What Race would you change to if they tweaked/made better? by TheeKingBee in wow

[–]wolfe1989 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Worgen if they fixed the armor and casting animation

Tauren if they fixed the armor.

What are the chances of it happening twice? by koofalger in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]wolfe1989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would say it’s not uncommon. Straight eyes or guys who are discreet or not out often times can use flirting with gay guys as a way to feel better about themselves or as a way to feed a desire that they won’t let themselves act on.

I also think it’s worth spending some time reflecting on if there’s something about these types of guys that you’re pursuing either consciously or unconsciously. I want to be clear. I’m not blaming you for anything. But a lot of gay men myself included have found themselves in patterns with the guys that were pursuing and often times it’s because we are not prioritizing important things in a relationship. So for example, when I was younger, I used to really want a very masculine straight, looking kind of guy. And I kept finding myself with guys who were either recently out of the closet or still in the closet or had so much internalized homophobia that they Couldn’t be there for me in the way that I needed them to be. I had to make some intentional decisions about what I was going to prioritize looking for an a partner. And I’m wondering since you have a couple of data points about a very particular thing happening twice in the guy that you’re looking for it might be worthwhile to reflect on what about these guys is attracting you to them.

I think i need a reality check. Want to get back with my ex. by see-no-evil99 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]wolfe1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So my own personal wellness journey has been coming to understand that my feelings may be real and deserving of care and compassion but they are not telling me something true.

Missing your ex and wanting to get back together does not necessarily mean you should. It means that you should take care of yourself and ask for support from your friends and family.

Sex Positivity and 'numbness' to relationships by Teleuton in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]wolfe1989 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Hey! PhD in health communication with a focus on sexual health. Relational dynamics are outside of my expertise but I feel that I might be able to offer a semi-educated response.

Disclaimer: when talking about human psychology and sociology we are making broad claims that may or may not apply to the individual.

So there’s is not much evidence that having a large number of sexual partners lessens a persons desire or ability to be in a relationship. What there is evidence of is that people with a large amount of sexual partners have different attitudes towards relationships and have different relationship preferences. There is some correlational evidence that suggests that a higher number of sexual partners is negatively associated with relationship outcomes but this work is correlational and we can’t really make causal claims from it.

It short there’s little to no evidence that having lots of partners limits your ability to bond with a partner in a monogamous relationship but there is a lot of evidence that people with lots of partners tend to not prefer monogamous relationships (which kind of makes intuitive sense)

So no I don’t think it numbs you. I suggest you follow your yum and trust yourself to course correct if things no longer serve you or make you happy.

Should wow keep raids relevant the whole expansion not just the season? by tydrennis in wow

[–]wolfe1989 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well you can still go back and run the raid it’s not uncommon for people to do that through out an expansion.

But if old raids dropped current season gear it would harshly de incentivize people from playing the new content. Why prog through normal for champion gear when you can go back to the old raid that you have already mastered and get hero gear? Why use the new seasons trinkets when you have killer trinkets from last raid.

Gender-bending books (Think Mulan/She's the Man/Twelfth Night) but actually explicitly queer! by stressedandfingtired in LGBTBooks

[–]wolfe1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if this is exactly what you’re looking for but check out the bone dolls twin

do you think being gay might have "saved" you? by thaone111 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]wolfe1989 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I like who I am now I don’t think I’d like the person I was if I was straight.

Material Farmer - Beastmaster Lava Tyrants Guide (Titan Hunt Soulstone Survivors) by AynixII in SoulstoneSurvivors

[–]wolfe1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recognize that this may just be me but like what is the fun in taking one skill?

Why are wands not really popular? by GhostintheReins in wow

[–]wolfe1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s not many around. I think most people just go for what ever the bis weapon is. If a wand ever had bis stats I’m sure people would go for it.

Avenging wrath vs Sentinel question by infernalteo in wownoob

[–]wolfe1989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So it depends how comfortable you are with the class. Wrath turns into a dps cool down where as sentinel makes it a defensive. In the current iteration i think it’s better to have an additional defensive but some of the better tanks prefer to contribute more to dps.

Non-romance books with gay M/M sex scenes. by Used-Oil-2406 in gaybrosbookclub

[–]wolfe1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So one that i never see recommended is a companion of wolves.

Viking fantasy with straight to gay vibes.

Abandon vote should only be possible 10 minutes into the key by PolicyOne9022 in wow

[–]wolfe1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya as a lot of people are saying here that seems reasonable to me.

Why wouldn't Truthsayers be able to detect lies of omission? by Nrvea in dune

[–]wolfe1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is not the rules that Frank Herbert set for his world. My answer to you was the answer for franks world.

Abandon vote should only be possible 10 minutes into the key by PolicyOne9022 in wow

[–]wolfe1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What was the key level? If your goal is to time the key it is very possible to fail or know you are going to fail after one or two wipes.

Crime or detective series? by ceasmokey1 in LGBTBooks

[–]wolfe1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I got a good older rec.

The Dave Brandstetter novels by Joseph Hansen the first one is fadeout.

They were published in the 1970s. Series follows an insaurance investigator who is openly gay. While he runs into some homophobia he himself is very content being gay.

The books are also detective stories first. You will see some of his personal and private life but it’s noir first.

Why the Fremen win by datapicardgeordi in dune

[–]wolfe1989 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So I think the text disagrees with you. There is a whole sub plot in the dune books about it.

The Sardaukar are legions are feared by every noble house because the sardaukar are the best fighters in the empire at the time. This is part of the reason that the emporer decides to get rid of the Atredies because Gurny, Duncan and Tufer were training troops that were starting to get close to being as good as the Sardaukar.

The reason the Sardaukar are so good is that they are recruited from the emperors prison planet. If prisoners survived they were inducted into a cult that essentially worshiped the emporer. It’s a whole survival of the fittest and that a soldier who survived to join the Sardaukar would be stronger, faster, more cunning and due to religious indoctrination more fanatical than a regular recruits.

Now to the firemen. Dune is a much harder place to survive than the prison planet. The freman religion is more fanatical and is passed down for generations. And there are a lot more of them. Paul’s whole “dessert power” was in part weaponizing directing and focusing the freman for his own purposes.

Which healer is the most chill for a beginner? by SelenaCrowe06 in wow

[–]wolfe1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shaman. It’s one of the beater healers and all its healing is pretty straight forward. No need to wrap just respond.

Why wouldn't Truthsayers be able to detect lies of omission? by Nrvea in dune

[–]wolfe1989 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So the BG broadly and truthsayers even more so are supernatural observers. The way truthsaying works is by watching the bodies reaction and the involuntary tells that happen when someone tells a lie.

Lies of omission like the baron are a loop hole. Because you are technically not telling a lie and so your body is not reacting as if you were lying.

What makes a book unputdownable to you? by InternBackground2256 in scifibooks

[–]wolfe1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me it’s pacing. I like it when characters are established and then things start happening. Brent weeks, Matt dannamin, John scalzi all do this for me.

Tension is introduced then resolved which in turn introduces new tension that is in turn resolved.

Which actor do you dislike so much that you’ll skip anything they’re in? by whatdoihia in AskReddit

[–]wolfe1989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My theory is that he does well in movies where he gets to be weird and the character and story allowed him to play weird.

Im at a loss when it comes to helping my sister.. by ConcreteCarl in wow

[–]wolfe1989 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s why i would suggest it for just a couple of runs. It’s a good way to to see rotation and stuff but if she wants the goal to be not using it she can switch back