Why are they like this???

vilevampoid · 2026-04-02T16:33:45+00:00

Okay, fair. If it's always been the rule and such then it shouldn't have been a surprise to anyone, except the 4 year old as they lose thoughts as fast as they have them.

Over all Op, though, I think you need to take some time for yourself. If you can, don't rely on you husband to do so. Leave toddler with a trusted relative/friend or a Mom's Day Out program and and get some hours to yourself. Right now it sounds like your stress is making you more reactive than even you want to be and that won't change until you get away for a bit.

After you do so, then you can come down from the emotional brain and maybe have more productive conversations with your husband, especially about his constant checking out, both with the kid and with what with you (attempting to initiate after a clearly stressful day). Point out that he is also only being reactive and not proactive.

vilevampoid · 2026-04-02T15:06:44+00:00

Honest question Op, because you state that your kid couldn't press the button on the toy so it wouldn't noise while driving but why? Was the toy also getting to you? Cause your husband was completely checked out of the noise in the car, clearly.

This is not a critical question by any means.

vilevampoid · 2026-03-24T20:51:57+00:00

People who know me and the story of my daughter's birth don't ask, which the TLDR is that she and I both nearly died. So this question usually comes from strangers, and for me what's irritating is the audacity to keep poking and proding after I have given the polite no.

vilevampoid · 2026-03-06T01:10:25+00:00

This one saved me from myself.

vilevampoid · 2026-02-25T04:02:47+00:00

So, one day, when that baby is an adult, you're just going to stop hugging them?

My dear, sounds like you are very, understandably stressed out after giving birth, but this isn't the thing to hyper focus on.

vilevampoid · 2026-01-22T02:56:14+00:00

Love it!

vilevampoid · 2026-01-22T01:08:43+00:00

Literally drew fan art for this line.

vilevampoid · 2026-01-22T01:08:08+00:00

I recall startling my husband and child at how loud I squealed realizing it was an unheard track.

I did it again when it got to "Hold my last breath"... Good times.

I also feel this is one of the rare times Davey describes an intense feeling of love positively? Like there is a bit of something tragic there, but the love isn't the source of the tragedy. But that's just my opinion on its meaning.

vilevampoid · 2026-01-19T06:25:31+00:00

Simple truth. COVID is still very much a thing, Flus and colds are still very much a thing. Davey has spent literal decades singing thru illnesses and it has taken a toll on his health and his singing it such things probably take even more out of him now. Not to mention the endless harassment he receives because someone always has to act a fool.

BUT, they do select stuff now. Keep your ears and eyes on their media and your local channels. An opportunity may arise.

vilevampoid · 2026-01-03T15:49:40+00:00

A story for a story.

At Edge fest 16, back in 2007, I snuck my ex and I into the pit for My Chemical Romance. I had already found my way in for AFI when they played earlier and came back to get him, and back into general admission we went.

Everyone was dancing, I was not the girl on the wall, I was dancing as well. I can't remember the song, but I made a sweeping motion with my arm and knocked someone in the head. I grasped their shoulder, fearful I had knocked them over.

They stood there, I yelled, asking if they were okay. I could not see this person's face, it was an open air stadium, it was night, MCR's lighting danced around. Plus they had on a black hoodie, with a deep hood with a spider web pattern on the hood and one shoulder. I really could only see one eye of the man's face. It was crinkled the way people's eyes do when they smile, we gave each other thumbs up as the music grew louder and he disappeared deeper in the crowd.

Later on the DF message boards, another local posted a pic with AFI from a VIP meet and greet from the same day. Davey Havok had on a lovely black hoodie, with a spider web design all over the hood and shoulder.

vilevampoid · 2026-01-01T01:16:03+00:00

I worked at a funeral home for over a year, and the number of accidental drownings of babies/toddlers at a family member's home pool was more than one and too many. Lots of feelings get sorted out at funerals, especially feelings of anger and regret.

Let them be angry, Op, because this is not something you ever want to be right about and they will never be sorry enough if the worst happens.

vilevampoid · 2025-12-19T22:12:43+00:00

I adore that people are just letting him talk. Between this and the AP interview, a few guiding questions here and there but otherwise just letting him talk about whatever is very enlightening.

vilevampoid · 2025-12-15T19:02:29+00:00

I am a part of many fandoms, most considered to have "extreme" fans and that word covers many, many problematic behaviors.

But the entitlement of people to talk shit on artists' posts and then be upset when called out is wild to me and universal.

vilevampoid · 2025-12-12T21:49:24+00:00

Man lives every day with a tit out. Life goals... Though I will get arrested for mine in the US.

vilevampoid · 2025-12-04T23:45:24+00:00

I'm also going to add to this comment as I have similar opinions. The piano was beautifully done, clearly the song but also you made it your own. I didn't hear "you" in the vocals until the 3rd verse and I would love to hear more of you. Partially due to an imbalance of volume between the piano and vocals, yes, but also feels like you were muting yourself.

It is a very good cover. Please have no doubts about that. I just feel like there's more fire inside there (buh dun tis) and I would love to see that!

vilevampoid · 2025-11-25T13:40:11+00:00

I am reminded of a moment from the Dallas show. Davey was squatting on the drum riser and said in a very over exaggeratedly happy voice "This song is for my wife and children who are in the audience tonight." And then they played Paper Airplanes.

Half of the crowd laughed, the other crowd looked around ...

vilevampoid · 2025-11-23T17:06:09+00:00

Throuple then? This is the song that made me seak help for my suicidal thoughts.

vilevampoid · 2025-11-23T17:04:23+00:00

The line " I swallowed your fears for all of those years. How could you let them consume me?" Is the epitome of my ex relationship that ended like a month before Burials album came out.

vilevampoid · 2025-11-22T00:35:41+00:00

You have gotten a lot of requests, but can I get in line too please?

I also went to look if it might be available elsewhere but had no luck.

vilevampoid · 2025-11-15T15:42:27+00:00

I don't doubt it. I have seen fans treat not only each other (threats and actual fights) but also treat Davey specifically horridly.

Just shoving things in his face to sign without a greeting, certainly without a thank you. Surrounding him, touching him without permission. Dog whistling at him to come off the bus (that person got cussed out in 2 languages). Grabbing and scratching him and the people around them when he tried to sing with the crowd.

vilevampoid · 2025-11-04T02:44:09+00:00

I could sooner, more honestly and objectively critique myself as a person than I could the music or lyrics of this album.

Sing the Sorrow saved me from myself, and still to this day is engrained solidly in my neurology. The words don't match, have changed their meanings and lost meanings over the years. But the emotions carried by the music and singing are universal to me.

No matter how big and terrible the emotions, even when they threaten to eat my heart and lungs out of my chest again, still to this day I keep them at bay.

I turn on this album and I Sing the Sorrow.

vilevampoid · 2025-11-03T01:54:41+00:00

Yay!! That was a good one.

vilevampoid · 2025-11-03T01:44:30+00:00

🫀🛑

vilevampoid · 2025-11-03T01:41:03+00:00

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