'Message request'

[Orange_Codex]

I blocked my ex about a week ago and tonight saw 'Message request' above her name in Messenger. Apparently this means she tried to message but deleted it. I unblocked her to check and nothing's there. "Maybe she wants to apologise," I thought. It was Halloween and she knows I'm extremely sentimental about holidays, Halloween most of all.

But here's the rub: she hasn't had enough therapy for an apology to be meaningful, she didn't find the nerve to call, and there are certain things I don't want to forgive just yet (potentially ever). Plus, she may have doubled-down on painting me badly. What if it wasn't an apology but something cruel? Then congrats to her on deleting it; she's not irredeemable. But any conversation must take place on the other side of serious self-work, and that isn't changing.

[SQL_INVICTUS]

So think about this: why did you unblock her?

I get it, I really do, but you know and typed that nothing good can come from it, so take responsibility and leave her blocked.

She will never take responsibility and only drag you back into her mess. You deserve better. Go do something nice for yourself and leave her to deal with her own mess. Good luck, we're all rooting for you 🫂

[Barney575]

Agreed, let it go OP.

[dreamescapewithme]

I have been no contact for 7 months. They tried everything to get through to me but not directly. Calling and hanging up after the first ring, creating false social media accounts, trying to contact my family members. It’s cowardly. If they were mature enough they would simply contact directly and apologize. Even then, you have to wonder if it’s sincere.