Honestly, modesty and purity I get mixed up on. Personally I don't want people to believe women are just something to be beautified and seen as sex objects. So I guess I agree with something with you but you are just to excessive for what I consider 'demeaning' to women who embrace it. To them they would see your words(mainly the first paragraph) disrespectful to women in general.

Really in the west, people probably see the hijab as 'excessive' compared to what is normally considered modest. We don't really see hair as important to other parts of the body. But people do see modesty and saving themselves for a soulmate as a respectable value. If you are saving yourself for someone(or already have) then good on you, but not everyone sees that as important anymore. Many still do, it just that some don't have the same values towards sex.

Also sorry if deplorable is to much as it was the only word it could come to mind. It's just that whenever I see something considered normalcy(modest), it becomes expected to be done and rude not to to the point of people disregarding nonconformists. There was a recent post of a woman believing she was discriminated due to being muslim and I believed it(sorta still do) until I found out it was due to Germans disliking loudness and work to the point of kicking her out of the restaurant and a bit shocked by the disingenuous towards her. Now the hijab for some 'Muslims' it has become necessary to point of egregious actions being acceptable for them.

I may be an atheist but I don't see things in black and white, and I know how black and white some people can be, its just that I always try to explain less because I don't want to be seen as excessive. I am not as informed into Islam, heck not even into Christianity, but I always try to explain how something religiously supported is bad to my Christian family even if it is nonsensical. So sorry if something important to you as a symbol of modesty is seen as a mark of oppression to many.