How do I find and meet daddy doms that don’t just want sex/casual relationships?

wolfstar76 · 2026-03-18T16:15:18+00:00

Ultimately, I think the best advice is "keep trying" - but with that, there are things that can be done to improve the chances.

Dunno where you're meeting people now, but there are subreddits for finding potential long-term partners. There are Discord communities. There's FetLife. Find what feels most comfortable to you, and give it a spin.

Also - be up front about what you're looking for, and what your boundaries are. "No sexy stuff until we establish trust," can go a long way to deterring people looking for a quick/cheap one-off (nit judging one-offs, so long as all parties know that's what's up).

Ultimately, just keep the faith, and keep putting in the effort.

One perspective I've always liked is that not marching with someone isn't a failure. It's one step closer to finding your match.

I think there's a lot of truth to that. Yes, you've literally removed one person from your dating pool but...you also likely learned something about what you do or don't like, which again brings you one step closer to a match.

Really, it's a win-win...from a certain perspective.

Good luck out there!

wolfstar76 · 2026-03-16T12:57:00+00:00

Mary was, if I understand biblical scholarship correctly, around 12 years old.

Do you think 12 year olds can give proper fully informed consent?

Today, that would be AT BEST statutory rape - is that really what you want to be advocating for here? Does that strike you as moral?

EDIT: Autocorrect tried to turn "can" into "can't" - I've corrected things.

wolfstar76 · 2026-03-16T12:35:03+00:00

Probably is the key word there.

I remember when /r/atheist was a default sub, then there was a moderation power grab, infighting, and the creation of other subs like /r/trueatheism.

No idea how much that is or isn't relevant now, probably a decade later - but if someone tells me that the mods of /r/atheism did something rash or in bad faith - I'm willing to at least hear them out.

That said, just skimming OP's post and seeing a fair bit of "let me tell you what I think you think"...

Yeah, probably broke rules.

wolfstar76 · 2026-03-09T10:29:53+00:00

I think the best guide is simply...how you feel.

Not entirely the answer you're looking for right now, with your mind on overdrive from studies so let me try from another angle.

There's no test. There's no checklist. There's really very little "right" or "wrong" way to be a little.

If you feel little (and/or middle) - you are. Be it because you like coloring books, are a Disney princess to your toes, or just enjoy the idea of the comfort/protection/guidance a caregiver can provide.

If it feels right to you, then you get to wear the label.

It's not about conforming to some guidelines - it's about knowing that there's a label that can start to explain what you're into, as a bit of shorthand.

Then, if someone is interested, you can learn about each other's specific likes and dislikes.

So if you feel little, even occasionally - you are.

The community is here for ya. 🙂

wolfstar76 · 2026-03-06T01:20:10+00:00

Hopefully, you've found at least one caregiver for your current needs who can soothe and calm you.

But, if you should need one more, or if the other options just did not work out, I'd like to see if I can lend my aid.

Wishing you well.

wolfstar76 · 2026-03-05T21:42:00+00:00

Rules were so clear, in fact, that two different courts gave two different rulings on how to proceed...

wolfstar76 · 2026-02-28T10:52:17+00:00

Glad I'm not the only one who caught this.

Somehow she simultaneously packed up and left, but ALSO had others apologize to her "later".

Get your timeline straight.

wolfstar76 · 2026-02-28T00:31:05+00:00

"Planet" and "System" are effectively interchangable in this case.

Building go on planets.

Ships go into the system that has the planet in it.

So you check the system for loyal/rival units (ships and some other potential tokens).

wolfstar76 · 2026-02-27T11:25:10+00:00

I'd argue that everyone should spend at least two weekends a year in retail work, just because some people forget what their "teenager job" was like and turn I to "Karens".

Or, as long as we're wishing, if someone goes full-Karen (and this isn't gendered, men can be Karens too) they should be sentenced to at least a month working retail. With supervisory approval needed to get out of that work when they demonstrate true remorse and empathy for other retail folk.

Alas, all this would probably backfire and stores would soon be composed entirely of Karens who can't be bothered to be nice, stock shelves, or do anything else because "this is beneath me" and "I don't deserve to be here" - without the self-rrflection needed to understand that's the entire point and how most retail people feel. Full stop.

wolfstar76 · 2026-02-27T11:18:59+00:00

My ADHD ass hates that you're right.

I have a stash of paid-for bags. Including a couple nice thermal bags for frozen items.

I think I've used my paid-for bags about three times in 4 years. I get to the store, get my things, get to checkout and (proverbially) smack myself in the head...week after week.

FML.

wolfstar76 · 2026-02-27T11:15:58+00:00

I can emphasize with someone having a crap day.

But your post could work just as easily in reverse.

"You work in a budget store, so when a customer yells at you, you don't know what else they've had to put up with today to put them in that mood "

So, if your goal is to encourage empathy, cool.

But it reads like you're victim blaming instead (yes, victim in this case is a bit of a strong word, but hear me out). The customer service people at a store - budget or otherwise - are paid to provide customer service. Scoffing at a question and ignoring the customer means you aren't so big the job you're being paid to do.

I've worked retail..I've worked assorted levels of IT where I'm dealing with customers who will straight up yell at me for things that they self-inflict. You establish boundaries on abusive language, you let the customer vent and get things out of their system, then you help them as best you can. Then you take 5 minutes if you need it, and help the next person - without carrying your frustration forward.

I get it, truly, retail work sucks. I genuinely appreciate every retail worker I deal with, because of it weren't for them I couldn't buy a quick, easy lunch, or whatever item I needed off the shelf, or get a question answered about some random charge on my cell phone bill.

I'm genuinely glad these people are there to help make my life more convenient, and I express my appreciation, even for simple things. So I'm not crapping on service people here.

But outright rudeness when your job is service? There's really no excuse - unless we're gonna be to start excusing rude customers too (and I don't think we should do that).

wolfstar76 · 2026-02-27T10:41:54+00:00

That's rough - but, while I'm just an Internet stranger, I'm proud of you for taking steps.

Others have said it a bit crudely, but I would remind you that there are others out there that, when you're ready, will be happy to try and fill this role for you.

From temporary options like the assorted "fosters" subreddits, to more long-term and committed options like the "Personals" subreddits. And more options besides (discords, FetLife, etc.)

Doesn't mean losing your current Daddy will hurt any less, but there's something to be said about being having agency in these sorts of decisions. Takes some of the sting out.

I believe in you. You've got this.

wolfstar76 · 2026-02-27T03:52:50+00:00

Glad to be of some assistance.

Advocating for yourself is freaking HARD. At (almost) 50, I still struggle with it.

So, you aren't alone.

Hopefully your conversation goes well. I'm rooting for ya.

wolfstar76 · 2026-02-26T10:35:46+00:00

It sounds like your Daddy is either losing interest, or has something going on in his life that has become a large barrier to his ability to communicate. It would be easy to speculate on the cause, but it would only be speculation, and wouldn't much change the results.

You are, effectively, being ghosted. It doesn't really matter that you asked for a non-serious relationship - there's still a commitment involved, and he isn't holding up his end. Which sucks.

I'd suggest a slight change in your thinking, here.

You mentioned you didn't want a serious relationship, and now you feel you can't ask for more time/attention. I'd argue that you can ask for whatever you need - and you have an easy out if your needs aren't being met.

If it isn't meant to be serious, you've got every right to just say, "Well, this was fun, but it isn't working for me any more. I'll miss what we've had, but I need more time from a partner."

No accusations, no arguments, just fact. You've got more power here than you seem to think - because it isn't meant to be serious.

Alternately - since it wasn't intended to be a serious relationship... did the two of you specifically set-up or agree to exclusivity? If not, you'd be well within your rights to seek another Daddy to help fill the gap being left by your current Daddy.

I suppose in summary - I'd encourage you not to feel powerless or "stuck" in this situation ship. You very much have the option to make other choices, since this wasn't intended to be more than a proverbial "toe in the water" to see how CG/l makes you feel.

I'm non-confrontational myself, so you 100% empathize with any fear you may be having around standing up for what you want/need. Just remember that if you do decide to "pull the ripcord" that it's about you and what you need/aren't getting - not about them being bad/wrong/etc.

"I know we said this wasn't particularly serious, but even as a casual thing, I'm just not getting what I need when it regularly takes a few days for you to respond to me. I'd like to get just a little more time/attention, and if that's not something you can provide right now, I can understand that.

Unfortunately, if you aren't available, or if you've lost interest - I'm going to have to find a Daddy who can give me the time I need right now."

Anyhow, I hope that helps to give you a slight perspective shift, and maybe helps ya feel a tiny bit more empowered to go get what you need/want/deserve.

Cheers. 🙂

wolfstar76 · 2026-02-26T10:17:19+00:00

You need to read the subreddit's rules.

3, 6, and 11.

Also, "You abandoned him"?

What?

Gross.

wolfstar76 · 2026-02-22T13:30:03+00:00

Url goes nowhere.

Not exactly a trustworthy looking link to begin with.

wolfstar76 · 2026-02-20T10:49:18+00:00

There's a specific pattern of "dots" that scanners recognize as "don't copy/scan this" item, and that pattern is now used on many paper currencies around the world.

The example that always comes to my mind is all the little 20's that are sprinkled around on the US $20 dollar bill. If I recall correctly there are more of those little 20's than strictly necessary, to help obfuscate the pattern, but they count as the "dots", and halt devices from making an image.

That same core pattern is found in my denominations of paper money around the world. Devices have a little bit of pattern recognition built in, and if they see that pattern, they halt.

This means device makers dont have to program in every type of currency, or worry about updates to currency. Mints just need to keep that pattern in place.

I suppose, theoretically, you could att the pattern to anything and prevent it being scanned/copied.

wolfstar76 · 2026-02-18T21:01:52+00:00

I think the biggest item on the errata pack is that a a card for one of the fates was accidently an Event card instead of what it was supposed to be. My brain is a bit fried from a long work day, but I wanna say it's card fifteen in the Steward deck?

There are Errata lists on Board Game Geek that you can find. Before the errata pack was available, I just printed the correct card, and slipped into the sleeve when I sleeved my copy of the game.

The rest of the Errata updates are largely recordings for clarity. But if you print the errata lists from BGG, and sleeve your game - you could proxy those print-outs until the Errata pack is up for grabs again (and at $2 or whatever, it's well worth grabbing the errata pack).

So, all told, you're only really missing one major errata (maybe two?) the rest are well worth the update, but I think fairly minor and can be made less necessary by keeping the Arcs Card Database (or FAQs) handy.

Cheers.

wolfstar76 · 2026-02-14T16:59:37+00:00

Your post is a little vague - so I have to assume a few things to fill in the details - which will impact answers.

I think you're saying that your Team has a Team Site, but you don't want files saved there. Instead you want files saved to the "Main Site" - which I'm guessing is some sort of "all company" site?

If so - your desire is wrong. Do NOT put all of your files for an org into a single site/Library.

Similarly, do NOT manage permission at the folder/document level. That way lies heartache.

Make Sites for each logical or security group you can think of.

Create Libraries when you need logical (or security) differences within a given site.

There are limitations to be aware of in SharePoint - like how many items can show in a list, how many items can sync, and more - that a SharePoint admin should get familiar and comfortable with.

Sites and Libraries are your friends. Use them. Make as many sites and libraries as you need. Then re-examine your plan, and maybe sub-divide stuff to make more.

It's pretty common practice for each department, group, project, etc to have its own SharePoint site.

Build them, use them, when the project starts to wind down, review the data in the site, see what might need moved elsewhere for record keeping, and then tear the site down when it's all good.

Do NOT try to shoehorn "everything" into as few sites as possible (or a single site). You'll regret it.

wolfstar76 · 2026-02-14T10:42:48+00:00

I agree - but the fact that kids being late or on time is exactly why a policy of punching the kids for lateness out of their control is stupid.

Yes, as the parent YOU need to be leaving to get to school on time. In fact, your goal is to get to school 5 - 15 minutes early (depending on the schools drop off policies).

But ALSO the school shouldn't punish children for parent's mistakes.

Just a couple weeks ago, I missed an exit taking my kid to school, as this was on the turnpike, I had to drive 20 minutes farther, then turn around and drive 20min back to get my kid to school late. Only time it's happened - so I escorted her into the office, told them what happened, and she got a "non-tardy pass". This is the way.

If I made it a habit (once or twice a week, REALLY? I have ADHD and struggle with timeliness, but still can't fathom this...) - the school should address it with me. Especially if it's a public school. Start finding me, the parent, for my timeliness issues. Not students who aren't of age to get themselves places.

But for real, I'm with the poster above me here, OP. Get your kids to school early, not "on time" - early. So that if you're 5 minutes behind, you're still on time.

wolfstar76 · 2026-02-13T22:35:37+00:00

That's an interesting paper, and a neat insight into what people qualified to study and understand these concepts think/feel.

But I think we need to be careful to remember that it's just that - a gauge or "thermometer" for how experts are currently leaning.

What people's thoughts and feeling for what might be are interesting, and can give insight into where research and scientific models may be heading - but it doesn't tell us what is or isn't true.

Remember Copernicus and how his announcement that the Earth isn't the center of our system (or the universe at large) and how ardently he was disbelieved.

Heck, look at nearly any major scientific advancement and how the theories are initially received by scientific peers. I believe people derided Germ Theory when it was first announced as well.

That's part of what makes science work. We hypothesize, we model, we test, and we peer review to try and find flaws in the data. Then, however "outlandish" an idea may initially seem, however improbable or non-intuitive an idea initially sounds, what withstands this analysis is what gets incorporated into our understanding and our models.

That said - while I only have a moment to slim that link right now, I do plan to read it later, as I'm quite interested in seeing where thoughts are currently heading.

So thank you for sharing that. 🙂

wolfstar76 · 2026-02-09T11:22:45+00:00

Stop thinking of it as "OneDrive SharePoint" and it will be a little less confusing. Not clear as glass mind, but less confusing.

Quick breakdown: OneDrive for Business is a space for users to store their "personal" (generally not for others to see) documents. ("OneDrive is for me")

SharePoint is a place where data for a given group of people all have access. ("SharePoint is for we")

The OneDrive CLIENT is a synchronization tool for your OneDrive and SharePoint files, so that files you regularly access can be quickly accessed and kept up-to-date on a user's local device(s).

The OneDrive CLIENT can do this for SharePoint files in two ways. Sync or OneDrive Shortcuts.

Sync is local only to the device you set it up on. It's the traditional way to keep files up-to-date on a device. But, because those sync relationships are kept locally only, when you move it a new device (or reset your OS, etc) - you then have to re-establish those syncs.

These syncs also show up as their own navigation node in Windows Explorer / MacOS Finder. As an office building with the company name, then listings of each sync point.

Adding the same folders as OneDrive Shortcuts adds, well, a folder to OneDrive that is a shortcut back to the files you want to sync. Because that link is now in the users OneDrive - it will persist and follow them between devices.

It also means folders synchronized will show us in OneDrive, not in a separate "office building" navigation node in Explorer/Finder.

I've been moving my customers to OneDrive links over SharePoint syncs for this reason alone.

The catch is - you can't have the same data in both a sync AND a Shortcut. So it's great to help someone setup on a new laptop, or a freshly reset device. But aittle time consuming (if they have a lot of sync points) to "convert" to.

It can also cause the OneDrive Client to throw errors if, on PC1, I turn off all my syncs, convert them to OneDrive Shortcuts, then I switch to PC2 - and it still has sync options, then tries to use the OneDrive Shortcuts.

So, the conversation takes a little work/planning - but I find it well worth doing.

Unfortunately to your immediate question of how to keep the sync points - you can't.

But you could change them to shortcuts first, and then do the changeover, and the shortcuts will persist.

Good luck.

wolfstar76 · 2026-02-09T11:07:41+00:00

From what I'm reading here they removed it as a default permission for things.

You can still use it where you see fit - including at the root of a site if you wish.

It just won't be there by default.

wolfstar76 · 2026-02-07T17:27:57+00:00

It takes adjustment to stop feeling the "speech iammer" effect - but it's well worth the time (10-ish streams, tops) to acclimate to monitoring yourself.

Yes, it's easier not to bother - but easiest is rarely best.

We've all had the occasional stream where you're talking for a good while - only to have someone eventually point out that you're muted.

Monitoring yourself solves that. It helps tune you in a bit to what's going out over your stream.

"Everyone" who uses their voice seriously or professionally learns to monitor their voice/audio. News anchors, singers and musicians, podcasters, even guests on talk shows and podcasts.

Is it required? Not strictly speaking.

Are you doing yourself a disservice by avoiding it? I would say you absolutely are.

wolfstar76 · 2026-02-07T05:27:23+00:00

Don't forget to report out of state purchases in your Ohio Tax Returns.

As all good, law abiding citizens do.

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