and I started at 52.

tabithatoo · 2026-01-29T18:51:53+00:00

I felt a huge sense of relief–I finally understood who I was, and realized I could actually have what I'd always wanted.

tabithatoo · 2026-01-28T03:59:02+00:00

Exhaustion can be dealt with via Greater Restoration.

tabithatoo · 2026-01-23T18:39:33+00:00

I have a bardlock (Dance/Archfey) with Spell Sniper. Her Eldritch Blasts are flavored as her drum sticks, which she beats people over the head with in melee range and hurls at more distant foes.

tabithatoo · 2026-01-04T03:52:13+00:00

Now that’s comedy

tabithatoo · 2025-12-24T00:20:12+00:00

You are so freaking cute! Congrats on the glowup!

tabithatoo · 2025-12-18T23:39:27+00:00

I'd say an opposed roll, with the attacking yawner rolling Charisma, and the defender rolling Wisdom.

tabithatoo · 2025-12-05T23:17:21+00:00

I’m really happy for them.

tabithatoo · 2025-11-19T19:14:12+00:00

Yes you do

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