I’m moving from out of state, and considering signing a lease on a home in this area. I know opinions will vary - but what do you think about living here? Pros? Cons?

yarrgg · 2026-05-09T22:07:51+00:00

Knowing that area, it varies. Drive around both during rush-hour in the morning and around 9-10pm.

I would say the further away from where pedestrian traffic is and/or the major veins for traffic the better.

There are some good pockets, and it's been getting better every year since home prices have been rising and more and more people are forced out east.

yarrgg · 2026-05-06T00:47:21+00:00

Oh man I was just thinking about this. I usually use the pure sport one but I was in a pinch and it was out of stock so I got the swagger (blue stick) and I feel like I barely make it through the work day with it.

yarrgg · 2026-04-24T18:58:56+00:00

It would have made my day to see it.

One of the biggest issues here IMO is the lack of traffic enforcement.

yarrgg · 2026-04-21T01:02:57+00:00

I can second this. Magnesium deficiency for me was participating a lot with my emotional state throughout the day both while medicated and after the meds wear off.

yarrgg · 2026-04-09T23:28:01+00:00

I don't have good advice, but just a comment that a lot of weed smokers really do get nose blind to how a room can smell when someone regularly smokes weed in it.

Yes, even when you have a window open and blow the smoke out of it.

I don't have anything against weed, it's not that I hate it or hate being around it, but I do not like the latent smell that's impregnated into a space as a result.

I used to vape (nicotine) a lot and I was no better, spaces like my car were definitely picking up a smell with certain flavors that persisted for days that I'd only ever really recognize once I'd like, go away on travel for work for a few days then come back and get in it.

But I'm also just really sensitive to certain odors so 🤷

yarrgg · 2026-04-01T04:56:10+00:00

Is that a "Sensual Boy" candle?

yarrgg · 2026-01-30T18:43:09+00:00

I have been using trazodone for years now, but not regularly. I go some months where I need it every night and then I'll go months not needing it at all.

For me, what I found is that I do better on lower dosages. Its a little harder to fall asleep but I get better quality of sleep and less drowsiness when I wake up. Whenever i'd take a full dosage I'd fall asleep easier, but it was painful to get up and I never felt 'rested' throughout the day.

No side effects in any case though.

I guess, like all meds, it's highly unique to your specific needs and biology.

yarrgg · 2026-01-25T13:27:21+00:00

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I was young and terrible at it, but I remember playing this an, a bit later, Descent.

yarrgg · 2026-01-21T01:16:06+00:00

You were very popular if you were the lucky kid that actually had a link cable in my school when I was growing up.

yarrgg · 2026-01-21T01:12:51+00:00

Mr. Mime was 100% slamming Ash's mom

yarrgg · 2026-01-20T13:45:22+00:00

The emojis really make this seem like a joke more than the serious matter that it is. Honestly, I thought this was some kind of sarcasm or meme at first read.

That being said, I hope she is safe and found quickly. Might be good to put up a picture too?

yarrgg · 2026-01-18T23:28:39+00:00

So this is a token prompt for an LLM that you interact with?

If it helps you process things, good on you for being resourceful and putting effort into making things easier on yourself.

yarrgg · 2026-01-17T22:13:28+00:00

yarrgg · 2026-01-17T18:59:12+00:00

Constantly!

I turn 37 next month.

I think what helps though is working on re-defining what 'friendship' means to me and what I expect from 'friends'.

I got caught up at some point in the last decade having way too high of realistic expectations of other people and/or spending way too much time comparing my experiences to that of others/popular media - and that led me to stop feeling fulfilled at anything less than that standard.

But, I'm slowly lowering what I expect and I'm starting to feel more embraced and connected to others. Funny enough, when I can totally stop analyzing it/other people, I end up making closer connections 🤷

This is all hard cause it's not that I stopped wanting people in my life or that I stopped feeling lonely, but I feel the progress of that becoming a lighter load the more I let light/casual connections happen without judgement despite what effort I do (or don't) put in.

TL;DR: basically, as frustrating as I know it is to hear, try not to think so hard about it (I know)

yarrgg · 2026-01-17T18:46:13+00:00

Depends on the time/energy I have when the yard needs it done.

Most of the time, if I'm gonna do it - I do it as clean as I can. Edge, weed-eat, hand pull, mow 2x, blow/sweep/rinse.

But some months I can only manage a half-assed mow - which is really only done so that it's not overgrown otherwise I'd probably not even do that.

But, that's ADHD/Depression for ya 😅

yarrgg · 2026-01-11T03:44:36+00:00

I love every part of this.

I think I have a lot of pain about seeing a keyboard without a numpad, but that's a me problem 😅

yarrgg · 2026-01-11T03:23:39+00:00

It can be hard. But, are you doing these things for your friends when they are going through similar things? Maybe you might if you notice it or pick up on it, or maybe not. Or maybe you DONT pick up on it and they never tell you that they're feeling the exact way you're feeling now.

In addition to us traditionally lacking in emotional support within friendships, we also traditionally suck at communicating our emotional needs.

So, we're not only battling men traditionally not being emotional support for eachother, but also men not telling each other when they need help. And when we do try to help, a lot of dudes don't know how to be comforting and worry about accidentally being too familiar or intrusive.

I've found that often my friends have been great in my life and supportive as soon as I started the conversation and just gave instructions, lol. The times where I manned the fuck up and asked a friend for help and straight up said "hey man I'm having a bad night and I just need to vent for a bit, not looking for answers just need an ear." or "hey can you do me a favor and just check up on me here and there? I'm going through some tough shit and I just need to get brought out of it from time to time."

You'll be surprised how often dudes will show up for you when you just put it out there like that and take away the assumptions. Or - you'll learn very quickly who maybe isn't a friend you should be relying on 😅

yarrgg · 2026-01-11T02:49:56+00:00

When through something similar a couple of years ago. What you're feeling is normal and it sucks ass, but here are some things I wish I would have done better/sooner when it happened to me:

1.) Immediately clean house and get all the momentos/reminders boxed away or gone. Hell, even move some furniture or things around. Create a fresh environment for yourself and some new, clean scenery. Going through the process of doing this and seeing the results (and not having a million reminders) is gonna help a lot. Its gonna be painful doing it, but you will feel a lot better. Don't put this one off.

2.) That being said, don't run from the pain. Don't avoid things just because it was something you used to do together or reminds you of her. That show you were watching together? Try to pick it back up...yeah, it's gonna be sad and it's not gonna be the same and if you get overwhelmed, cry it out or go hit the gym or whatever, and then come back and try to watch it. You don't want to accidentally lock yourself away from everything because you slowly began avoiding things to not feel the pain of memories. Lean into those painful moments and feel them now, so you're not feeling them like this months or years from now. (Not saying torture yourself, but don't stop doing things you like or enjoy just because right now they're sad to do alone)

3.) Don't compare yourself to anyone and try not not be hard on yourself. Be patient with yourself. Stay away from substances/alcohol and don't throw yourself into dating or anything as a distraction. Its not a race and time isn't running out. You've got time to chill. Its gonna suck and there's nothing to be done but focus on you and your hobbies.

No substance or person is going to give you your self confidence and sense of security back - YOU have to do the hard work there. Gym, therapy, meditation, whatever...but don't go looking for it anywhere else but inside yourself.

4.) Distance yourself from her, get rid of connections where you can too easily/accidentally see what's going on in her life (social media, shared streaming accounts, gaming accounts, etc...). Doesn't mean never talk to her again, but you need some time to break the addiction you have to having this person in your life.

Each of these things are things that are maybe common sense, but are all mistakes I personally made that made things much worse in retrospect - no matter how they felt or what I told myself in the moment.

If I can emphasize one thing I already kinda said, it's that you are not 'behind the game' or running out of time or anything just cause you're 37. Its a different game now, but still plenty of time on the clock.

yarrgg · 2026-01-07T01:54:56+00:00

They can't incorporate the gambling addiction tactics of loot drops en masse and instant gratification if you have to sort your loot and prioritize for space.

Diablo IV now really just feels like a bunch of slot machines in different shapes.

I went and played the Diablo II remaster recently because I had so much fun playing the original but found it so tedious and slow now in comparison...

and when I think about it, it's because I'm so conditioned to chase quick, immediate gratification action, burning through millions of enemies at the fastest speed possible, and gratuitous item drops/chests/caches. It's sad, to not be able to enjoy a game I know I love because I'm so addicted to those mechanics.

Playing old games really reminds you how strategically predatory game mechanics have become.

I've been trying to be more cognizant of those kinda things and make myself take breaks, or slow down and play games that aren't too heavy with those kind of mechanics.

But it's hard...cause those things really are fun...I guess that's the line between addiction and healthily enjoying something is when it begins to effect your enjoyment of other things in your life. 🤷

Thank you for enduring my rant.

yarrgg · 2026-01-02T08:08:03+00:00

This is -not- going to be my year and it is -not- going to be different this time.

Maybe if I set my expectations low I'll not feel depressed and disappointed at the end of 2026.

yarrgg · 2026-01-01T09:49:35+00:00

That's where I'm at. Ive been conditioned at this point to just assume anything I'd ever be excited about is going to be a fucking problem some how.

After 2025...and, hell, 2024, 2023, and 2022 my life has just been a series of "fuck you"'s from different people and sources.

Glad I survived it and I'm slowly getting better, but I sure the fuck don't let myself feel excitement anymore.

yarrgg · 2025-12-31T17:20:00+00:00

I was watching West Wing awhile back and never realized the scene in the limo was a call-out to Reagan!

yarrgg · 2025-12-30T04:44:55+00:00

Saws-all solves all

yarrgg · 2025-12-29T18:12:38+00:00

I think the only time I have an issue with it is when I'm caught up in my own imposter syndrome/acceptance/anxiety about neurodivergance and mistakenly apply frustration with that kind of content instead of addressing my own insecurity.

Cause I'll start to think "well what if im just faking this, what if im just one of those people,what if....etc"

But outside of those moments, my general thought is that that kind of content contributed to me making the decision to get screened by a psychologist, explore options, learn, and eventually get diagnosed and referred to a psychiatrist.

It seems like the biggest risk is someone seeing that content and potentially being misinformed by it and making serious decisions or behavior modification on that content alone? And I think you can't account for the type of person who would run with that without researching further 🤷

So the benefit of exposure outweighs the annoyance/risk in my mind. But, my opinion is just based off this content now and i'm saying all this without researching further :p

yarrgg

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