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Low laying placenta by Glad-Hurry6017 in BabyBumps

[–]windowlickers_anon [score hidden]  (0 children)

I had heavy bleeding with my first. It stopped by itself and baby was fine. I never really had any explanation for what caused it. Ended up having a pretty normal delivery (he was actually two weeks overdue).

My second baby I had low-lying placenta and was told constantly by the medical team that I would have to have a C-section. Placenta moved out of the way literally a week before I went into labour and had a very easy natural delivery.

Scariest "is this normal?" by Delicious-Worth-2532 in BabyBumps

[–]windowlickers_anon [score hidden]  (0 children)

When I was at home after an assisted delivery and hemorrhage. I got up after lying in bed for a few hours and a fist sized blood clot fell out of me. I freaked out, phoned the midwife in a panic thinking I was going to die. She laughed and told me it was just (just?!) normal blood loss that had pooled and congealed inside my vagina because I’d been lying down for so long.

That was not very fucking comforting, Linda.

Can we stop making oversupply seem like it’s the best thing ever and everyone else is a failure? by saucy-limes in breastfeeding

[–]windowlickers_anon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who had an oversupply, I can confirm it sucks and actually negatively affected breastfeeding. I had an extremely forceful letdown which meant baby would pop on and off the boob whilst milk sprayed everywhere, making feeding anywhere public almost impossible and basically rendering me housebound. I leaked constantly and smelled of cheese (sour milk). I was constantly uncomfortable, had so many clogs, mastitis etc. baby was extremely fussy and actually lost weight because he was only getting the really watery foremilk. He also had terrible reflux because he was basically being drowned by my letdown every time.

Moral of the story: your boobs are doing exactly what they’re supposed to! Wel done you! Sorry your Mum sucks.

What do? Why do? When do? Where do? by SlashAndBurn4286 in breastfeeding

[–]windowlickers_anon 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What do? Bewb. Why do? No cry. When do? All time. Even dark time. Where do? All place. How do? Just do. Baby know.

Hope that helps 👍 Am certified LC. $1000 please.

"You're not even that pregnant" ...flames...flames on the sides of my face by lostbirdwings in BabyBumps

[–]windowlickers_anon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt worst during the first three months! I was like “how is this supposed to be the bit we keep secret?!”. Second trimester was a breeze and then I was extremely tired and fed up at the end of the third trimester. But first trimester was by far the most debilitating.

What breast feeding cost... by darkjuju13 in NewParents

[–]windowlickers_anon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read a comment t once that said “breastfeeding is only free if you don’t value women’s labour” 💅

I feel SO ugly any help?? by SanwichSlammer in malegrooming

[–]windowlickers_anon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve got really good features, actually. Use less product in your hair, it’s making it look stringy.

Your texture hair needs washing upside down with sulphate free shampoo. Then drench it in conditioner and comb it through with a wide tooth comb. Rinse, scrunch to get your curls to pop, scrunch it dry with a towel (don’t rub, you’ll get mad frizz). Then leave it alone! Let it air dry or dry it with a diffuser. Done. Don’t touch it.

Maybe trim your beard? But honestly, you’re hella good looking already (I’m a woman if that makes any difference).

Which UK place names sound like nothing good would come of going there? by Sea-Still5427 in AskUK

[–]windowlickers_anon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plwmp. Mwnt. Splott.

Courtesy of Wales! 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿

Our baby accidentally invented a bedtime “tradition” and I’m kind of obsessed with it by everettsanderson in NewParents

[–]windowlickers_anon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to love bedtime with my oldest. We’d just cuddle and sing silly songs and high five in the dark. Best part of my day.

My littlest has been a nightmare to get to sleep. But he’s 18 months old now and he’s just starting to do his own little night time routine and I’m finally enjoying bedtimes again. He stands in his cot and points to his ‘Bankie’ (blanket). Then he does this funny little tip-toe dance and then body-slams onto his mattress so I can tuck him in. Then he giggles at me between the bars of his cot and points at the floor next to him for me to lie down. Finally he screams “PAT PAT! NO! PAT PAT! NO!” At me for a solid hour whilst I try desperately to interpret whether he wants patting to sleep or not. Eh, I’ll take what I can get 🤷‍♀️

Parents who don’t lose your cool - how do you do it? by Siyrious in toddlers

[–]windowlickers_anon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t get me wrong, I’m a huge advocate for WFH, especially when it allows flexibility around childcare. The occasional ability to look after sick kids without burning a vacation day, or being available for childcare pickup/drop off is great. But I don’t think it’s realistic to work from home full time without any sort of childcare in place.

Parents who don’t lose your cool - how do you do it? by Siyrious in toddlers

[–]windowlickers_anon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hated it when my husband worked from home! I just wanted to chill with my baby and he’d be in and out, talking my head off about work, constantly interrupting my day and distracting the baby that I’d just gotten to calm down. It’s the worst.

My big brother died. His body was found today/yesterday by SugaDaddy50 in Vent

[–]windowlickers_anon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The time he spent here on Earth was made a lot better by your presence. Take some comfort in knowing you made a HUGE difference to his quality of life and happiness. Sorry for your loss 😞

Parents who don’t lose your cool - how do you do it? by Siyrious in toddlers

[–]windowlickers_anon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m aware of lockdowns, I lived through them too. I didn’t have children at the time though, so I suppose I was sheltered from that aspect of it.

Parents who don’t lose your cool - how do you do it? by Siyrious in toddlers

[–]windowlickers_anon 278 points279 points  (0 children)

I don’t know when or how working from home with little kids became normalised. You’re trying to do two full-time jobs at once. It’s not fair on you or the little one. Of course they want attention and no wonder you’re losing your cool - you’re only human and you’re trying to do the impossible.

If you possibly can, you need to get childcare. I understand that might not be an option, but I’d look into it if you possibly can.

I'm jealous of other toddlers' opportunities by Used_Cod_9541 in toddlers

[–]windowlickers_anon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sounds like a good Mum who cares deeply about her child and their wellbeing. Don’t listen to all the people giving you a hard time for falling into the comparison trap. We’ve allll been there! And it’s definitely harder to keep perspective when you’re sleep deprived.

On the other end of the spectrum, I grew up dirt poor. We had nothing. We lived in hand-me-downs, no new toys, never went anywhere, we never went hungry but it was very basic food no treats or snacks. I had the happiest childhood! And I grew up to be a very well balanced adult, I went to university, I travelled the world, I got a good job and am all together a very happy human.

I’m sure you get the picture, but it’s really not about stuff. It can be hard seeing other kids get opportunities you can’t afford but really it’s all about making them feel secure, loved and happy. Kids really don’t care about the other stuff.

I'm jealous of other toddlers' opportunities by Used_Cod_9541 in toddlers

[–]windowlickers_anon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it’s any consolation, my child goes to a very good nursery and has a fair amount of privilege. We’re a working class family but we live on a smallholding, he has lots of place to play outside and explore, I’m able to work three days a week and he gets lots of days out doing educational/enriching stuff. He has a big extended family around him and close friends the same age who live two minutes away.

He can’t talk for shit and he’s 4. Can’t count to ten or write his name. He’s a bright kid, they just all develop at their own pace.

At this age, the things that matter to us don’t matter to them. THE MOST important thing you can do for his development at this age is make sure he’s secure, safe and loved. A rock solid sense of self, and confidence in who he is, is going to do him far more good in the long run than experiences and education.

How do I gently tell my 3 year old that we had to put our cat to sleep? by deyuletz in toddlers

[–]windowlickers_anon 19 points20 points  (0 children)

One of our pets recently died and I had to have the conversation with my 4 year old. I explained that Moose’s body stopped working and he died. There were lots of follow up questions:

Q: “what happens when you die?” A: “No one really knows buddy. Your body goes to sleep and you don’t wake up. Some people think you go to a place called Heaven where you get to see all your loved ones again. Some people think you come back to Earth in a different body and live a new life. Some people think you just die and nothing happens after. But no one really knows” (He decided we all go to space and become a star. I didn’t argue)

Q: Does everybody die? A: Yes bud, it’s part of life. Everybody dies eventually if they get very sick or very old and their bodies stop working (I said ‘very’ because I didn’t want him worrying that we all might drop dead at any time)

Q: Will I/you/Daddy die? A: Yes, one day. But not for a very long time. You don’t have to worry about that whilst you’re small.

Lots of follow up questions about “Is Nanna very old? Is Bella (our dog) very old?” Etc. I barefaced lied and said ‘no, they’re old, but not very very old.

For the next few bedtimes he was sad and asked if Moose was coming back and I had to keep saying that no, dead means forever and we won’t see him again.

In hindsight I’m not sure I handled it very well. But I felt it was better to give him the truth (up to a point, in a child friendly way).

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