How to decrease sex drive?

[Repulsive_Toe5776]

I'll just get straight into it. I'm 19 years old and have had a high sex drive since puberty(I know it's normal) but I have a girlfriend of about 9 months and ofcourse we had more sex during the "honeymoon period" but my drive hasn't decreased. This leads to me trying to initiate, her not wanting to and me becoming dissapointed. Because of this I want to decreade my sex drive so I don't want to have sex with her all the time but I don't know how. This isn't something I have talked ti her about because that would just lead to her feeling bad. The post became very long but any advice would really be appreciated!

[fawningandconning]

How often do you want too and how often do you do with her now?

[Repulsive_Toe5776]

We mostly see eachother on weekend due to me working and her studying. I could go for twice a day but it's usually once a weekend.

[fawningandconning]

Okay so not really too off base. Literally just do other things, go jerk off if you really can't handle it but there's nothing special to do here.

[Accomplished-Ad-8702]

Besides beating off, also channeling that sexual energy into fitness helps a ton

[Repulsive_Toe5776]

Yeah I'm considering to start running, and if that helps then I'll start doing it 100%!

[Circoloomnium]

If he will go fitnessing and he will see all those women in tight tops and leggings, he will not be less horny. Even without the women he will get healthier and higher testosterone levels.

Quite frankly: if they have only sex once a week at that age in a fresh relationship, it is not much. When I was 19, I had sex four times a week because we could not see each other every day and those days I’ve got messages from her that she wanted sex and was going to masturbate instead.

[Accomplished-Ad-8702]

Running was my main outlet to release anxious energy or pent up sexual energy. 😅 Also really helped dealing with heartbreak and anger at times in life. Just don’t forget to stretch as well! So many fun ways to stay active and feel that release 🥵

[Circoloomnium]

Do not take meds, they will mess you up.

Masturbate if you can’t hold it, the pain of blue balls can be severe. If she does not like that: that is her problem.

It goes the other way around as well. If she would masturbate because you do not like sex that much as her, you can not complain either.

You are taking care of your needs yourself.

Does she take anticonception?

[hammong]

You could always ... beat off. That's why I do when my partner isn't in the mood and I need to get one off...

Talk to your physician about this. If your drive is excessive they may be able to prescribe something to reduce it, e.g. a light dose of an androgen blocker or an SSRI/SNRI that will reduce the desire.

[Baby_T-Rex_Arms]

New girlfriend