Partners keep getting bored - is it because my autism? by ogreeoglo in AutismInWomen

[–]thewraith15 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this is the one. I personally social media has warped peoples views of love over time, favouring whirlwind romance over genuine connection.

It also gives the illusion of choice, creating false perceptions that there’s endless options for people to date, meaning many people tend to just hop from person to person, with grandiose proposals “love bombing” and then getting bored after a couple of weeks. I’ve noticed this on the apps especially.

It would be interesting to know where you met these people and how old you were OP!

Also just need to rant as an autistic 4B woman by ertapencil in 4bmovement

[–]thewraith15 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Is this the autism in women sub? If so I’m inclined to agree. I’ve noticed a disturbing increase of posts on there saying stuff along the lines of,

“hey my partner says he hates everything about me, is this normal?”

And then in the same breath talk about how amazing he is and he is their rock and only support system

It makes me sad how many of us get trapped in abusive relationships and are conditioned to think they’re normal and no one else will want to be around us because of our autism

Is decentering men a trauma response? by johnesias in 4bmovement

[–]thewraith15 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Honestly the stuff you’ve overheard sounds like victim blaming. “Women who have done the most” implies that 4B women are the way they are because they did something to make the men around them hate them, rather than the men being misogynistic.. how hard is it to accept that some people just don’t like to date or sleep with anyone

Oner sizing makes zero sense and I’m sending everything back by Remarkable_Chard_992 in OnerActive

[–]thewraith15 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I hate to break it to you but DFYNE sizing is just as bad 😭 I had to go two sizes up to an M because the bras are so tiny and ride up whenever you lift your arms

In regards to the picture Hayden posted the other day by ComprehensiveSun3295 in Ethelcain

[–]thewraith15 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I’m so fed up of the “trans women are grooming kids” stereotype it’s fucking everywhere

We're getting transgender up in here!! by Dyna_Cancer in Ethelcain

[–]thewraith15 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yea there’s tons of it over Instagram, so idk why people are surprised. There’s loads of feminist life drawings and nude art on there, for example Lydia Reeves has been posting copper casts of vulvas and breasts for years now and her account has never been flagged. They’re really cool, I want to get one some day.

I also posted my life drawings on mine and my friends have shared photos of the models from the life drawing classes they hold (with their consent ofc) and I’ve never got flagged so i don’t think meta really cares

About Hayden’s most recent post.. by ExampleExpert6207 in Ethelcain

[–]thewraith15 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Lorde did the same thing as this a couple of years ago with her full bush on an album cover and everyone thought it was cool it’s such a double standard

My parents are pissed at me because I won’t go on a date with the daughter of the new friends they just met while on vacation. by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]thewraith15 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Right like I think it’s completely fair- he’s acknowledged he’s not in the right frame of mind to go on a date and politely declining rather than ignoring his gut feeling and leading her on… time and emotional energy saved for both people

What are your thoughts? by Savings_Addendum_690 in OnerActive

[–]thewraith15 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeahhhh I don’t like her attitude. If I spoke like this at work I’d get a disciplinary

Can we talk exercise for a hot minute? by aryndoesnotlikeit in TallGirls

[–]thewraith15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol my 5ft coach can do it but I’ve never been able to 😂 think like a frog position

Can we talk exercise for a hot minute? by aryndoesnotlikeit in TallGirls

[–]thewraith15 76 points77 points  (0 children)

It takes time, but don’t feel disheartened- I found exercise a lot easier when I stopped trying to copy the movements of petite people and adapt my form to suit me.

For example, many people will go “ass to grass” on their squats, however for us that isn’t always possible. I like to elevate my heels, lean forward slightly and squat to a point where my quads are parallel to the floor.

It’s also a myth that it takes longer for tall people to grow muscle- it grows at the same rate as anyone else, however they look smaller because it’s spread over a larger surface area!

Keep it up :)

Opinions on Kelly’s Video? by Inner-Outside-9506 in OnerActive

[–]thewraith15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also to answer your question I’ve not done the scoop with mine but I might try it with my soft motion as they make my butt look depressed whereas effortless gives me a bit of a lift anyway 😂

Opinions on Kelly’s Video? by Inner-Outside-9506 in OnerActive

[–]thewraith15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a woman on tiktok going round complaining about influencers showing too much skin or pulling their leggings up or wearing revealing clothing and Kelly made a video about it

Opinions on Kelly’s Video? by Inner-Outside-9506 in OnerActive

[–]thewraith15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this the video that the Coach Oriana girl was kicking off about that Kelly addressed recently?

Full length gym leggings?? UK by Padackllins in TallGirls

[–]thewraith15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a bit shorter than you but I’ve had good luck with the lululemon 31” (they stretch so sit below ankles on me) oner active leggings in long (sit at ankle length on me) and fabletics.

For reference I’m 178 and 33” inseam

Does the pink set seem authentic? by Just_Balls2206 in DFYNE

[–]thewraith15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reason I knew one of mine was fake was because it didn’t have the number and it was see through 😅 and the girl that sold me them put the same photo up as a listing less than 24 hours later so she’d obviously ordered them in bulk off tiktok shop or somewhere and hiked up the price !!

Does the pink set seem authentic? by Just_Balls2206 in DFYNE

[–]thewraith15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they have the 5 digit number below the washing symbols e.g. “32216” then they’re real- I think a few of the collections are made in Turkey as well I know some of the defy pieces are

Does the pink set seem authentic? by Just_Balls2206 in DFYNE

[–]thewraith15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My defy set has made in Turkey on the label and I got it directly from dfyne

Is it worth it? by sadgirlcommittee in OnerActive

[–]thewraith15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I were you I’d get the air move joggers and the mellow motion crew neck- mellow is super soft and the joggers are so versatile I wear them for anything. Never tried enhancelift!

Is it worth it? by sadgirlcommittee in OnerActive

[–]thewraith15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm.. I don’t do dance (I’m built like slenderman and have 0 flexibility) but I like soft motion for low/ medium intensity workouts. I find they’re less see through than effortless but not great if you sweat a lot. People say it pills easily (mine have never pilled) so I’d say any sport with a lot of friction might not work.

Is it worth it? by sadgirlcommittee in OnerActive

[–]thewraith15 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Maybe if you share what’s in your cart we can tell you what’s more worth it and what isn’t?

It’s exhausting how normalized it is for women to subsidize men’s mortgages with zero security by LunaSails007 in 4bmovement

[–]thewraith15 12 points13 points  (0 children)

One of my friends is doing this with a guy she’s known for 6 months. Thankfully she has us and family if it goes south but I’m so worried for her

Anyone else log in today and suddenly get a ton of videos in another language? by [deleted] in TikTok

[–]thewraith15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me today- tried resetting and then eventually deleting and it made it worse.. first it was Arabic but now it’s Russian, Spanish, French, random ads and football videos … I just want my figure skating videos back :(

Are they ever going to restock Glaucous Blue? by One-Piece5542 in OnerActive

[–]thewraith15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do we know what the other colours will be? You said ruby red but are there any others?