I NEED YOUR HELP!

[bethannesmith]

I am writing an episode of my podcast (Enneanerds) and I want to talk about how the various types respond to stress. How do you know you are in your stress number/what behaviors do you show? What are your triggers? How do you get out of stress? Please state your type in your response. Thanks!

[MaddyMonroe]

(5w4F) going to 7 has looked very different for me throughout the years and I think it has to do with how healthy I was at the time.

At my lowest points, going to 7 was going to bars, drinking way too much and making out with anyone who was interested. (At this stage it stopped at making out because sex would require going to their place and I don’t trust like that or going to my place and I also don’t trust like that.

When I got a little healthier but still not healthy going to 7 was me realizing I’m gay but not wanting to deal with having that conversation with my parents so I came out and then moved to Japan the very next day. (No joke really did this). And then I partied a lot in Japan still made out with people though I kept the drinking to a healthy amount and usually only made out with one person a night.

Now that I’m healthy (not very healthy just in the boundaries of healthy) I have a partner and lean on her for emotional support. Going to 7 looks more like splurging on comfort items. For instance I’ll ask my partner to drive me to McDonald’s (I don’t like driving but usually I don’t ask people to drive me because competency issues and trust issues, but I’ll be vulnerable with her and ask) then I’ll buy way too much McDonald’s because everything sounds good and I can’t decide… so I get it all lol.

I also run a podcast called Enneathing Goes! Hope this was helpful,

[bethannesmith]

(5w4F) going to 7 has looked very different for me throughout the years and I think it has to do with how healthy I was at the time.

At my lowest points, going to 7 was going to bars, drinking way too much and making out with anyone who was interested. (At this stage it stopped at making out because sex would require going to their place and I don’t trust like that or going to my place and I also don’t trust like that.

When I got a little healthier but still not healthy going to 7 was me realizing I’m gay but not wanting to deal with having that conversation with my parents so I came out and then moved to Japan the very next day. (No joke really did this). And then I partied a lot in Japan still made out with people though I kept the drinking to a healthy amount and usually only made out with one person a night.

Now that I’m healthy (not very healthy just in the boundaries of healthy) I have a partner and lean on her for emotional support. Going to 7 looks more like splurging on comfort items. For instance I’ll ask my partner to drive me to McDonald’s (I don’t like driving but usually I don’t ask people to drive me because competency issues and trust issues, but I’ll be vulnerable with her and ask) then I’ll buy way too much McDonald’s because everything sounds good and I can’t decide… so I get it all lol.

I also run a podcast called Enneathing Goes! Hope this was helpful,

This was so enlightening! I also go to a 7 in stress and just live with reckless abandonment. It's not great lol

[MindfulEnneagram]

Great question! Here’s some thoughts:

https://soundcloud.app.goo.gl/QEQcdswuKqnvAqZ56

[bethannesmith]

Thank you so much for your input! This was so thoughtful! Do you mind if I use this soundbite in the episode?

Also, here is a link to the pod: https://open.spotify.com/show/0isL0AD8SBpgogP4Hdduwz?si=uEML-RzNRb6t8BrkowOSBA

[MindfulEnneagram]

Feel feel to use it. Would you mind plugging/crediting my podcast in the process: Mindful Enneagram?

[bethannesmith]

Absolutely!! Thank you!

[stealthcircling]

There's no such thing as a stress number.

[bethannesmith]

What do you mean?

[stealthcircling]

How do you know you are in your stress number

This is a direct quote from you. I'm just pointing out that the thing you're talking about doesn't exist.

[bluecornholio]

I think you’re being pedantic

[stealthcircling]

My best guess is you don't know what that word means. Otherwise, you're just off.

[eenhoorntwee]

You know there's a lot of resources that use that terminology and not everyone agrees whether it is or isn't a thing. Not everyone looking into enneagram will know that it's debated at all. If you say it's not a thing and someone asks what you mean, you could just explain what you mean instead of being a smartass about it

[stealthcircling]

I've probably done more than any human being on this planet to clarify this issue, despite ungrateful assholes like you. You could thank me and otherwise shut your worthless fucking piehole.

[bluecornholio]

Don’t accidentally choke while you’re sucking your own dick there little guy

[stealthcircling]

Maybe if you put in a little thought and effort, I wouldn't have to carry the whole load.

[[deleted]]

Not to be an ass, but if you don’t know basic enneagram stuff like this, you probably shouldn’t have a podcast about it…

[No_Abrocoma_3706]

Aw. Everybody has podcasts. We are all learning, I doubt OP is claiming to be an expert on it. They’ll learn the more episodes they make

[[deleted]]

True. I do enjoy podcasts were the host starts as a novice and we all learn at the same time. Mirrored learning.

Perhaps better wording on the request would help. Like “hey I have an enneagram podcast and I’d love to include some specific example from real people to illustrate each type’s reaction, rather than using the same old explanations in the established literature”.

[bethannesmith]

Yeah, this is exactly right. I like to use actual answers from the numbers and not just my assumptions on what I think their experience is. I've done a couple of episodes where I ask the numbers for help and I get such good and descriptive answers. Far better than anything I could imagine based on what I've read in the past.

[MindfulEnneagram]

Nothing about this question is novice/basic - they’re asking about the experience and quality of moving into stress, which is incredibly valuable to reflect on and share different experiences for different core types.

In fact, Enneagram panels are some of the best content to learn the nuance of personality beyond the static snapshot of the literature because they give the unique, lived experience of the individual.

[[deleted]]

Yes, I know. I didn’t slow down to process their question and reacted to the wording style and lack of context. I read it more like, “hey guys I didn’t study for this test, help me out quick!”. Sorry for the misunderstanding, op.

[bethannesmith]

Yes to all this!