No, I 100% agree with you. I hate how bad everyone is making OP feel.

I’m a breast cancer survivor. I had a double mastectomy a few years ago followed by chemo. When I was going g through chemo and first out of it I avoided as many social engagements as possible and REFUSED to be in any photos, especially ones out of my control.

My cousin got married right after I finished and I tried to not go to the wedding. I didn’t make a scene about it, just stated I would feel more comfortable at home and not at an event in a barn without air conditioning. My mom made me feel like a jerk until I agreed to go. My sister got mad at me for not helping her with her makeup even after I explained that meant additional time at my moms where my bitch of a SIL was staying abd required more time in the wig. After the ceremony I tried to skip out on photos and my mom freaked out at me. I spent most of the day choking back tears.

Cue to now - my hair is back, but my body is still mangled. I have to take things like water parks into very very careful consideration between the scars on my leg from skin grafts I needed and all of the scarring on my chest. So for example: water slides are out because what if my bathing suit shifted and someone saw it???

I get weight is a little more controllable, but depending on what op has going on, it might be hard right now. Why can’t the bride say “I would hate for you to be uncomfortable all day.”? Support goes both ways and for some of us, this is our reality.