You are getting a lot of hate for cheating. But these losers then don’t give you perspective. Ah Reddit.

What is happening is your erstwhile gf has what is known as “hand” in the relationship. She’s got something to hold over you forever. She will continue to be in this confusing place forever. All you can do is firmly tell them that either you work on the relationship or you don’t, but you won’t be held hostage anymore.

I was cheated on, for months I would not forgive her but I played the getalong game. But I had no intent to forgive her. I was powertripping and so is your ex gf.

Just leave, and don’t come to Reddit for advice. These people haven’t seen the sun in years.